Money matter is the number one relationship killer

Money is a very difficult thing to manage, I can believe that it'd be a big chunk of the reasons why people get divorced. My husband and I worry about money all the time but we have no fear of getting divorced because we both believe that it's not our money but God's, and deep down we also know that no matter what we have each other, and as long as we can scrape by that's all that really matters.

Its sad. So many gold diggers in the world. If money ruins your relationship, then you were never in love. If you really love someone you will be with them no matter what. For rich or for poor, in sickness, and in health.

Money becomes important when the needs start growing day by day and then to fulfill them the struggle begin to keep the paste. I am a law student and when I see clients in the office everyday seeking divorce it stuns me as their source of seeking divorce is money, either the other one is not fulfilling the needs or that they have found someone else more rich so this is absurds because money should never be between two people. They should be more understanding toward life to understand that though.

Well, when I look around, I see nearly everybody running behind money. In that case, money is a big contender for being classified as one of the main reasons of breaking relationships. Well, I don`t know much about the western culture, coz, in India, relationships have very high values, especially, the marriage is considered to be something that can never be broken. But, in what you just said, even in a western scenario, the high percentage interference of money seems unrealistic. As husband-wife relationship is something of mutual understanding and it is generally the case that both husband and wife consider each one`s property as the other`s, the other factors like lack of mutual understanding seem to play a bigger part. However, the question of debate can be the percentage involved, but, there is no question in accepting that money plays a big role in breaking relationships in current scenario, even the marriages.

Hello iwrite, that's why am not having a relationship because it will and will always involved money. not just in the united states, even in this country, you don't have money, you're screwed. besides, why would i spent so much on some one who will practically leave me some day after she has sucked me(financially) dry. i got my own future and i will share it with some one who don't sucked my dry

well, i have a different opinion. If i may, i don't see money as something that can get in the way once both of you thinks "maturely," at least in my case. It's really how you live together knowing that you have different opinions and beliefs..not the money. Because money can always be earned back, maybe that's why i think that way. I mean, money is different than trust, belief, love, and all the other intangible things in a relationship. Money is just something that people make an excuse of in how they fight in their relationships. Maybe it's more on pride and the love for money, but not the money itself.

i was not, because it is a basic need, i firmly believe in basic things, if you don't acquire happiness and peace on your basic needs then you will be having trouble finding in the higher needs of life such as as happy person, happy couple. when you don't feel secure with money then peace of mind is scarce. but of course some couple survive it if at first their relationship is base on love and understanding. but arguments is inevitable, money matters, it makes the world go round and round, it also makes a happy family fulfill satisfaction.

Well, I am not surprised at all. Money matter can not only hurt relationship.. it can also hurt kinship. If you read the newspaper carefully, now and then you will read news about siblings fighting over parent's inheritance. Being too rich can indeed cause some problems. But then again, I don't mind being too rich.

financial burdens induce stress highly.. and stress causing tension and fighting. and usually.. the couple isnt fighting directly over the money itself.. but other things beacuse theyre stressed out so much over the money. so yeah.. it isnt surprising, sadly

I think people’s attitude towards money may be a reflection of how they handle the rest of their lives and if two individuals don’t see eye to eye in regards to finances it can be very stressful especially when it is tough to make ends meet. I can see how it can cause many related problems in a relationship so I don’t find those statistics really surprising.

I support you on this. Money has the power to distroy any relationship, especially friendship. I have seen how this works with some of my friends. It is always good not to borrow or lend money between friends. I hate to borrow money from anybody. Even if I borrow, I always keep a reminder and give back the money on the very next moment. I don't like it whe people borrow money from me.

I do think that money is a huge issue where relationships are concerned. Not so much because of the material things that it buys or doesn't buy, but the amount of stress that money can cause. Not having the money to pay the bills or buy groceries can put a huge strain on a family and stress can cause other issues that can be problematic in a relationship.

I saw Oprah and the expert (whose name I have forgotten) featured says, 'Yes money is the number one cause of relationship problems'

Aww.If a partner's relationship is that strong, money should never matter.

I can believe that. Money problems can put a big stress on a relationship. All you have to do is look around.

Not in my case... Poor communication and possibly just being wrong for each other...

i think that could be true in US as per survey but other country or places doesn't buy that. its mostly attitude towards life charrrrrrrrrrrrr.

Maybe what the audio book was saying was money is one of the problems in a relationship but it's not the main problem. I think there are a lot of problems when you settle down and money is one of them but i doubt it could be the main reason.

Hi iwrite: That's sad but unfortunetly truth. Some families got divorce because there's no money on the house and they don't feel able to face this problem so they decide to stop being a couple. I think it's a selfish decition at some point. In my country people says that "When money leaves the house love disappears even quicker". Your book sounds interesting and as the title says, if the couple is smart they would find a way to solve their problem. Thanks for starting this discussion. ALVARO

Materialistic characters are overshadowing human values, my friend. USA is more of a silly country where divorces happen like how a kid eats a candy. It is of no surprise that every American out of 14 is divorced.