Read or Not Read

i wouldnt read it because there needs to be trust between a parent and a child.... You would expect that your child would not read your messages so you should do the same

Hi Agrant, I have two daughters and would never dream of touching their phones and reading their private messages. Likewise if I left my phone in the lounge I wouln't expect them too. If I am driving I will give my phone to one of the children and if I get a message they will ask if I want to see who it is and I may tell them to read as I have nothing to hide from them. I am guessing here that you never read the text either for the same reasons of privacy really. Huggles. Ellie :D

I would like to think i wouldn't have read it. My dad was always going through my things when i was a teen & i just hated that.I know all kids have cells now but i don't know that i think it's a good idea. They grow up way to quick anyway.

i dont think i would unless there might be a reason why you dont trust her. now with me my 13 yr old wouldnt have a cell phone, only time my kids got a cell phone when they started to drive. then both of my kids had to share cell phones. but when my kids was younger and we got a computer, i had thier passwords for everything they were allow to change it until they were 18 yrs old

i will, i am a protective parent and i will read it because of it might in need of parents consent and concern. no matter what anyone would say about privacy, she's my child, i will do what ever is needed to be done to protect her.

hi she will probably notice that you have read her text. As she is a good student and not causing you a hassle I think you should not read it no matter how much you want to. At 13 she is at the age where if you respect her privacy she will then talk to her. What would I do? I would not tell her that I had read it but tell her you heard that there was a message and was it "good news" or from your friend so and so and get her to talk to you about it. x

No,I would not. If she was not to be getting texts that is another story and if she was in trouble for something then I might. however, I feel that she deserves her privacy the same as everyone else does.

One should not read anyone's text if you have trust on that person. But when it comes to your own child, everyone knows that the environment around in these days isn't that good, your child can spoil anytime. So to keep a check is also very important especially on daughters.

ALthough I believe in privacy to all...I think it has been overly dosed on kids. They are KIDS. They are MINORS. the world today is so full of crap and hate and preditors and scams and the list goes on. Kids don't know when they should or shouldn't believe something until they learn about life. I mean, any kid that is told, in any way, "do this and I'll share with you"...most likely will do it thinking it is a good idea and that no one is going to hurt them. They are just sharing or helping someone. When they fall in trouble cause of it..yeah, they hopefully will learn, but again, this day and age...with all the preaching of privacy and all...they'll probaby just do it again later on. I think parents have the responsibility to teach their children how to grow up and do for themselves and all that and if that includes not giving them complete and total "privacy", I'd rather risk some annoyance from them to me cause I "invaded their privacy", than to see them trashed, hurt, missing or look at them through bars simply because I believed the "don't invade someone's privacy" hook, line and sinker instead of being a responsible parent. You could look at it this way...if she was hiding something...she'd a hide the phone when she left the room or taken it with her. Obviously, since she left it laying out in the open...she must not hav cared if anyone read it or not! Quite frankly, I don't think kids need to have cell phones and do texting and all that as much as they do.

Hi, agrant10. I really don't like to invade anyones else privacy. But, if I ever suspect my daughter of doing something that she has no business doing, I will look at her text message. Especially if she is being rebellious and all. I want to keep and eye on her to make sure that she is not doing anything that may cause her to be hurt.

I won't read her message. It's not mine. I don't want anybody to read any messages in my cellphone. Maybe that is a personal message.

I would not read it.. She'll know you read it anyway or that someone did since it will be opened already and she won't remember reading it. I think it is a huge violation of trust. If someone read my personal text message I would no longer trust them.

I think you shouldn't have read the text with out asking her. Because children have there own secrete. If they can not keep there privacy then they start to tell a lie as they want privacy. So batter you can talk with your daughter.

I would not read the text. Thats kind of violating privacy and if you do this you will be showing them that it is ok to violate peoples privacy when you want to know something. I know the text message could be bad but this is where you trust your child and ask them whats going on in their life and show them that they can tell you anything. If you get worried about the little things in life they can get out of control where they become big problems.

for the safety of my children.. all outside contact is monitored until they are adults. that includes emails, ims, web forums and yes.. text messages. idve read it. but i also am not sneaky about it.. my kids know full well they have absolutely no privacy where this is concerned, and i tell them i do it, and when i do it.