Too Little Time
By candyfairy21
@candyfairy21 (2039)
Philippines
May 19, 2010 12:24pm CST
Hi.
I have been quite so disappointed lately as I am not able to do the things I would like to do as there is little time I spend on the net. Mostly at night. It's because I have this elder family member who spends the whole day on the pc just spending money buying stuff in the net! It makes me mad at times because she squanders while I am trying to earn. Therefore by her being on in the net all through the day gives me me little time at night and at most times she extends until 9 pm! It makes me go crazy because by the time I start working I am sleepy already.
We always argue because as if not contented she would wake up early in the morning like 4 am and start looking for things to buy even when she is running out of cash! I think this is so so ridiculous! It's an obsession already, an addiction. She really has a shopping addiction more than anyone in the house. Now that she has learned to shop on the net she goes crazy on buying stuff that she does not need! Just last month she bought 5 pairs of shoes, 8 bags and some clothes. This month she bought 4 pairs of shoes already! I wish she was buying good stuff but most of it looks like junk! She ordered this bag and when it was delivered it has rust on the sides of the handle and worn out! There was this 3 pairs of shoes she ordered that did not fit her at all and one that was already damaged before she even wear it.
I know it sound evil but I am so much tempted on closing down her online accounts as I know the passwords to it so she'll stop spending and get off the pc! Lolz.... yeah I can be so crafty when pissed. I mean what do you do with someone who does nothing but spend and when money is all gone becomes too grumpy and we have to deal with the attitude.
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9 responses
@manleyjoe (1597)
• United States
20 May 10
Sharing can be fun unless one is controlling. since you say that you cannot afford another computer you need to discuss this with your elder. Maybe set up a schedule where both of you can be happy. If his/her spending is becoming a problem then you should do whatever you can to discourage it, even if it means shutting down the accounts.
@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
21 May 10
Hi Manley,
It's hard telling elders here because they think that by pointing their mistakes out that is associated with disrespect. The problem we have here is that elders think they are always right and those that are younger are just followers. This is the difference in our culture. We are having some financial problems since she was the one handling the finances in the house. She just doesn't know how to run the house and budget the money because it all goes first to her wants rather than what we need. Even if it is unnecessary she would buy it as long as it says SALE on the poster without even calculating if she could save or not. At times she hoards stuff like she will buy a box of lotions or whatever she fancies as long as she sees the mark SALE! hahahaha but the fact is the word Sale is just an illusion if one does the math there are noe real savings at all.
That's why I am going to save up for my own pc and is more determined now. I would sleep at 4 am or 5 am because she stays on in here until 9 or at times the whole night just watching things to buy on ebay!
@manleyjoe (1597)
• United States
21 May 10
I won't say that I can understand you situation because I can't. I respect my elders but at same time I am able to explain to them when they are doing selfish things and they can understand. I respect that my elders know more than I do but sometimes they are not let to understand when they are being selfish, letting them know this is not showing disrespect.
as to ebay your elder should be very careful as there has been some shady people on there and ebay can't seem to control them all as they have gotten to big.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
20 May 10
This is the first case I hear of someone addicted to online purchasing. I wonder what she would do with all those items she purchased over the net. I have not done any purchase online except for some books which I can't get locally. Maybe you are right to secretly cut her online accounts as it has become a disease that might be difficult to cure if it is not being treated early. She is only creating a havoc on herself without realizing that she is burning a big hole in her pockets and making the seller online laughing away with her stupidity.
@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
21 May 10
Hi Zandi,
She has always been a big spender now with the internet shopping she just can't stop. She only stops when there is no more money at all. I mean by no more is ZERO! I do not say I do not impulse but at times but because I lived on my own for year I have been able to let go of some wants that are not necessary at all and have been able to curb my shopping desires. But living back at home with my folks I do not appreciate the excesses and the lavishness because I have worked hard for every cent I take home with me and living on my own has me trained to cut on those and save the money for the rainy days.
@OYGAK2005 (371)
• Saudi Arabia
20 May 10
hi....in our life we run into some people that for their happiness or other needs to buy more unnessicary commodities .may that thei are our firends , our famliy members ...
and i never understand why they to spend mass of money of their clothes and other needs on the contrary that their really not need that things...
...i thing it is a kind of sickness ... so you may be tell her about it and gives her more chances to avertes her stuation...
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
20 May 10
Hi Candy!!
That must be really frustrating for you. I think that you should talk to her about it because it is a waste of time really. Imagine that she spends all her time online wasting money instead of being more productive. I also felt that when my papa was still addicted to playing games. i understand that he wasn't able to experience this when he was young but sometimes I just can't help and get disappointed. I'm glad that he is a bit more understanding now and really gives me the time to work online
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
21 May 10
You are certainly exploited, i have some questions, from where she gets so much of money, is she very rich and earn a lot? If so why she does not buy a pc or notebook of her own?
In my home each member has its own computer, though we share the same net connection via wireless modem. You can tell her to buy her own computer...
Thanks for sharing.
Welcome always. 
Cheers.
Prof
Cheers.
Prof
@lys20082008 (71)
• Pudong, China
20 May 10
Hi,friend.Can I sk a question Irrelevent to your discussion?
That is "How to start a new discussion myself?"
Thank you very much!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
19 May 10
When I was younger and lived with my grandparents, and this was also before I learned to earn online, I would be so upset when someone got on the computer because I loved to be on the computer all day. It was a whole nother world for me. Then when I started working very long hours and would come home, it wasn't so much that I was mad they were online, but that I was very very tired and wanted to sleep but that they were online and in my room. It wasn't my computer, nor my room per se so all I could do is gripe and whine and be a brat.
Now that I have a husband, and we live with his family, I am more respectful as I am more mature however I still get upset when I want to get online and earn and someone else is online, though I just realize that it's really not my place to complain and so I wait.
You should tell your family member to do cash back shopping, atleast then they won't be wasting their money so much!
Though your family member should understand that you are online to earn, not to play around.
@mercedlegurpa (955)
• Philippines
19 May 10
Hi candyfairy21, are the one earning for her? You have to talk to her nicely. You should not tolerate this attitude. Well you have to be frank, although it does not sound good because of our culture but you have to impose discipline. Just do it with no one is hurt. You just have to lay out a good strategy for her to understand.
@charylady (419)
• Philippines
20 May 10
sounds like she does have an addiction. freezing her accounts might be the way to stop her buying things online. maybe you can also try and introduce her to other activities which do not involve the computer so that you can have more time on your pc.
