Are you able assert yourself when the situation demands? or do you give in....?

Hi kiran, I'm always not assertive. Sometimes submissive. Those whom I don't like I try to avoid them. I don't want to go any clash. It's better to remain far from those whom I don't like. It helps not to break relationship.

Hi kiran, yes I am able to assert myself most of the times in my life.When I am sure of something and determined to have my way, I do make sure that I do so by all means.I hate people dominating others and make them do what they want.I also hate too much of interference in anyones lives , which can lead to frustration and a breakdown in the relationships if one is not careful !

I am a true Arian.You can guess what type of person am I from the following traits.These are 100% applicable to me. Leadership qualities are the forte of Arians. Courage reflects from the readiness, for action, in the people born under Aries. You will be pushed into a novel region due to your desire for excitement. Your confidence makes people follow you while you lead. You fight for anything which you believe to be important. It is not that Arians are intrepid. You remain committed to face your fears and defeat them. Difficulties may creep in due to impulsive actions. You could suffer due to false commencement as you do not collect sufficient information beforehand, probably due to your impetuous nature. In fact, you Arians are very good at starting things that you start working on your next project even before completing the previous one. Your maturity persuades you to slow down your reaction time to take time to think about the consequences of your actions.

I am also a bit like you Kiran! [THis is all for outsiders and not for one's spouse because in thIS context we , who, belong to the patriarchal system have to give in to the man's fair demands. If we don't there is no point fighting ; we jUSt have to walk out.That is a decision thAT is individual.So I exclude that from our conversation.] I keep placing an inordinate value on relationships to the extent of being beaten [even by select very close relatives].I am now totally cheesed off with " need based relationships" and I blame myself for not being fully aware of the nature of people. I just turned a blind eye to what stared me on the face and used to give in [but this I used to do after protesting].My husband used to tell me "you are willing to just injure but not hurt". What is th e use ultimately? We say things and keep doing thngs for the sake of maintaining relationships. We end up fools. Dominating people get the upper hand because we want relationship.They do not want it.Or it should be on htier terms and conditions. It is good that you can be assertive if you want. I am trying to be, but I do have difficulties where my emotions are involved. Emotional detachment goes a long way and also a bit of hardheartedness that would not yield to "What would happen to my reputation ?' would also go a long way. We must all obey our conscience and talk to people the language they can understand [they may not like it but it is their problem]-this last sentence is wishful thinking Kiran because I have a long way to go- I am sure you are also talking about some relative of yours.

I don't like conflict, so I sometimes find myself saying yes when I really should have said no. Then I ask myself, "why did I do that?" I'm trying to speak up more and be truer to myself, but it's hard to undo habits that I've had all my life.

i am the kind of person who tries to avoid confrontation. so most of the time i just back off and let people have their way. sometimes i resist passively and if i can't really stand the situation i leave.

Hi kiran, I'm non-confrontational by nature and give in most of the time in a relationship. But some things that happened recently which made me think about what I'm doing. I'm not doing justice to myself nor to my daughter under my care, if I do not assert myself. My partner took advantage of me during the times when I gave in and I remain quiet. But enough is enough. After some incidents happened which made him realize all the mistakes that he has made, I began to assert myself. We can be at loggerheads sometimes, but I stand firm on my belief. As such, he's got no choice at the moment. I know that one of these days, he'd be pushed to a corner and retaliate. I will be ready for any consequences. He knows that and it terrifies him. He has hurt me enough and I realize that I have not been assertive enough all these while.

There are times in my couple where I will easily be accepting my fault and say sorry but there are times when I will never be doing so in a discussion when I am not to be blame so there's goes the fight and arguments until one is not abandoning. It happens in a normal relationship and I am happy that me and my partner we have both undergone many arguments to be able to still be beside each other.

When I was younger, I was quick to give in.Going against the crowd was not easy. Now that I am older and wiser, I have learned to be more assertive. Certain situations just call for it. You can't let people walk on you because you were afraid of confrontation.