conflict
By JoaniZik
@JoaniZik (90)
Philippines
May 20, 2010 9:34am CST
conflict is natural in a relationship. the hard part is on how to deal with it. how do you deal with conflict in your relationship? some women would say that men should always "give way" to women when it comes to conflict, since men aught to be gentle and loving. men, on the other hand, would say, women are "big mouth" they always start the conflict, they should shut up to avoid conflict." can we say that in a relationship, there should be no conflict for it to succeed? is conflict evil? what's your thoughts about this?
10 responses
@TheIceman33 (347)
• Philippines
29 May 10
conflict is never evil.. conflict is a normal part of every human as ideas and personalities would clash. a world is boring without conflict, whenever there are humans, there is always conflict. just be ready and know how to handle such situation
@Saranggola (956)
• Philippines
22 May 10
That kind of thinking is so one-sided. It should be give and take. Aww. Conflicts can be resolved through proper communication as well as overpowering love. I believe if one truly loves a person, he/she would be more than willing lend an ear to listen.
@chenxiaoyue_713 (2165)
• China
21 May 10
Conflicts are inevitable in relationship, but we can do something to lessen them, as too many conflicts bring bad consequences. The key is that the two persons should communicate as much as possible, so as to know what's on the other person's mind. Conflicts frequently result from misunderstanding, and the best way to overcome it is to exchange ideas and thoughts.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
21 May 10
We come across so much conflict in our lives. It is something we deal with on a daily basis. When we have conflict in a relationship, it can be harder to desl with. One wrong decision leads to bitterness and betrayal. It would be less conflicting to just give in or be quiet but we wouldn't be true to ourselves that way. You have to stand up for what you believe in. If the person involved in your relationship really cares for you, they will understand.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
21 May 10
Conflict for me makes the relationship stronger. It's usually accompanied by adjustment. Relationships should be a two-way street. Both should give way and both should understand each other with the same amount of effort.
@Nickfyoung (323)
• Australia
22 May 10
We are all human and will always encounter conflict. I remember being at a presentation once that was given by a Buddhist monk. Some one asked him the same or similar question and I was impressed by his answer. He said that it was not the start of the conflict that is the problem but how we respond to it. If a conflict arises between you and your partner it is how you react that is going to make the difference. Sometimes it is better to avoid the stress of the fight than to try and get a win. Having that sort of attitude will eventually gain you more respect.
@babshish (1387)
• India
20 May 10
Hi JoaniZik, as in any relationship there is involvement of two individuals, and two individuals cannot have similare thoughts on each and everything, One may go in right direction and other in left direction, so there will be conflict in any relationship at some point of time, Well conflict is not the exact word, but it will be something like different point of views, and it has to be there, else it will feel like you are living with mirror. The main thing is how to handle this and in my view, when we respech each other's point of view,then that relationship is called as platonic relationship. And small arguments and fights tighten these relationships.
@Cactus2010 (167)
• India
20 May 10
One way handle it properly is keep your focus on the issue not on the personality. Listen to point of view of other person also with patience. Avoid generalization and personal comments by all means. this will not take the conflic to bitter level and in most cases conflic will be manageable. Many a times issues are trivial and don't take them too seriously.
There will be no relationship where there will be no conflic at all for all the times. Such a relationship will not be enjoyable. there has to be some conflic sometime or other because no person is photocopy of other person. each one is unique. The conflic is not evil. And if handled properly it gives you chance to understand the other person better. What do you know about a person who has never expressed himself/herself to avoid conflict.
@inday_lorna1970 (1268)
• United States
21 May 10
talk to each other in a calm manner and think a solution how to resolved a conflict instead of pointing each other. I think conflict is always part of life that no one is exempted on it in all kinds of relationship.