one parent or two?

i agree, when the child is thinking that its bad for their parents to be together, and also when the children are affected to those problem the parents are having..

i think if both parents always argue, thye should patch things up, if they really love their children, but if only want to settle the misunderstandings and to catch up for the other, no reconciliation will be made. it is in dire need that both is willing to reconcile and make it up for the second time. unless, such has been done,and nothing good pursues, or reconciliation is'nt effective, it's better for the parents to separate, than let the children see the breaking up of their family.. it will greatly affect their life, their self-esteem, their trust and their perspective in life. if both of you decided to separate, you should put it in an agreement to provide and care for your children.. also, both of you must explain as early as now, the real status between you two, so not to leave the children confused and hating bnoth of you. there's always a way in good conversation.. just always keep an open communication with your children and to your spouse (though not that romantic communication anymore, just for the sake of the children) but if things can still be settled, try fixing it.. there could reasons to still stay together, beside, you two, could have never married if you don't love each other, right? so if there's still a chance, even if it's a slim chance, try to reconcile. God Bless, i hope whatever you decide is beneficial for every member of your family.. Keep the love flowing, and the heart beating.. that is the key. :)

if they often to fight, it is better for them to separate in order to avoid children seeing them fight. slow but sure, kids will understand what had happened and they know that their parents do whatever they can do to do the best for the kids.

Well that is kind of hard because the children need both parents, and if the the parents can't get along then maybe counseling should be considered first, but if all else fails, then as a last resort that should be the last possible choice. So if two homes are the only choice just be civil for the childrens sake.

hi deedeehall i think that wouldn't be the best decision would you just give up for you family?? think about your child growing with their parents are separated, i think they don't like to grow without their parents together, if you are saying that they do have a problem, how about counseling?? so they can solve their problem for the better.. and if such counseling won't help they must understand each other for the sake of their child, but if there are physical contact when they do fights i think that the point where they should go different ways,, have a nice day..

My parents split up for good when I was almost at the end of elementary school and I actually liked it a lot. When a child is put in a house when the parents aren't getting along, there's just a lot of tension and it's uncomfortable. Splitting up was the best decision my parents could have made both for themselves and for my brother and me.

If parents are almost constantly at a battle with one another it is best for them to seperate. It hurts a child more to see their parents fighting than for them to live in different places with different parents. And a lot of times, ex's seem to be able to patch up their differences once they are no longer together. They seem to be able to come together for the better of the children once they understand they are no longer attached to themselves.

It would be better for THEM to just separate. But it will be the worst thing that will ever happened to their children. Not having a whole family will be bad for the children as they grow up. They need the attention of both of their parents. Broken family is never good.