Do you experience any relationship with no arguments?
By neelianoscet
@neelianoscet (9615)
Philippines
May 19, 2010 12:02pm CST
Is their possibility to have a relationship with no arguments at all? I think it definitely non-existent at all. Since, everyone could enter a relationship smooth sailing at first, and then there is arguments existing. It may be little, heavy or minimal at all. In every relationship arguments is necessary one thing the other partner could know his lack and what suppose to be filling in. However, I like to know is there any chances anyone could be in a relationship without arguments. What could you say about this?
Is arguments necessary to settle any differences?
5-19-10
12:02
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25 responses
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
20 May 10
hi med,
That maybe little is still necessary to have a healthier relationship but too much is like a poison damaging and leading to each other disenchantment to each other. despite trying to hold back but could not continue as the other partner lose interest. so it is better to say outright the plan to separate than to keep a false promises. though, staying could also gives hope that the other partner may changes his mind or have the feeling back like the way it was before. thanks.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
20 May 10
hi med,
yeah, it is very normal even in family there is arguments ensues unless both are deaf they may not argue..lol..
seriously speaking, arguments is vital since it is an opportunity to discover each partner weaknesses including their strengths...thanks.
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
19 May 10
Arguments are necessary in a relationship. I'll go crazy if there are no arguments in a relationship I'm in. Maybe I'll be the one to break it up if that happens. Arguments, for me, make the relationship healthier and makes the couple more adept to each other's wants and needs therefore knowing each other deeper.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
19 May 10
Definitely it is very normal to argue to fix things or letting the other person know its mistakes since just agreeing every now and then. The other person may feel dumb like saying yes all the time just not to upset the other person when in fact one feel so mad. Or the other way around the other partner like to argue while the other partner just listen and accept so their is absence of interaction makes the relationship boring. So I do agree with arguments is vital to any relationship to improve so settle the differences as the conversation between couples ensued. thanks.
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@primeaque86 (8108)
• Philippines
20 May 10
Arguments between couple is usual to happen... even the most loving couples argue sometimes, it's part of the relationship though... and i believe that it's one factor that would strengthen your ties... happy mylotting and God bless...
But it shouldn't be nasty arguments.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 May 10
I think if that happens, somebody isn't speaking up about what bugs them. And that can be just as harmful to a relationship as where there are too many arguments.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
19 May 10
hi dawn,
yeah, arguments is best as it shows the lack, and the need to fix the gaps settling differences to make any relationship last.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
20 May 10
hi saphrina,
Yeah, your correct. Unless one have saintly behavior but even saint comes to the point they lose their patience and explodes too. Arguments necessary to find the fault and then mend it or better to try to fix it..thanks..
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@xRawrx (41)
• United States
19 May 10
I think the only way someone could not have a agruement during their relationship is if they were both outspoken, understanding, compromising, and just talk things out with out getting offended, and angry. other than that, I dont believe it is possible to go without one. There are days you're just up the wall, woke up on the wrong side of the bed, and if something is bugging you, you might say it in a bit of a pissed off tone! Plus when you yell for a little bit, you feel better sometimes, and a bit relieved to get that stress, anger, whatever has built up over time. So no, i don't think its possible.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
20 May 10
hi xrawrx,
maybe if they are both deaf and like a stone..lol..just kidding
anyway it is a normal feeling to be jealous even sibling between children have ensued jealousy when their is lack of attention and the other person is much appreciated than you. so the jealousy begin and so is the competition, seeking for attention and so on. There may be good or bad implication but being expressive just like you mention is sometimes good whatever emotion one express it as long that after it they settle to fix or mend whatever issues they undergo which is better like maintaining frankness and for being open minded. Just like learning to accept the imperfectionist and together lend a hand to resolve any troubles they have to face. thanks.
anyway it is a normal feeling to be jealous even sibling between children have ensued jealousy when their is lack of attention and the other person is much appreciated than you. so the jealousy begin and so is the competition, seeking for attention and so on. There may be good or bad implication but being expressive just like you mention is sometimes good whatever emotion one express it as long that after it they settle to fix or mend whatever issues they undergo which is better like maintaining frankness and for being open minded. Just like learning to accept the imperfectionist and together lend a hand to resolve any troubles they have to face. thanks.2 people like this
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
22 May 10
I've never been in a relationship with any human being that we didn't argue sometimes it didn't matter if they were my parents, my significant other, my employee,my employer, or my friends. I don't think that's any relationship that doesn't have any arguments sometimes is healthy. Were not going to agree with everything that any person says no matter how much we like them and respect them.
