Do you get cheated by your friends?
By kkanaka
@kkanaka (886)
Singapore
May 19, 2010 3:53am CST
Hi mylotters,
It happened again, me or my husband it seems take turns to be cheated by our friends, and maybe we will win an award to being made a fool again and again.....
My husband always lends money to his friends and they will not pay him back unless he asks them again and again....
Now its my turn, few weeks back one of my friend, (who calls me very rarely) asked for $1000 and said she will return to me in 2-3 days, now its almost a month, she is not picking my phone or replying my sms.... i feel like laughing and crying at the same time.....
I always used to scold my husband for doing the same mistake again and again.... and now it seems I also do the same thing....
Given a second chance and if my friend asks for money again I think I would still give her, because when people ask for urgent money how to say no.....
But really why do they dont return the money they have taken, its such a shame when they needed the money we were kind enough to give them, now they should be true enough to return it back....
Aahhh friends????? do you have such expriences, how do you deal with such people....
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13 responses
@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
19 Oct 10
Yes Kkanaka
I have also lots of such experiences. But i will collect it somehow. When they are hurrying to the office purposefully i will go there asking for money. or in odd times I will go to their house. So naturally they will be irritated and to get rid of me they will return my money
@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
6 Mar 11
SS. sure. In these days we should learn such tricks otherwise we can not survive from cheaters.
@olepmis (840)
• Philippines
20 May 10
Yes, I have experienced being cheated by one of my best friend. She borrowed from me just $200 in early 1980's and she paid the $200 only last year 2009 with no interest and asked for sorry. People nowadays are taking advantage of their friends kindness. After getting the money it is goodbye forever or when it is time for payback, the loaner is more angry than the lender. 
and what was irritating for me was that the $200 she borrowed from me, I borrowed it from my neighbor to be able to help her and paid for it in 2 months time as promised. 
@sherric1222 (233)
• United States
20 May 10
There is a rule of thumb that my grandfather told me once and it was "If you want to lose a friend loan them money. I have always tried this and it works. I gave them money and they try to ask for more and I simply tell them No. Some people have the hardest time telling other people no for some ungodly reason. If you find it hard to say no, then just tell the person my money is tied up,(like for rent, food) hello come up with an excuse or just say NO. If they ask you why, tell them the truth, that you have to twist their arm to get the money back and it's not worth losing their friendship over. If this person borrowing the money is a real idiot you might want to drop him as a friend anyway. If he can't manage his own money then he can't manage his life. Hope this helps kkanana you need to know who to trust and who not to trust but don't be ashamed to tell the person no.
@tolted (190)
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19 May 10
My father taught me a long time ago that when a friend asks you to lend them money it is better to give them what you can afford and what you won't miss. So for example if a friend asked for $1000 (like in your case) and I have $100 to spare, I will tell my friend "sorry i do not have $1000 but I can give you this $100. That way I have done a good deed and saving myself the stress of chasing for borrowed money.
Money can cause fights between friends so we need to be careful. It is a shame that your friend is doing this to you. I will advice you not to borrow all next time because you can't rescue every body from their problems. Do the best you can and leave the rest. Also people can be wicked and take advantage of your good heart. Please be wise.
Take care
@kkanaka (886)
• Singapore
20 May 10
Thats a very good advice from your father, I like it very much, I could have spared her $1000 for 2-3 days but after that I cannot that's why I am worried, any way my friend replied to my messag today and said she will return it by sunday, hope this is really good news....
@wishformod (56)
• Pakistan
19 May 10
HI, this doesnt mean that people should use you for your kindness to lend your friend's money. If you really care about your money so just lend your money only to your well knowned and trusted friends. The friends who did not return your money are not good friends. HOPE IT HELPED.
@davidhandoko (6)
• Indonesia
19 May 10
yes, but with the new friend, we must be positive thinking first.. but if he cheated don't trust himanymore..
@miui70 (149)
• India
19 May 10
i read in a book once people see other people as they are inside if u are trutworthy u expect other people to be trustworthy too.But i think we should always keep in mind that most of the people around us are selfish thats one quality which makes us human.Even i was betrayed by a friend in business, reason being i trusted him alot.The best teacher one can have is life itself. I learned my lesson, hope u learn it too. Follow the golden rule dont trust others.
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
19 May 10
It seems that your friend is very good in convincing you. Your friend promises to pay but in fact, they could not anymore be contacted. That is the sad part because you lend her something out of trust and yet she betrays you. You should be wary of these kinds of people. Normally, they have that gift in talking. convincing you first so they could earn your trust. It is not that bad to say no.
@Roopjyoti (101)
• India
19 May 10
Belief it or not, People like those who never return borrowing money has very dirty mind. I m also a victim like you. A few month back, to know why people react like that, I also got involved with some people who always do that. And guesses what after taking money from their friends they told me that they never going to give back the money to their friends. I don't know why they do that but I have got a new experience from it- Be careful they can thief anything, they can blackmail you if they got any personal information like your bank balance, even they can also murder you. At any condition avoid friends like those. Before transaction always borrow money the same way to know your friend but return it at your words.
Oh i forget to tell you that these type of people always want get in touch, show you as he or she very cares you and always wait for secret informations to know so that he can take advantage. Create situation so that they can't get in touch and get any chance to ask for money. And the best way to avoid is ask more money from him when he ask you. And remember when asking money tell the reason that You need money to back a loan. Don't tell him like if you give me money I will able to back you more....
@Roopjyoti (101)
• India
19 May 10
Belief it or not, People like those who never return borrowing money has very dirty mind. I m also a victim like you. A few month back, to know why people react like that, I also got involved with some people who always do that. And guesses what after taking money from their friends they told me that they never going to give back the money to their friends. I don't know why they do that but I have got a new experience from it- Be careful they can thief anything, they can blackmail you if they got any personal information like your bank balance, even they can also murder you. At any condition avoid friends like those. Before transactionBefore transaction always borrow money the same way to know your friend but return it at your words.
Oh i forget to tell you that these type of people always want get in touch, show you as he or she very cares you and always wait for secret informations to know so that he can take advantage. Create situation so that they can't get in touch and get any chance to ask for money. And the best way to avoid is ask more money from him when he ask you. And remember when asking money tell the reason that You need money to back a loan. Don't tell him like if you give me money I will able to back you more....
@meimeibaobei (292)
• China
19 May 10
if i were you,i would give her some money (ask her not to return),but not lend her a big number of money.if she doesn't want to return,it is better for us to loss less money.what's more,the person who borrowed money from you calls you very rarely.don't angry with me!i don't believe others who get touch with me very few.have a nice day!
