I Am So Disappointed With My Dog

Sorry to hear you are having problems with your dog. I think its strange that somebody wants to barrow a dog. Ive never heard of that before. I think understanding the dog will help a lot in you handeling her behavior problems. Seems like she chews the shoes of the people who are upseting her. Ive been having a problem with one of my cats not wanting to use the same box. At first i thought it was because the other two domanate her. Now im thinking she just didnt like the flap that coveres the litter box door. I removed the flap and i see she has been going inside the litter box. No wet spots or poop so far. Hopefully that was it. Who knows its not like they can tell us what their problems are. We have to become mind readers and try to understand them. I do know that our pets like to please us. Also sometimes we have to do things differently. Example: I used to keep my trash can in my bedroom on a shelf on the wall because one of my cats would eat holes in the plastic bags i lined the can with. I have to keep the trash can in the bathroom under the sink. You may have to keep your shoes out of her reach for awhile too. If she can not learn not to chew them. I actually had a tom cat that chewed a pair of my flipflops before. Strange thing i thought for a cat would do. But i believe its easier to train dog.

I'm sorry to say, this dog is not for you. You have abused him, neglected him and he knows you don't like him. He is so confused with your behaviour. You expect way too much when this little one needs a LOT OF TIME LOVE AND PATIENCE and you just don't have what it takes for this dog. You are too busy and too self involved. You keep talking ABOUT HOW MUCH HE HAS COST YOU...I wish I had the money to send you so that you will give him to someone who is prepared to give him the time and attention he really needs. Where were you when he chewed your shoes? You were too busy elsewhere. Why were they not put away out of his reach? Because you don't really want to see this dog behaving well. IT'S A DOG!! It needs to be trained but first you have to undo all the bad things it has learned...you are simply not prepared to do that are you? I have a pup I have rescued who is fearful. She will not go on a leash. When I try, she crouches lower to the floor. Before I get her on a lead I have to get her to come to me...these things don't happen overnight or even in a few days. You expect too much from this little fellow and it will never happen for you. You make me quite ill the way you say you are so disappointed in him. He has been abused and he is terrified and you are doing all you can to make sure that's how his life continues. Shame on you.

I have 3 dogs, and the oldest is a very picky eater. She only likes a certain type of dog food. You can try to get her to eat by either adding soft with the dry, or beef or chicken broth to it. I wonder if the previous owner used to beat her which will make a dog fearful and act up. Which is why spanking is actually the wrong thing to do, all that does is scare the dog and she will only do more bad things. A dog doesn't know what they are being punished for if they are not caught directly in the act, just like with a child. I read somewhere that some dogs chew a lot because they are bored. Since she hates to go for walks, it's really hard for her to get rid of that built up energy. Maybe try treats and a leash that will let her move freely. Start out small and slowly work up to your taking a really good walk. If you have a fenced in back yard, maybe 30 minutes a day will do her good. If not, get a tennis ball and try to get her to play. I hope what I said helps. Good Luck.

What you did when you spanked her was establish yourself as alpha dog. It sounds like the people who had her before treated her more like a baby than a dog. (I have a dog that was treated like a baby, right to the point that the woman would sing the dog to sleep! I had a heck of a time getting the dog under control and getting her to mind me. I think the turning point was the pork chop. I was given three beautiful thick yummy barbqued pork chops by the neighbor. I had eaten two of the three and came home from class on the third night tired and very hungry, dreaming of that pork chop. Well I got home, got the chop out to eat it and that darned dog stole it. I was furious!!! I chased the dog down, got the pork chop back and thumped her on the head with it. I haven't seen such a surprised look on a dog in a long time. After she got thumped with the pork chop things really changed and she now recognizes me as pack leader and alpha dog. She minds beautifully now. I read your previous post about the problems with the dog eating dog food. One thing about a dog, they will go hungry for awhile but sooner or later they will give in and eat what you put down for them. I went through that with the "pork chop" dog. I was informed that she would only eat certain types of dog food, only would eat certain dog treats and expected to sleep on the couch. I bought my regular dog food and she turned up her nose at it for a few days, but she finally relented and started eating what she was served. Do you have a dog crate? Or a room that you can put the dog in for time outs? Especially when you have the problem with destruction. (By the way, when the dog chews the shoes, give it a few light thumps on the head with the shoe and state "NO" in a loud voice. I have done that with a few dogs I have owned. I normally wouldn't hit a dog, but with something as expensive as shoes I let go and give them a few thumps. Socializing will take more time. Until you have her to the point that she understands that you are her leader and that she can trust you, she won't be ready to be around other people. Dragging her won't do any good. Walks should be fun for both you and the dog...take it a little at a time, try walking her in the house and letting her wear the leash around the house. Then take the dog outside but don't take her too far (part of the problem could be that she is terrified that she is going to be bounced to another home.) There is a website that might help you out, it is called Ceaser's way. The following is NOT a link. The site is www.cesarsway.com . He is a very popular dog behaviorist and going to his site and checking out the tips.

