Are you surrounded by supportive people?
By 34momma
@34momma (13882)
United States
May 18, 2010 9:57am CST
I read in a book, when you have goals you should keep them to yourself. So that you are not judged for things you want to do. You should only share them if you must with those you know for sure will support you. What is your take on this? Do you only share those things in your life that you know those around you will support you on?
6 responses
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
18 May 10
I'm not surrounded by supportive people. I only have one support person, but I'm really thankful for her (my wife). After being surrounded by negative people my whole life, that never believed in me, and always tried to talk me out of everything, and tell me that all my ideas were bad, not even giving me a chance. So its so nice to have someone really close to me, that believes in me, and encourages me. I don't need to be surrounded by support, I just need one person.
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@nova1945 (1612)
• United States
18 May 10
I think that is probably true. I share things with my daughter, because she will always support me and doesn't judge. But I do not share my goals or plans with my husband because he is one of those negative personalities that always sees the dark side of everything. He always responds with statements like "it aint gonna work" or "you don't want to do that" or "you cain't do that" (he is a hillbilly so that's why the grammar is so bad.) He doesn't mean to be negative, that's just the way he is made. And I can tell you from experience that living with a negative person can be a real downer draining you of all self confidence (my mother was one too) and you tend to doubt your own abilities before even getting started.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
18 May 10
you are right nova. i grew up with so many people telling me i can't so often, i thought it was my dman name. now i only share wtih those people i know will tell me i can, rather they like my ideas or not. other then that, i would never get started.
@med889 (5941)
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18 May 10
I am surrounded by my three sisters, my boyfriend and my parents who are very supportive people, they support me in every way they can and they do not even expect something in return too so this is what I do appreciate, the unconditional love and support toward me.
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@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
22 May 10
That is a question we hope usually we never have to question about the people who love us. Personally I have learned to keep my plans and goals to myself, and only share them with people for the sake of sharing, however I have no reservations making it clear, that I am not interested on approval or judgment, that I am only sharing and I don't care for unsolicited advice.
@magtibaygom (4858)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Nope. We are divided in half. My mother and one of my uncles are very supportive, they believe in my dreams, while other members of my family are often discouraging me. My mother side is open-minded while the father side are traditional thinkers and close-minded to new ideas especially in business and in career.
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@skater3700 (8)
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18 May 10
To be honest, I probably dont share enough with people around me, not just being goals, but also things that are happening in my life. I think its good to share things most of the time, and to get things off your head, however it can also really hurt when people arnt there to support you.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
18 May 10
It is very important to have those close relationships with people where are you comfortable enough to share yourself with them. You don't always need others to agree with you, but being supportive is something we all need and want. I have some amazing people in my life who are always right there to support me even when those things i want most have nothing to do with them personally. then i have those who are not happy because it has nothing to do with them...