good relationship? bad relationship?

Australia
May 21, 2010 11:37am CST
can anybody tell good relationship from bad ones? how to distinguish bad from good? is there any unbearable things in a relationship to you? im in a relationship as father and little girl. my boyfriends always want to take care of me. if im not around him, he will be very nervous. everytime i want to go shopping, he goes with me. it is very sweet of him but sometimes i do think i need some personal space. im with him for almost 4 years and living together for 3 years. it is very annoying that without me, he wont go out and he is unwilling to let me go out alone. he want us do everything together... is it a healthy relationship, or we should take apart for a while. i do love him and he definitely loves me. we want to make our life together in the future and we are all making effort on it. it just makes me feel hard that im under control sometimes and have no personal life. i am a person who likes to be alone sometimes. go shopping by myself, eat out with nobody and when im very tired, i do wish him to do things all by himself and ignore the existence of me as i am so tired to accompany with him. except this, there is no bid problem for me in our relationship...
3 responses
shawntae54
@shawntae54 (14)
• United States
4 Jun 10
Its important to have personal space in a relationship. One person being too dependent on their partner tends to wear them down. Both individuals need their own hobbies and some sense of their ownself. Its unhealthy to do everything together. There's nothing wrong with being alone at times as this is your me time. Time apart is a great thing as you will miss the person and when you do see each other again its well worth the wait!
deedeehall
@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
22 May 10
i unerstand this kind of thing can really make you want to run the other way.every one needs thier space .after a while it starts to feel like a control issue is this can really get to be a problem.
med889
@med889 (5941)
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21 May 10
A bad relationship is bad when it :lacks understanding. The partner is not willing to understand the other and assert himself/herself on the other. :lacks maturity, as he may not be mature enough to accept new ideas and blame the other for trivial mistakes. :lacks responsibility, to maintain a relationship to the best. :lacks caring and affection, and is always busy after himself/herself and not taking the other partner into consideration.