Do you often think before speaking or you speak without thinking?

Hi zandi...where have you been?...I missed your lovely and meaningful discussions!...any way speaking whithout thinking have put me in several bad situations more than once...now a days I tend to be more careful...I Am older and wiser so some times I just keep my mouth shut even when I know Im right!...and this happen with my family now [ as we are having a dificult time] which is bound to happen in every family[ unless things get out of hand]I just sit back and let them figure it out...zandi we all say things in the heat of the moment...without thinking but is never too late to go back and apologise and say how one felt at that time...we all have our days some better than others...that is life!

U wrote your discussion on me, didn't u?lol. I never mean to hurt anyone's feelings ever but am guilty of saying just what i think.

Only when I have took something so long that I need to speak harshly I do. Like when I came back from my vacation and the whole family was hollering at each other and then I was getting holered at really for no reason. I had to take my daughtr down a peg by letting her know that I didnt really like to be hollered at for no reason and that she had been doing just that since I got home. Her face dropped really I didnt feel bad for she finaly realized she had been hollering and even grand daughter was too. So now they have calmed down. So sometimes its good to say the wrong thing but at the right time!

Hey zandi! I try very hard to think before I speak because I do know how damaging this can be if you say the wrong things! I used to do this alot more often, but now that I have gotten myself under control I seem to be alot better off! You are right that there are alot of people that do this more often! Maybe if people thought before they spoke there would be alot less problems in this world!

I do both. At first I think before I speak, but then I get on this roll where I'm just saying all the right things, and so I stop thinking, and I'm just letting my mouth run, and then before you know it i've said something wrong, and I go from looking like a decent; intelligent guy, to a complete idiot, and a jerk. Its all about getting excited. Gotta not let your emotions take over, just remain calm, and think out everything. Even if the response seems like a simple one, think before you talk. Think about what you say, and how it will effect other people. That's what I'm working on.

There are really times when you are enraged or excited that you can say words that could hurt others. Maybe what we should do is think if the person you're talking to is an open-minded person. Or what is really best to do is to think before speaking.

I think it depends whom I am talking to. Usually I will think before I speak, especially something serious and work-related topics. But, when I am talking to my husband and my family, I usually just speak out what's in my mind. I suppose I still think before I speak to him, but maybe sometimes I don't think very detailed. When my mind is not clear, I usually keep quiet, as I think I may not be able to think properly and speak nicely, hence it's better to keep quiet and calm down myself before I speak.

I admit, there are times I speak without even thinking. Those are times when I allow my temper to rule over me. But I realized I had to be very careful with my temper because it could hurt people. I've learned lessons from past mistakes so, as much as I could, I now think first before speaking. But you know I would admit that there are still some rare times that I still fail in controlling my mouth. At any rate, there are times that we have to speak out even if it would hurt but we can always do that in a more tactful manner and that we could do if we will think first before delivering our thoughts. I mean it is always good to think and assess first the consequences of the words that will come out of our mouth before letting them out and if in the spirit of truth and justice we still have to speak out, we can always do in a more diplomatic and respectful manner. In all cases controlling the tongue and allowing the mind to think first does good. As the Bible in James 3:5 stated: "Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!" Good relationship takes time to build and it would be sad if it could be destroyed in a minute all because someone did not control his or her tongue. There are also so many prominent people who lose good reputation just because they failed to think first before speaking their minds in just one single occasion. So it is better to think first before speaking.

I think before I speak most of the time. Sometimes I ponder what I am about to say for too long. This gets frustrating in a group conversation as I can sometimes get left behind when the conversation is fast moving. This used to really get me down and I felt that I was not as smart as others, but as I have gotten older, I have realised that different people are different in the ways that they communicate and that does not make people smarter just because they can think quick in conversation. Sometimes these quick thinkers blurt out something too fast and hurt peoples feelings!

My first intention is to think before I speak. It is usually the best course of axtion to take. Sometimes feelinhs get in the way of this. When you speak before thinking, problems can arise from the situation.

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hhaha! yes, I always think before speak, otherwise I wont have normal live, because there are so many people who don do that, and live like freaks. the only time when I don't think before speaking is when I am angry and that's what i actually don't like! we must always think before speak!

Words really play a big part of our life.. and yeah i wish i could think first before speaking but unconciously its just that it came out of my mouth all of a sudden...lol there were also times that i wanna talk but I dont have the guts to tell it, I wonder to..... lol maybe that is natural to humans... yes we have brain BUT emotions,and feeling comes first always... i think

i always try to think before i speak. remember words, once spoken cannot be taken back.

I find myself speaking before thinking quite a bit. Often things I say are misunderstood and taken the wrong way. I need to train myself to stop and think before I open my mouth.

sometimes, i really regret being so talkative and speaking without thinking. there are times that me and my wife would argue and the fastest you try to retaliate, some things will get out of our mouths and will regret it later. how and why have i speak of those words.

I have been making a point of thinking before speaking because I made a few errors of judgement in the past and my mouth blurted out words before my brain caught up! As far as I can remember my mouth has not created any big problems which I have not been able to get myself out of, for example while getting ready to go out, years ago, my then roommate told me she was having trouble doing her hair and without a thought I said, “It’s messy but don’t worry it’s dark in the club!” At that moment I had the audacity to wonder why she looked hurt...Yes, think first, let the brain work, then talk...My ex roommate is still my friend, thankfully.

I most certainly agree with you because many times I find myself in that situation wherein I say things without first thinking about it. I really hate myself for doing this but I just can't help it especially when I am in a situation wherein I need to explain myself. This is the time that I usually make a fool of myself because I am so bad when it comes to making myself sensible when I am nervous or put on the spot. I could only remember one moment when I wasn't nervous and when I was thinking very rationally at that time and I did so well. Otherwise I always put my foot in my mouth. Too bad.

i really try very hard to think first before speaking, especially if the topics involve sensitive issues or there is a brewing argument. however there really are times when i just let loose and spew out brim and fire... then regret what i said after. this happens with my husband, and i know it's not good. dont get me wrong, these are only a few times and only when i just couldn't take things anymore. nice topic, very timely. thanks and happy myLotting!

Well for me i think first before speaking i don't want somebody to feel bad or i have to assess first for the right aproach before i speak so i don't have to hurt anyones feeling =)