First, you need to get the trust of your dog and at the moment, you do not have it. Her last owner showed no leadership whatsoever and the dog thought it was forced to be pack leader. It needs to be shown patience more than anything on your part. Anger and beatings make it more fearful. It may behave for a short while, but eventually, it will grow more aggressive. If you truly want to help your dog, buy Cesar Milan's book on training. He really can gain a dog's trust and have it behave in a good way very quickly, but he has infinite patience and perseverance should the dog require it. I could give you an outline of what he does, but it's really better if you read the whole book or at least the portions about aggressive/fearful dogs. He approaches dogs using his bare hands - I DO NOT recommend that for someone without his experience. Even he sometimes puts an object such as a tennis racket between him and a truly aggressive animal. He would not hit the animal with the racket, but simply prevent it from hurting him before he can calm it down. That is the primary tool in his method - being calm, helping the dog to become calm. But Cesar always walks into any situation as though he owns it, thus being an assertive personality - not aggressive. That's what a dog wants - someone who can be a real leader. Otherwise, the dog thinks it is forced into the job. Patience for a few minutes does nothing. You have to be willing to remain calm and patient as long as it's required for the dog to submit to your leadership. If you do not have the time or if you cannot contain your temper, please see if you can find someone who will do both. It's better for you and the dog.

I don't know you and I have never met your dog but I will tell you that most people have ridiculous expectations of their pets. Your dog is a child that will never grow up. Spanking the dog is not the way to train it. If someone hit you every time you did something they thought was wrong what would you do? How long do you think you would take it? Take the dog someplace reliable (Like the humance society) and let them train YOU on how to build a better relationship with your dog.

maybe this dog of yours have been abused before that is why she wants your attention. When dog wants your attention dogs wants assurance that you love them, of course you will be angry because of what he or she done but you need to make them known that the pieces they destructed is really important. Spanking dog is a NO NO. They will fear you and they will never be close to you. You have to alot a time for your dog. She needs you because she think that you are her master. You need to be there for this dog also. I know you are disappointed by her act, if you just alot time with her like walking in the street, she will change. or try talking to her so that she will feel she is important no matter what. I have two dogs, one is kind and what have an attitude, really bad attitude. Until now we are facing problems about his manner but we try to let him feel that he is still welcome at home. I feel that this dog of mine is a jealous by my other dog. I give my attention to him so that he will not assume that we love the other dog more than him. Dogs have feelings, and the more we value them is the more they value us.

Dogs have different characters and mine are no difference. I have 4 indoor dogs and each of them has different characters. I have taught them few basic doggy lessons and they absorbed the lessons fairly well. I can say they are smart dogs. Everyday I will bring them out for a walk if the weather permits. And they know the exact time for their walks. When I am busy surfing the net and couldn't make their evening walks, they will come to my seat and start jumping up and down, pulling my dress and making a lot of noises as if telling me time to go out and to stop surfing the net. They won't stop their actions until I leave my chair. Once outside they will quickly look for their comfort zone to relieve themselves. They have stopped biting my shoes or the others shoes when I caught them once and took the shoes and hit them on the mouth while saying 'NO' sternly. From then on they will only play with their toys or anything minus personal belongings.

getsome2 said it best, You need to instill trust in your dog. Once that is done she will start to see that you are just trying to help her to grow and be a dog not just a puppy. Right now you are her mommy and the one to teach her to be a dog so take your time and get it right. Chewy is 14 now but was 5 months old when my wife got him from the animal shelter. He has never given her a bit of trouble. And he took to me right away when we got married. He sleeps on the floor beside of the bed and cries when we leave him, guess he still remembers the shelter. work with her and give her a lot of love even if it is tough love. She will want to get special attention, but don't give in unless it is her time.

