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That's truly a big step, dawnald . . . big thumbs up for having the courage to take that big step ! Done deal - or at least the beginning of the process. I hope the rest of it goes as smoothly as possible for you and the kids! Your reward? You know what I'm gonna say - go skate!

congrats:) hmm..maybe something you've been wanting to buy for awhile,if any? that might be a nice treat.

Hi Dawn Well done on you But he might still not accept it so prepare yourself I went through H*ll so stay strong now and go through with it

good luck, dawn.

Hi dawn, I really admire you for your gumption and courage, go and treat yourself to a new outfit or just pamper yourself, well done to you, you cannot go on the way it has been. Hugs. Tamara

tight at this moment I think that you are a bag of mixed emotions. Pat yourself on the back because you took the first step and you loved through it. There will be many more firsts -but you will succeed with them too. Proud of you girl. Proud of you. Weren't you going to take advice about telling the children? I would go with the advice of a counselor and see if it feels right. I expect that you should both do it together. will everything be all right? IDK. I expect that it will be a gradual process but you will find the strength to do what you have to do. Have you started to think about downsizing? That may have to be an option. However you made the start and I am so proud of you. Now I'm going home to try and save Jamaica. Things are getting uglier by the day. You can taste the tension. On CBS and NBC now. We need this like a hole in the head. God Bless sweetie and keep strong.

Are you wanting to just treat yourself or something with the kids? I was going to suggest ice cream at Cold Stone, they have one in Folsom, not sure about ELD Hills. I love Cold Stone, but rarely go because they cost so much more, but I still think it's worth it. You could sneak over there while the kids are in school. Glad you got up the nerve and survived, I have been there and it can be quite intimidating. I wish you the best of luck. Happy Mylotting!!!

Go for a swim in a vat of chocolate?

Look in the mirror and tell yourelf 'I did it!' and never forget today Dawn! New things might pop up now that you have started the ball rolling but it's what you want and never forget that whatever happens! Brava!

WOW! You have the man parts,huh? Good for you! In his defense it is alot of mixed feelings and I can understand his feelings. But that's where it stops. You need to look toward the future, stay focused, etc. How should you reward yourself? Something for you! What do you want? Do it!

Just store it away in a gift box so that you can bring it out in the days to come. Keep discussing this so that we can support you.

It sure is something to be commended, having the courage to do that and I feel is sad also. I guess is not a matter of rewarding yourself for having the courage to do it. I would recommend your reward involving your kids, spending quality time with them even more. I think there is much need for bonding even more so in those kinds of times.

So the Final moment arrived and you managed to show enough of courage to set yourself free from him Well for the rewards i would offer you some warm hugs and a PAT TAAT on your shoulder

spend his savings on a vacation? hmm...maybe? good to know that you're taking a big step, and doing it with confidence a night out in town would be good. or even a good outing nearby with the kids. a movie followed up by some excitement with the kids will make you feel better, and let you enjoy yourself with your kids too

Brava!! I'm proud of you! You tell me. What is the one thing you stopped doing because you were married to him? The one thing you Really loved to do. Do That! I wish you good luck with telling the kids. Just remember, as long as the kids Know that you both Still love them And that they weren't the reason for the split, they will be ok.

Can you trust hubby not to empty the savings during the divorce? If you are unsure, do something to protect your half of the marital assets. I'd hate to see him empty the accounts and leave you high and dry.

Did anybody here suggest a spa day already? Now, there's a pampering that I even deserve! I think. I could still remember the last time I went into a men's spa. So many many years ago. I thought to myself, now here's a totally different world that not all men know about! Goodluck to you! Hope the kids understand.

Dawny my sweetie, you go to the nearest spa, have them do the facemask please, no offense. After that luxury you go shopping my sweetie. Make sure you take the other credit card, not yours, mind. And after that you will feel better and then you can relax and have a happy life. TATA.

...I'm not pro-divorce person...but If you think, that's the smartest things to do, well..I'm happy for you that you can able to decide on your own. I hope you're happy with your decision.. ...Why don't you try something new? I mean..try those things that really new to you and yet enjoying..what do you think..? :)

The legal system is always intimidating ! One can never be sure of the outcome.However , I can well sypathise with your plight and understand all that one goes through at a time like this.One can of course never be sure whether one did the right thing, not even later when it is done !