What hurt themost the one who left you or the one who gives you false hope?

well i think if someone is lieing in a relationship and gives false hope, that would be better as it shows that , that person cares! so what ever be the problem can be discussed and positive steps can be taken to build the relationship and makes both the parties happy! :)

i think this is all a necessary part of the human development plan.... we have to learn to cope with both being rejected and whether we wish to continue with what may be a lie or false hope that things will improve. i lean toward i am who i am, i hope u can cope with that! take me on face value and i will do the same. if things are bad and they cant be repaired then an honest approach is best all round. i've felt the pain of not knowing what i did wrong, but with age u do truly get a little different spin on things, and get to see that sometimes things really do happen for a reason even if that's not apparent at the time. i wont willingly live under false hope.

while I have never experienced this at all I woud think that both would hurt a lot and both equally as it is sick tome to give someone false hopes as they are playing with a person's feeling and life, and being very callous. better to leave and make a clean break, anything else is really cruelty.

Both situations are painful, but I think that a person who gives me false hope would hurt me even more than a person who is honest. If the other person leaves it is painful, but at least I know where I stand and that would make it easier to deal with the situation. If I think that there is still hope I wouldn't be able to get on with my life, and I would be wasting my time with someone who didn't really want to be with me, but stayed out of pity or something like that. In the end that would be more painful than a person who "just" left me.

For me,its the one,who gives me a false hope is the person who will be hurting me the most... I don't really care,if I get dumped.. It happens in a relationship and it is also quiet common.One must keep in mind that whatever is happening is for good.One should not bother about it much and its better to move on with that very fact. But with false promises,I personally,feel a bit cheated.So,I find such person really unacceptable and unforgivable.

I think it would be more acceptable for someone to leave a relationship and be honest about it, even though it would hurt like hell... but I think that would be better than sticking with someone and giving false hope, because you would be living a lie, and in the end it would probably all fall down around you, and end up hurting even more.

neither one change partners for ya dont want lies and the one that left must not have been good eithre

If one is going to leave a relationship, it is the honourable thing to do to cut all the ties and definitely not leave the other person in hope that you may come back. Somebody once did that to me when I was around 16 years old and well, it was not very pleasant. She kept me hanging on and would often come on to me when I met her out and about with friends, and this went on for about 6 months. Then one day, I met somebody who I felt really attracted to and her to me, but when the first girlfriend saw us out together, she went crazy and started shouting all sorts of abuse. I reckon it was her that had a problem with relationships and was happy to get out of it! _Derek

I guess it will be the one whom gives us false hopes.. NOthing hurts more than having our loved ones lying to us, or failing to live up to expectations.. LEaving is easy, as the pain one suffered is temporarily.. BUt the memories brought to us by them, will always be with us.. The moment we think about it, those wonderful promises etc, all came to naught.. And it's the feeling, which pains us, rather than physically their physical presence ^_^

i could find a better lover if my partner left me. but it is more painful for me to know that a hope is hopeless.

Oh that is actually a tough question neelianoscet... I think the more painful is when we were left out. It is hard to accept the pain of rejection... It would take a lot of time to overcome the sadness brought by it... While with false hope... it is somehow misunderstanding... like we are just assuming... Some people are just too sweet and kind but doesn't really mean anything at all to him or her... It is somehow are fault. Atleast there is no real hard attachment between the two person, unlike with the first one... Both scenario is not acceptable to the one who was hurt... but in time he or she would find heart to forget and move on...

hi,the best thing is better not do any promises and not to show any hopes unles anyone could stand on the promises made.false promises and false hopes are both hurting to anyone made by partner.

For me its hurts the most when you give false hope, its just makes miserable along the way of relationship and in the long process only pain will be left in your hearts. While when someone left you there would be a chance of forgiveness...

it hurts more if you are expecting for nothing than knowing that you already have nothing to expect.. that is all i can say, if i were to wit..

According to me it is hard to accept teh false hope thatn the one leaves. Leaving or Ditching is kind of acceptable if children are not involved into it. False hope is something which is very difficult to accept when I am concerned. I accept that it is hard if my lover wants to ditch me, but I am a person who is not ready to cry or feel for somebody who doesn't care about my feelings. So, I can accpet the situation easily compared to the situation of false hope.

I would say the one giving you false hope. Rather leave me than waste my time. TATA.

Hi there! i think you got a serious issue here! well, I think people who give false hope is going to hurt me more than those who would leave. Because those who leave may at least be honest or brave enough to say it's over between us, but the one who stays and lie deserves a slap in the face! lol! yeah, because it is a sign of immaturity and cowardice for me. Another thing about what you said "what makes you stick to your partner" I believe that it is more of a commitment thing than, those promises, or even feelings. feelings are unstable and promises are avenues for quarrel. for me that's the thing that makes me and my Queen stay together.... as in forever, our commitment! our feelings may go down but the commitment is there always. so why not commit than promise or whatever, You take care!