@derek_a (10874)
•
20 May 10
We don't argue very much now but we have been together for over 25 years. We have argued in the past over the smallest and silliest of things, and I think this happens to everybody. It is a sign that both people are moving closer together and sorting out their differences. One day, the arguments will all seem trivial and a couple will discover that they have both moved closer together and don't need to have a difference of opinion or make it OK that there is a difference of opinion. 
_Derek
_Derek
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
21 May 10
I dun think there's ever a relationship whereby there are no arguements at all.. SOmetimes, being too patience with their loved ones, can only be bringing them more stress, as rather to letting our emotions known.. haha =D
SOme ple might feel guilty to why their love ones are still loving them so well, when they themselves are treating them unfairly, badly etc.. Even though he/she might take it in their stride, and to prevent arguements, but if the other party really wanna be unreasonable, there's nothing one can do about it.. haha
@airakumar (1553)
• India
20 May 10
Well, I think whether you have a sweet relationship or just simple, there is always a lil' arguments whenever needed because at point you both cannot stand on one point and will not agree and therefore, arguments occurs but in a decent way. In a typical argument, each person tries to prove themselves right and the other person wrong. Argument is a very important part of life. Argument is how everything in lofe is solved. Everyday people have different opinions and ideas. Arguments were most influential when they were presented at a position where participants expected the most important arguments.
Thanks.
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
20 May 10
You are correct there, relationship without argrumentations is next to impossible... People have different views and beliefs... Sometimes, conflicts are inevitable... It is normal for every relationship - whatever kind of relationship.
Is it necesary to settle the differences? I don't think so-- what is necessary is a calm communication-- sit down and talk openly and discuss the differences... not necesary argue...
@baobaoyuanyuan (49)
• Australia
21 May 10
my relationship is very strange... we have little arguments, and all of our arguments is on politics. we have none arguments in everyday life and everytime, it is my fault to start an argument while my boyfriend is always calm but im just angry because of hit position...
but i do think this is perfect enough as our arguments are not relevent to our daily life...
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
20 May 10
Arguments occur depending of different decision and wants of a certain individual. Of course what they want they will insist that. there are no relationship without arguments, actually to complete a relationship you have to experience this one in order to make know each other. You will see the difference and you will respect such decision after it cool down.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
20 May 10
It's hard to have a relationship with out any arguments at all. And a perfect relationship with out any conflict is not an ideal one because it will be a boring one. But I know some couple who seldom quarrel because they understood each other better. As for my own relationship I welcome arguments with my partner as long that
it is not that severe because that would be a messy one.
I don't think arguments is necessary to settle any differences with anybody for that matter. The best thing to do is to talk it over and in calm manner. One can understand each other better if they are both giving each other a chance to explain their side.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
20 May 10
I think that it is probably healthy to disagree and speak one’s mind in a relationship and I don’t believe anyone who says that they never disagree with their partner and, in my opinion, if that is the case then maybe someone is enduring and not speaking up! I think the trick is to learn to agree to disagree and compromise instead of fighting just to hurt each other and the old belief that one should never go to bed angry with the other is probably a very good one!
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
20 May 10
For me it is normal thing in your life as a couple because they have different knowingly to each other attitude.
@alexysabelle (905)
• Philippines
20 May 10
argument is a relationship is inevitable, to me it can be an avenue to understand each other better. it is healthy, so long as the argument leaves a lot of room for respect of each other. argument in awesome!!
take care...
@lipstick2009 (1236)
• Philippines
20 May 10
I think it is very impossible for two couples not to argue.
However dealing with arguments differ from one couple to another.
For me,two people must be level headed and always be open minded to each other.
Nobody wins in an argument, one might think she is right but the other might feel
bad about it.
The bottomline is, love must still be there while arguing or while they are mad.
They must still respect each other, no matter how one thinks he or she is right.
And lastly, they both need space and time to cool down if they cant seem to meet halfway.
