Should I go on loving this boy ?

Hanna I wouldn't try to advise you what to do in this situation. Love is a wonderful thing. Let me tell you what happened to me and maybe this will help you make a decision. During the last year of school and a year afterward, a young girl and I were both madly in love with each other, and had decided to marry after I served my time in military service. We corresponded by letter for a couple of months and everything seemed to be just fine. During my third month of military basic training I noticed that she was writing me less and less. Then I received what is called a "Dear John" letter and she told me she was in love with another young man and wanted to break off with me. There was nothing I could do to change things so we parted ways. I was sent overseas for a year and a half and when I got a 30 day leave I renewed a friendship with a girl that I had dated a couple of times while in school. We both fell in love with each other and a year later we were married. We have been married for 58 years this coming August and have enjoyed being with each other all of this time. We have three sons and grandchildren and great grandchildren. You sound like a lovely young lady and I'm sure there will be another young man in your future should you decide to break off relations with your present boy friend. I wish you well and hope that you can make the right decision. I too, would suggest that you have a serious discussion with your parents before making your decision. Best regards to you and your friend.

I think you should make your mind clear if you really love him. If its yes, ask him about getting married soon. There is a chance that he is just with you till his study but you should you get the clear answer from him. If he is ready to marry you after studies, thats too good. Wish you all the best:)

hi hanna two years is a long time, so why not just get married and start a new life. He can still go ahead and get his degree but since you are both in love with each other why not live together and face whatever happens together. If you really love him go look for that job then get married why wait? do it now and enjoy life together.

I think you should make your mind clear if you really love him. If its yes, ask him about getting married soon. There is a chance that he is just with you till his study but you should you get the clear answer from him. If he is ready to marry you after studies, thats too good. Wish you all the best:)

There still so many things that can happen in two years, You'll never know if one of you fell out love in that span of time, but relationship depend between the two people if they want to work it out.. I hope that yours, last till the end...

Yes. My answer is yes. Don't worry about something you do not know yet. As you said, both of you love each other and couldn't live without seeing each other so I bet neither of you can decide living miles away from one another. It's good to love and be loved. Just enjoy it and when your fear comes, face it squarely. You will not be happy deciding to stop loving your boyfriend just because you fear that he will leave in 2 years. It's 2 years baby - a lot of things will still happen. Cheers.

You should know him better before you decide something, if do you think he is "a right man " & you can believe him, just go a head. Love need to sacrifice to get it.

I have to say that in this situation one has to sacrifice and give in. I can see there are many difficulties. Besides the different location, religion, customs etc. Both of you have to see whether your parents accept to it or not. As some parents may mind it. When people are in love, they think they can conquer everything. But it is always easy to say than done. So you have to see whether one of you can do something for another and there will be a positive result in the future. I love China

My dear why do you worry for 2012? You said he will finish his studies by that time right? It is still 2 and a half years from today. A lot of things could happen between this time so don't anticipate in advance. Love him if you want and then deal about it when it is near. Maybe he would change his mind in going back to Pakistan. Maybe he would think that you and him should go to another country. Maybe by that time you would decide to go with him. A lot of possibilities can happen and it would be unfair for you and for your man to close your doors at this time. Enjoy the feeling while it is still there. Besides my dear future holds no guarantee so just live by it day by day and make sure that you live it to the fullest. Please don't ruin your moment by anticipating too much. Have fun!

well this certainly is a big issue..as i m also resident of the subcontinent i know both the countries to a good extent. problems if he go to pakistan back- 1i think u wont be able to adapt with the lifestyle there 2not necessarily his parents will allow this 3i think he is a muslim(pakistan has majority)..so he can have more wifes later on then if u think u wont face all these then go on with ur love.. i know many replies have came saying-love will find its way..yeah for sure but it only works in movies--real life is too complicated for that

Hi Hannah, Follow your hearts desire. Keep in mind that loving someone ang making decisions would really be up to both of you. If you think that your guy can commit in a relationship, loyal, honest and respects you then go for it. For now, enjoy each others company and know each other well. ;-)

ask him to stay with u in china. whatever he is gonna move out after his graduation wat will u do after that? ur future also counts... distance cant separate true love..

I'm a Chinese boy .dump him snd love me ,haha

just enjoy this 2 years he will be in China,during this time,you will get more informations to help you do a final decision.After two years,maybe he will stay in china with you or you will happy to Pakistan following with him under everybody's blessings.you will have a right judgment so long as you have a enough understanding. in addition,i think the marriage is not two person'matters,but two families'.so you need to know more about your boyfriend. wish you have a great ending.

I think you have to talk with your boyfriend Hannah. Ask him to stay with you. If you love this boy make arrangement and I know he will agree. But if his decision is to come back on his country after graduation , it really depends on yo if you want to continue the relationship since long distance relationship is hard. Moreover, if you really love this boy, you will not stop the relationship no matter the distance because love is still powerful. You anticipate occurences of problems, anyway that is a challenge for your relationship and please tell your boyfriend about it.

Firstly it is important that you not make decisions simply because your friends are making those same decisions. Secondly... allow your love for each other to help you sort things out. It makes no sense for anyone here to tell you to stay or not to stay in the relationship. Matters of love is not handle like that. After college he might return home and chances are you continue a long distance relationship for a little while. Allow your love and the various situations to test the strength and durability of your relationship. Just make sure you are open minded an truthful to yourself and to him.

There is nothing at all wrong with going on loving this boy. The fact that you can't break up with each other is reason enough that the two of you should be together. I don't think that being from different countries is a barrier that cannot be overcome in a relationship. In addition to that, the love that you feel for each other is something that will be able to keep the two of you together through thick and through thin.

For me, all advices would be fruitless and will just fall in your deaf ears , if you are so much in love.But i am not saying its wrong or right. You just reflect on advices given to you and try to be open-minded. For one, in love there is no guarantee,even marriage is not a guarantee for we know of many cases where married couples gets a divorce. We just enjoy the feeling while it last, we give it all ourselves, but...we should try hard to have our eyes wide open so we can see clearly whats' really happening and not just depend on our feelings. I can't say anything about your problem, cause i dont know your boyfriend and for all we know he really loves you so much and its just theres just a lot of miscommunication between the two of you brought about the distance factor. Take it slow please and beleive that, if its for you , it will be for you. (^_^)

I don't really quite know why your having this big problem of yours. I mean you love him right and part of loving him is doing things for the best of the two of you. I guess your just hard up or rather afraid to be far from your hometown or maybe your relatives because once he left you in a strange place that you might suffer. Well, Its better i you talk things together and understand what's best for you and for him. If in case that you both love each other but your distances with each other forbids you. I guess having an long distance relationship is the best you could have. I you really both love each other better go out of your comfort zones.

Try to ask him if he could stay in China. If you really love each other, love will find a way.