It sounds as if maybe the dog had been neglected by it's previous owner, or worse spoiled to the point that the dog always needs attention now. I don't think spaning a dog is good as we don't rightly know that they see it as what we do, which is behavior control. I've heard somewhere that if you look at the dog and point your finger at it, saying no sternly after it's done something, that can help. Hope you can figure out why the dog's behaving like this.

based on what you said I think you shouldn't have any dog. It is not enough to love dogs to own one... If you think dog chewed your shoes because you didn't leave her to join you in the room with aunt, well it says much about...

Are there any places near where you live that offer obedience training? I think that would probably go a long way to getting her to behave in a way that you would like to see your dog behave. I have a dog that likes to chew on things and I would take her to obedience school but she is an old dog and I don't want to have to submit her to that in her years as a senior citizen. Though I've never taken a dog through obedience training, I know a lot of people that have and it has worked wonders for their pets.

Reminds me of what my dog used to be. We rescued her from the animal shelter. She was going to be put down in 2 days. She was about 10 months old and everyone pretty much just wants the puppies, not the older dogs. Anyway, she was old enough to be quite a handful. You usually want to start training very young. Well we got her home and found out that she was not house trained (she peed everywhere!) and that she loved to tear things up. She was fearful of strange things (like a guitar sitting on the shelf) and she was super hyper. She tore up socks, underwear, and so on. She also ran away a lot, usually chasing a cat or something. She was so much trouble that I often cried and worried that I'd have to take her back to the pound. I thought she had some mental condition because she was so crazy. I wanted to call The Dog Whisperer, lol. It took A LOT of patience, a lot of training, and a lot of consistency to get her where she is now. It's been over a year and she's now a very happy and fairly well trained dog. We still have our set backs. We tried crate training her at first. That worked with the potty problem and kept her from tearing things up when we were gone or when we were sleeping. But I didn't want her stuck in a crate all the time so I worked with her every day. She's eager to please and make us happy she just had to learn the things we DON'T want her to do. Consistency is key. Correct the bad behaviors as they are happening. I know it takes a lot of time you probably don't have. I didn't either. I also never punished her when she did something wrong as it was my fault for not watching her, not teaching her and so on. She just didn't know right from wrong. Today I can leave her alone in my house for hours without worry. The only things she tear up are her toys and we don't have accidents in the house. I'm so happy I didn't give her back. It takes time. But you have to try not to get frustrated. The dog picks up on it and they get frustrated and confused too! I wish you luck.

your dog was used to inside your house then suddenly you wouldn't allow her inside, that maybe infuriated her and by destroying your things, she would deliver the message that she is not happy with what you do.. Buy her chew toys and play with her. That's what dog needs, human affection..

hopefully she will get out of this chewing stuff that doesnt belong to her by the time she stops being a puppy. my black lab chewed up a DVD from blockbusters once when i first got him yrs ago. i freaked as knew id have to pay for it and before i knew how to handle my temper with dogs (he was my first dog) i took the dvd case and whacked him cross the nose a couple times. after that he never chewed any of things that wasnt a toy or chew bone.

HellO Candy!! That must be very frustrating on your part. Don't you worry I know that you would find a very reasonable way how to handle this thing. do you have animal shelter? You can just like sell your doggie and buy a new one but that would be pretty impossible because your also attach to him/her. Annoyed and loving at the same time is surely devastating.

You just have to let her know that you're angry of what she's been doing, that it's a bad thing what she's doing lately. I'm really sorry with her behavior; maybe it would help if you take her to a trainer or people who are professional dog handlers. Yes you are doing right,imposing a discipline, I think is good.

You needs to be a little patient and authoritative to that dog, since you only adapted her. It will take some time before she can be comfortable to you. I've adopted lots of dogs before, boy and girl with different attitude. If the dog stay with you for like 1 year, his/her attitude will change too. Since she's now afraid of you, continue that but lessen the spanking. What is the breed of your dog? If you can't stand it you can give her away to someone you think can take care of her better.

than why u love your dog so much ..keep him away from your properties .. ;)

I just read you're text and i honesty agree with you. Dogs are hard to care, but they sure give us the change. The dog is like you're best friend you can talk to him, hug him and even tell him you're hugest secrest. And his allways there to listen you!!