Should I start looking for a husbond?
By ddaguno
@ddaguno (3107)
Philippines
May 20, 2010 1:21am CST
I'm 27 and all of my relatives and friends are asking when will I get married.
They all try to set me up with somebody but I always tell them that I am not looking. When the time comes for me to settle down, then I will look for a husband.
Do you think there's something wrong with for not thinking of marriage at my age?
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46 responses
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
27 May 10
I don't know which area your are from. Still, from your appearance look like from Philippines. I am talking on the perspective of my country. You are late to get married. If you go some one in your mind, be frank to your parents and get married as early as possible.
For a women, 22-25 is the best to time to get married. (It is my opinion and an observation in general). Many of myLot friends advised that you can still wait upto your 30s. But it is not fair. In case of a man, it is ok. For a women, in her 30s everything should get settled. A child, a good job or a better married life or a settled house wife - all these concepts should cover at this age (ie 27). You are still looks young (if the photo provided is real) and this is the time for enjoyment and get into more responsibilities. After the age of 30, what is remaining in your life? in 40s we will become aged. So, rush up and find a suitable person and in need your marriage invitation letter within 3 month. OK?
This is what I want to tell Laniekins also. Everything will come to you one by one gradually. Don't arrange everything before marriage, get marry and you can arrange something after marriage also. Got me? So, don't wait any more...
I think in your country many are getting married in the late teen ages.
All the best,
Thank-s
@anuraa32 (2446)
• India
26 May 10
Hmmm... 27. Well if marraige is all you want then go ahead and get married. But before that think why you want to get married. You want to get married because everyone does and that is what society says you need to do. Or you want to get married because there is this great human you feel is the one you want to spend your life with. Or that you want to get married because you dont want to be alone.
Whatever the reason may be. Kewl. Marraige is a wonderful thing to happen.
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@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
22 May 10
There is nothing wrong with that at all. I think there is something wrong with people thinking that getting married and starting a family is the measure of life. Society by nature dictates that one's success is not success until they get married and start a family and they predetermine the age range in which all this is to be accomplished. It is good to step outside of these norms sometimes.
I am 33yrs old and still not married. Even as a teenage girl I just did not have the star in my eye thing when it came to marriage and having kids. I know for certain that I wanted to enjoy my single life and all that freedom before I settled down. I have just reached the stage where I am now seriously contemplating marrying and starting a family.
I just refuse to live my life according to someone else's expectations and I like what I did.
Just ensure the decision made is yours. All the best to you.
@veejay19 (3589)
• India
22 May 10
ddaguno, you certainly are at the right age for marriage but it all depends on you whether you want to settle down or not.Nobody can force you if you are not willing to ut don`t make it too late otherwise you will have a difficult time choosing the right husband as most eligible bachelors will already have been lapped up by other girls younger than you.there is another factor too and that is having children. If you marry late then conceiving is a little difficult and at a later age delivery by surgery is usually undertaken. So think of all these factors while thinking about marriage. Hope you get the right husband for yourself when the right time comes. Good luck.
@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
25 May 10
Hello,
I am 30 yrs. old now and I am in a long time relationship. All of my friends, acquaintances and family were asking when will I get married. To tell you honestly I would love too but we cannot afford to get married as of now cause you know its hard to enter into marriage if both of you are not prepared financially and emotionally. In God's time it will come and all will go in place, so just wait for out turn to have a wonderful and happy marriage.
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@hushenglang (64)
• China
20 May 10
For most girl like your age, maybe they are willing to get married, but i think you dont have to do this, because you have right to get your choice and pursue your own dreams, just do what you like.
However, you should understand what your parents and relatives were doing, they all just hope you happy and be loved.
After all, there's nothing wrong of not thinking of marriage at your age i think, hehe. have a good day.
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@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
21 May 10
i have a degree in psychology and in man's psychological chart it is until 34 years of age that one has the normal timeline of instinctively looking for a mate. after that the urge to settle down sorts of fades so you still have 7 more years to go.
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
22 May 10
honey, i used "man" as the term for both sexes. just like in our grammar class . i don't know how the rules of grammar apply in your time but during my schoolyears it is a cumulative term that can be used for both men and women. no offense .
@abhikmjmdr (779)
• India
21 May 10
At 27 you still have plenty of time to think about how and when you want to have a family. Your inner self will tell you when the time is right and Mr.Right Guy has arrived in your life.Good luck!
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@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
22 May 10
It's up to you what you tell others but you should be clear as to when do you want to get married. You can always prioritize things in life, people aound you think from their point of view which certainly does not match with yours. Be yourself and decide. I think you can marry at 27 if you feel so.
@arakawaii (270)
• Philippines
21 May 10
Girl there's no need to rush about things like marriage, when you feel like its still not time then don't pressure yourself to do so.. Me myself would like to get married when I turn 28, I think by that time, I've achieved what I wanted to achieve and live the life that I wanted, atleast before that time happened I've enjoyed my life as a single. Im 22 this year so there's still so much things that needs to be done before I turn 28...
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@blackhillsgold (88)
• United States
22 May 10
There is nothing wrong w/wanting to wait til you are ready. Nothing wrong w/not being married at "your age". You are only 27 and have a full long life ahead of you. You live your life and when it is time for you to do things, you will know.
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@Eppie2010 (509)
• Philippines
20 May 10
I agree, me I got married at 27 but my bestfriend got married at 40! And we are both happy with our married life. It doesn't matter what age you're in right now, if you found the right guy you're going to spend the rest of your life with, then that's the time for you to get married. ^_^
@mannymatters (13)
• Philippines
24 May 10
I agree with sagar21. Having children, rearing and nurturing them, watching them become themselves, completes marriage. Yes, indeed, there are couples who married later in life and are without kids, who remain joyful of companionship until and though they get old. But having experienced procreation is something else--it's a joy beyond compare.
@celticeagle (168269)
• Boise, Idaho
21 May 10
You are 27 for heaven's sake! Give yourself a break! Family love is a curse and a joy. Take it for what it is and be glad you have them. (Gotta love 'em huh?)Nothing wrong. You have plenty of time. Enjoy your life and laugh off the pushy relatives. One day at time and do what you feel.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
4 Feb 11
There is absolutely nothing at all wrong with being 27 years old and not yet being married. In fact, in the world today, it is much more common for women to wait until later in life to get married because they want to establish themselves in their career field before they want to get married and start a family. Myself, I got married when I was 24 years old, but that was because I met the person that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with when I wasn't even really looking for him.
@lipstick2009 (1236)
• Philippines
20 May 10
I know its not easy.This is about our future, and not just an ordinary task that we must accomplish or anything just to please everybody.
People should marry for love.But love doesn.t just show up at a time you expect.You just dont feel the butterflies in your stomach and you don't have to take the plunge just because people think your old to be single.
Love will find you,dont worry.But it does, you wil be ready to get married cause you are in love and not because its a must.
(^_^)
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
20 May 10
We are in the same age and some of my relatives too ask when I'm going to get married but the problem is who I'm going to get married. I haven't found the right guy for me and I'm not looking. I'm still ok to be single and I'm not rushing into things. I don't want to be pressured by them and I don't know when it going to happen. I'm not ready to get married.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
21 May 10
that's perfectly alright. finding a mate and getting settled is probably one of the most difficult decisions one has to make in his/her lifetime. you see, it's no longer the all-love reason to get hitched, there are a lot of considerations. enjoy your blessed singlehood to the fullest and don't allow anyone to push you into something you are not ready to plunge into.