What do you think when your friends will show up only if you are rich ?
@wildlittlefan (4680)
Hong Kong
May 20, 2010 11:25am CST
There are many people in this world.Some people will only be your friends only when you are rich and in a good condition .When you are not rich anymore and you are having a hard time in everything,these friends will disapprear like wind.How would you responds to people like that if you have such a friend in life.I don't think you will be aware of this ,only when you are poor and having a hard time in life or only when you need help.That's the time when you can tell whose your good friends and whose not.Share with us about your experience.
12 responses
@strawberrychocodahi (4817)
• Philippines
21 May 10
I can really relate to this one. I have a close friend from College who was my board mate and we were friends till we have our own careers. She married ahead of us although that did not change the situation, we do keep in touch, go out and have fun.
But when I was married and I have to go abroad to live with my hubby and she was left in my country but at least I knew she will be just fine because her hubby is supportive of her and she works too. We continued talking online, keeping in touch until months past that she became so busy with her work, then later on have her own circle of friends. I understand that, this does not worry me because I wasn't around now for her. But the problem was, her attitude towards me became so cold and even if I do took the first step to break the ice or talk, she just ignores me and she talks limited.
By the time, I came back to my country for a vacation and was happy to see her, I keep on asking her when will we meet, 6 months have past, till now she just keeps on saying she is busy, so it wasn't my fault anymore if I have to keep a distance now. She became so busy with her new lifestyle, with her super friends and I know she had a good standing in life. But anyway, I treat her the same, I will just be around when she needs me. But I guess I will not be asking her again for help if I need one because the message is clearer than water.
@wildlittlefan (4680)
• Hong Kong
21 May 10
I like it when you said when she needs help,I will just be around.Yes, it is true that sometimes our frriends really turns us down and we wouldn't know that until times passes by.But it is a pain to see freindship or any relationship end up to be like that.I think it is good to help your friends when they need help.But I think it is not that easy to do the same when they turn you down again.I think every friendship is a risk and an investment.it is because friendhsip will get oppprtunities to hurt you and this kind of investment is always result from a give and take relationship.I think it is always good to give in your freidnship and don't ask anything in return if you can do so.But still I believe deep down in our heart ,we may looking for a friend to tresure us more or remember what good things that we have done for them.I am saying that,we can help our friends on the outside but deep down we are looking for something in return(although it maynot be money or anything materialistic).I think humans are just so selfish and sometimes our true face maybe more ugly than those people we hate or who turn us down or sold us out in frinedship.Well,that's what I have seen in real life and just share some of my feeling towards life.( I have no intention to offence anybody)
That's mylot.
That's mylot.
@amelly (1554)
• Malaysia
24 May 10
right now i'm having avery bad time of my life..my my best friend do support and help me up...i've been crying the whole night and i can't stop..i know there is such friends that only will be with us when we are happy or when we have our wealth..but when things turn around,,they just vanished and couldn't careless..i don't think there play their role as a friend..friend in need is a friend indeed...
@greenace (123)
• Philippines
21 May 10
i wouldn't mind them...it wouldn't hurt me a bit if they'd act that way..i don't live for them and i would also exist without them..i'm not saying that i can live on my own though..it's just that i don't need a fair-weather friend. a friend is a friend if he/she could accept that person in what ever circumstance he might be.
@maanrodriguez (604)
• Philippines
21 May 10
i think people like these should not even be called friends because true friendship overcomes financial status. to real and true friends it doesnt matter if you are rich or poor.
@sender621 (14890)
• United States
21 May 10
If your friends only want to be with you because you are rich, they are probably truly not your friends. If they need your financial gains to have a relationship with you, they are only using you. If you suddenly lost all your wealth, these friends would disappear like a thief in the night.
@vokial_voc (172)
• Indonesia
21 May 10
hm.. i never experience that, but what i experience is some of my friend leave me because they just know that i'm poor, and they only want to befriend with rich one, from that i learned that the true friend is a friend that on our side when we had a misery, and does'nt care we are rich or poor, if you a christian, you can see true friends meaning in proverbs 17:17
@umit_umit (1984)
• India
20 May 10
well my sweet friend this is the reality of the life,there is no doubt about this!in prosperity all are with you and in the pathos no body comes near you!but some how some are good humans and are not shelfish!even if i see myself i can judge myself as ashelfish person!but then life goes on like this as no days are same for everyone!
@princess8881 (1294)
• South Korea
20 May 10
I was nothing before and nobody notice me... but yeah your right after a little bit of change in your status,,,then there will be lots of friends in your side instantly,,, but I just cant treat them as my friend coz i know they are not(what i am to them before?nah i dont think so..) Now I have a little bit of friends.. very few.... but i know they are real
@adeena2000 (845)
• Philippines
21 May 10
That happen to us. When I was young, I could still remember my father has a money more than he could provide for his family. Of course, what packaged then was so called good friends and relatives. Some lived in our house. But unfortunate happened to us, my father got sick, he lost his job to took a rest for health reason. We needed to sell our belongings and properties. We became poor for how many years; we lived as a rat.
Where were his friends and relatives? they were all gone. Nothing could help him anymore.
But when my father coped up with all those hardship. Here they came again like a bees or like a leeches?
Some were critics, exercising their crab mentality.
That was the lesson I learned from that experience, though we have inherited the traits of our father of being generous and kind, we need to watch our actions. We are more discerning on the motives of every person who is trying to get close to us.
@nancy0618 (477)
• Philippines
21 May 10
Life's like that, you can't do anything about it. People stay with you if you have the money Friends stay if you don't. I suggest you just go on with the flow.
@Giftededdie (32)
• United States
21 May 10
well i have never had a friend like that and also, that friend is using you and thats very bad!! THEY are using you just for your money, so i suggest not to be friends with fake firends ok?
