marriege
By deedeehall
@deedeehall (1144)
United States
May 21, 2010 4:56pm CST
do you believe staying in a marriege for the children is best? my husband has 15 children on his side of the family and i have no family here.i can not get any of his family to help with our triplets . i have been forced to start my own business out of my home because i need money for them so i keep them and work a business. when i ask my husband to take them for awhile on the week ends he yells at them and does his own thing.do you thing i could do just as well alone?i ask him the other day to pick up coffee so that i would not have to bring them all along with me for one item.he said he does not have money for that. he does this alot he refuses to buy any thing that he thinks would help me .we have been married for more then 10 years and he really talks to us all bad.i feel very alone and used .should i prepare for a divorce or go on like this ?i cry all the time when my children are not watching.
3 responses
@LotRowena (158)
• Philippines
22 May 10
Ouch, really ouch. It pains me whenever I heard bad stories about marriage. I can relate to you, my husband left us for another woman. We have six children who are all with me. If I were on your shoes, I will go ahead to file a divorce or for a legal separation at least. The reason why I am going to do it is because I love and respect my children. I don't want my children to hear our arguments but for the last time, I will explain to my children the real score between me and their father. I just think it is not healthy to sacrifice your happiness and your life to someone who do not have the intention of doing the same thing for you. Children will understand and I hope that the decision you're going to make is for them.
@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
22 May 10
i understand and for me i work so hard to give my children the best i love them so much .this is probably hurting me more then them i pay alot to send them to a christian school and provide for them every thing they need and they seem very happy with this. they really do know me more then any one else sense i am the one giving them the full care they need. besides the the every other week end thier father spends with them and then they are upset alot.i feel like it is a little un healthy for me because i find my self feeling some what depressed at times and i cry alot when they are not looking.but i thought maybe me feeling the pain is better then them feeling it.
@gaurav_data (26)
• India
21 May 10
yeah i too agree staying married for children is wrong marrige is a fusion of two souls
@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
21 May 10
i do believe it takes two people trying to make it work.i am just so scared for my kids to go threw a divorce.but some days i feel i am waisting my life away with the same old problem.
@ritsuizero (140)
• Philippines
21 May 10
I don't think staying married for the children is wrong. My mom raised us bu herself and with did just fine. If your husband is like what you say he is it will be even worst for the children if you stay with him.
@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
21 May 10
thanks for your response. i am kind of starting to realize this .its just that leaving hurts me so bad because i think it may disrupt my children.
