What has happened with our kids????
By chulce
@chulce (1537)
United States
May 17, 2010 9:37pm CST
Okay, I am the mother of 3 teen age sons. Over the years, I have noticed a huge change in the way our teenagers act compared to those of a few years ago or even those closer to our age.
Is it me or do kids today really think they deserve everything and shouldn't work for anything? Have we really bent over and given our children so much that they feel that they can continue to walk all over us and we just take it and keep on giving.
Well, I have made a decision, this parent is going to strike back. My children really need to learn the meaning of the word NO and they need to understand that they have to work for certain things, this including the option to stay out late on a school night, they will also learn that money doesn't grow on trees.
In many aspects I feel that we aren't allowed to be parents any more. Our societies have basically taken over parenting for us, in many aspects we aren't allowed to punish our children. Many kids have found that on a whim, when they don't get their way, they can simply start telling people they are being abused making a lot of people believe them.
What has our world come to? Do you see this going on in your society as well?
I think each of us that are parents really need to get back to basics and be the parents we need to be. Show our children how they can respect themselves as well as those around them. Maybe even show respect to their elders once again.
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5 responses
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
18 May 10
Is it me or do kids today really think they deserve everything and shouldn't work for anything
Yea some if not many really are like that but IMO its all in how they are raised ya know...I have two teens myself and yes they bug for stuff but they know they arent getting something for nothing...(well except for birthdays and Xmas etc obviously)...if they want something they have to earn it or borrow the money then work it off....
@chulce (1537)
• United States
18 May 10
I feel the same way. It as if they feel they shouldn't have to do anything that we should just continue to give them what ever they want.
I am constantly arguing with my sons trying to get them to understand. Hey, if you want that $150 item, work for it, go out mow some lawns, get a part time job on the weekends. Do some chores for us and we will happily pay you for work completed.
They have just grown so materialistic of late. It is so horrible.
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@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
18 May 10
Hi Raven lady and chulce: I think that maybe they're more materialistic today because they are too much exposed to the media that teach them these kind of attitudes so they want to do everything that they wish without even deserving it. I think that parents work is harder today. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day.
ALVARO
@karen1969 (1779)
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18 May 10
That's a great lesson to learn - earn your money. My 14 year old was out mowing and weeding our garden for 4 hours the other day and we gave her £3 and she was very happy with that and was really proud of the garden looking so neat and tidy.
@maxyl12 (236)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Well, I was once a teenager. I remember my parent is so not strict to me. I even go home late at night. But am so happy, even though am going home late, they still left me for dinner. We seldom talks as parent children relationships. I know life, thats not easy. So I study really good. I am lucky since my sisters abroad send me financial needs in study, but I am not taking it for granted. I want to show the money they send me was in good used and not wasted. I even learn to make business since I always have the capital. My mom so shocked that I can even affort my first motorcycle, imagine that am just 15 years old. I said I need that for my travel from school and not to mention my peanut delivery which is my sideline business. Well maybe they don't even bother in what I do. They just support me in the things i do.
can it be still respect for my parents?
@chulce (1537)
• United States
18 May 10
It is amazing to see from generation to generation here, on mylot, just how different everyone views this subject, yet, in some aspects it is still the same.
If you are only 15, wow, you are doing a lot. Actually, it is a good idea to be sure that you do respect your parents, offer to help out when you can.
There are many ways of showing respect to your parents. Not only through the words you use but also through the actions you take.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
18 May 10
Hi chulce: I think that our society has gone too far in this subject. It's good that the people care for the children but the parents must educate the boys or they would have no sense of authority, that's the point. In my opinion parents must show their authority in a way to teach their children. Punishment doesn't mean violence and in some cases is just necessary. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day.
ALVARO
@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
18 May 10
I know what you mean. I am not a parent or even married but I have noticed this moral decline in today's children. I am not old either just 28 but when I was that age I was really mindful of what not to do and what to do. My parents have instilled in me a very strong sense of respect something that I do not see often today. When my parents have visitors over we were never allowed to be mingling with the visitors unless told to and it was criminal offense when we butt in during adult conversations. I also had to be home at 6 pm until I was in high school and I have to ask permission every time I have to go somewhere and if I should go or not is up to my parents. When my parents were sleeping I have to tiptoe or be careful never to make loud noises like a loud stereo. People of today may think this is strict but then I now appreciate what my parents taught me. Sadly this is non-existent in today's children.
I hear kids using gross word like it was the most natural thing to do. They do not car if they over step boundaries as long as they get what they want. The society is now permissive and yes parents have been stripped off the rights of being parents. It's time that you step in. This is your God given right to discipline your children and bring them up in the right way!
@meimeibaobei (292)
• China
18 May 10
not only the teenagers act changed a lot compared to those of a few years ago or even those closer to our age.the teenagers are more clever than us when we are teenagers.the way they get imformation changed a lot.in the past,we get imformation mainy from our parents and books,but now they get imformation mainy from tv. and internet.this make them different from us.and we fell we can't accept that.actully,it is nothing.have a nice day.
@chulce (1537)
• United States
18 May 10
True, our society and what our children view has helped to change them quite a bit. I don't think it is about accepting I think it is about helping our children to still understand respect and not just respect of others but respect for themselves. In many cases, they don't have any and it really shows. All they care about is the material items around them and keeping up with their buddies on who has the coolest and most expensive gaming system or what ever the item is.
