Whose going to be more uncomfortable...my ex or me?

Oh my jillhill, some people can handle something like this, but if it was me, I would be a basket case..I hope it goes well with you and nothing goes wrong. Since your daughter has a big house, maybe you can ask her to help you by arranging it so you don't have as much contact with your ex and his g/f.

GOOD LUCK JILL, i WOULD FEEL very uncomfortable & the girlfriend would make it worse. Don't see why he has to drag her along. I know your daughter & u would be more comfortable if she didn't come. I hope everything goes real well & i hope u have a big ol' time. Be sure & let us know how it goes. The girlfriend probably put that on fb on your account anyway. bet she's a hateful little piece.

I'm betting he is going to feel more uncomfortable. After all, however he treats his current girlfriend, he knows how he treated you. And as time goes by, maybe he has realized how he let you down as a husband. I don't know you guys of course, but I'd bet money if anyone of you feels uneasy, it would be him. I'm glad you are over him. I'm sure having children together brings back memories that will never fade. But I'm so glad you are more excited about this upcoming event than dreading it. You deserve to have a good time. Hope you guys have fun!

Hi Jill, hmm. I've never been in that spot. I'm guessing that his girlfriend will be more awkward than either you or your ex. I am divorced and I've been with a boyfriend to family functions where my ex has attended. It all worked out and no one was awkward at all. Hopefully that will be how the graduation goes for you and your ex.

I might feel weird, but I would definitely act normally and not let him or her know that I felt weird.

Hiya Jill, Having such a big House should make it much easier and more relaxing if you can manage to hide away somewhere. I would not feel that comfortable either myself. But I would try to make and find ways once I am there of avoiding any kind of encounters with the other person as much as possible. I am sure you will find the means to have a great time Jill don´t let someone else like that spoil what could be such a great time. Good luck have a nice time there and don´t fret anymore if you can help it. Sometimes the anticipation of this kind of thing can make it feel worse than what it really is.

I would definitely get lost in the house and avoid him at all cost. I would feel like someone was always watching me. I'd be extremely uncomfortable. What I would do is stay at a hotel/motel just to avoid the situation but that's the way I do things. Any kind of confrontation turns me off and I run away from the situation. Hope things went well while you were there visiting.

That is brave....me and my ex would kill each other if we tried anything like this. And I am not kidding at all its been like 5 years and still he cant be nice to me. We just avoid dealing with each other as much as we can.

Sounds like jealous insecurities going on with her. I'd just not show my face when she's out and about. No need in fueling her on. Actually it's stupid on her part. Go enjoy your grandson and visiting family while there. Be the bigger one and just blow it off.

You are a better woman than me , I don't think I could handle it. Just do not react to anything they say or do .Good luck with it all and I hope your grandson has a lovely graduation.Cheers Sue

Hi Jill, I am sure it will be fine, I suppose the new girlfriend might be the one to feel more uncomfotablle cos afterall you and you ex husband have your children together. I quite often find myself around my ex-husband and one of his girlfriends but it has never been a problem for me, we get on quite well as people but just not in a relationship. Relax and enjoy the graduation. I have my daughters soon - so excited. Huggles :D

To be honest the girl friend does not even need to be there. They are not her daughter and grandson and they are not married either. Its just very disrespectful. But that's just my opinion of course. I'm not sure which of you would feel the worse. I'd imagine you because of the girlfriend situation but I'd imagine she will be just as uncomfortable as the both of you.

For me it is not easy to deal with that matter to face the truth is the only way you can achieve a success in you.

Hi jill hill: In my case i willn try to ignore this feelings because there's no reason for feeling sad and you are planning to go for your grandson's graduation, not for your ex husband. I think you have to remember this. If you do that you'll probably will not pass a bad moment. But if you feel uncomfortable you'll have to do your best to leave these thoughts of your head, ignore them. Thanks for asking us for advice. Enjoy these days with your family. ALVARO.

Hi Jill No I wouldn't but I did not have to face that 2 years ago when it was my Daughters 21st and her Dad came to stay I stayed at my Son's place and their Dad stopped at a Friends House I hope you get through this ok

I wouldn't be there. I would hang out at the house until they came and then I would be at a hotel nearby.one woman's Prince charming is another's A$$hole! I don't need to see him so happy and I don't and wouldn't ruin the graduation celebration.

I wouldn't have a problem my ex and I have been divorced for almost a decade now and get along great. We actually take annual vacations together with the kids and have for years. He doesn't have a girlfriend currently, but when he did we still didn't have any issues. I think it's great when divorced couples can get along and do things with their children. It show's children how to handle relationships even when you can't live together. Very healthy for all concerned. I think that if you just stay away from personal talk and just talk in general. That should help to not have any disagreements. Good luck with this adventure. Happy Mylotting!!!

Awww, I can imagine you are somewhat uncomfortable. I would be. But you know what Jill, you cannot blame one person for a marriage going bad, anymore than you can give all the credit to one person making it work. It always takes two. And there are many factors involved that make for a bad marriage...age, environment, the way we were raised, what we are use to, etc., and some people just don't mix and match. It sometimes doesn't mean anyone in particular was bad, you just didn't see eye to eye. I'm not talking about abusive relationships, that's something else. We all normally mature in different ways, some faster than others. I would just be polite, keep the conversation light, smile, and go about your business and enjoy yourself and everyone else you know. Just try to have fun and don't let anyone stop you from having a good time at your grandson's graduation. It's his big day, no one else's. Enjoy hon.

Awww, I can imagine you are somewhat uncomfortable. I would be. But you know what Jill, you cannot blame one person for a marriage going bad, anymore than you can give all the credit to one person making it work. It always takes two. And there are many factors involved that make for a bad marriage...age, environment, the way we were raised, what we are use to, etc., and some people just don't mix and match. It sometimes doesn't mean anyone in particular was bad, you just didn't see eye to eye. I'm not talking about abusive relationships, that's something else. We all normally mature in different ways, some faster than others. I would just be polite, keep the conversation light, smile, and go about your business and enjoy yourself and everyone else you know. Just try to have fun and don't let anyone stop you from having a good time at your grandson's graduation. It's his big day, no one else's. Enjoy hon.

I am not yet married here or what so I don't have any idea about marriage life. But as what I could read it is gonna be really awkward if you are together with your ex and his current girlfriend especially when you still remember of what is past. Yes it is true there could be something fishy of how come he has good terms with his girlfriend right now that you haven't experienced. Or maybe she it is just kind of projection that she wants you to feel insecure about it, well sounds immature. For all you know the good things might just happen while they are just still in relationship but when the marriage comes then you will realized that it is just same scenario.