Possesiveness.
By common_man
@common_man (1799)
India
May 22, 2010 4:59am CST
Recently I talked to one of my netfriend(Virtual friend) On talking to her she told me that she is in love with a person through virtual interactions. That guy has asked her not to talk to any other virtual friend and asked her that she should send her sim card to him, as a prrof that she is not talking to any other Virtual friend. The poor stupid girl did so.
I was shockedto hear it. I thought if the guy is so much possessive that he wants to put restriction on her social interaction with her friends then she will have very tough time in future if they can mange to get married and stay togather. I have given her hint but not directly told her so, as I was in dileman weather to tell her directly or not.
Question is why so much possesiveness? why put restriction on your lover? If you have been in my place will you tell her directly in blunt language ? Do you think the girl should progress further with such guy?
Your views please.
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8 responses
@achilles2010 (3051)
• India
22 May 10
This girl is completely under this guy's spell. Nothing can now change her mind. To handover, her SIM card is the most stupid thing she did. I am sure her future is doomed. Once she gets married to him, you will see that he would make her life miserable. How can one fall in love with another only through virtual interaction? It is a good thing that you did not tell her directly. I am sure whatever has transpired between you and her she would tell him and you will be earning his wrath too. I know one such person. She not only deleted me from her friends list but both have stopped interacting with me.
@common_man (1799)
• India
22 May 10
Hi sir,
I have received ur sms. I tried to reply by sms /talk but could not, thanks to Communication service provider.
What you have said is right(SMS). I was not bothered about wrath from that guy, but thought it fit to keep quite. Once an individual gets adulthood, we have to give him/her freedom to learn from their own mistakes, if they can not learn from developments in surrounding. And in matters of love its always better to stay away from other's matter,i thought.
Thanks you appreciated me staying quite.
@achilles2010 (3051)
• India
23 May 10
I will call you up Sir, later in the day. There is some problem in that region with the network. Thanks !
@Bellapop (1279)
•
6 Jul 10
This is not just possessiveness and is potentially simething very complex and complicated. The girl should not have sent her net friend her sim card, she obviously doesn't know him that well, and he could be anybody, bad... By sending her Sim card over, she will potentially pass on a lot of personal details and sensitive information. You should have directly told her rather than hint it, this can be very serious if the net guy is some kind of psychopath or had bad intentions. No one who is rational would ask someone else to not talk to anyone else, that is alarm bells ringing, and this is before they've even got together and met up as friends, I hope you could look out for her more and hopr your friend will stay safe...
@common_man (1799)
• India
7 Jul 10
Hi bella thanks for response. Yes I would have told her directly. But i could not. Hope she is safe and fine.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
23 May 10
Hi, common_man. I know me, I would tell her about this. I could not hold my breath for too long. This guy is a very jealous man. And if she continues to stay with him, there is no telling what he may do to her. If a man would ever do this to me, before we got married, I would have dropped him very quickly. He would never stay with me acting this way. Why is so jealous and possessive anyway???
What is his real reason for being this way with her. If she have not given him a reason to be possessive, then that means he has a major problem of insecurity!
Even if she gives him a reason, he still does not have to react this way.
What is his real reason for being this way with her. If she have not given him a reason to be possessive, then that means he has a major problem of insecurity!Even if she gives him a reason, he still does not have to react this way.@common_man (1799)
• India
23 May 10
Hi friend thanks for response.
Even I wonder how that guy can act in such a manner and and how my friend is tolerating it.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
23 May 10
I think that she should be very careful. A person that is so demanding and possessive can harbor other issues as well. Those are often just warning signs. Sometimes people that treat their lovers that way are often guilty of such actions themselves. I think that I would warn her that you thought it was odd that he would demand such things. Ask her why she thinks he doesn't trust her too. It won't be long before the guy tells her you are off limts too. He'll more than liely isolate her as much as he can to assure his control.
@common_man (1799)
• India
23 May 10
Hi jenin
thanks for response.That is my concern to that my friend my get isolated and become total slave of that guy. and in such conditions no body will be able to help her.
@common_man (1799)
• India
23 May 10
Hi Jasmeena,
she has never met the guy in person. Even I wonder how she allowed him to control her.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
23 May 10
First of all, trying to meet men online for love can lead to many harmful things. But don't you feel your friend is a bit too naive to show that she is trustworthy to a person she has never even met in real life? She should not be using internet on the first place. A sim card is a like the hard disk of a cellphone. It has many information which this man can use for negative purposes. It is like she is letting him have her key to the house. I just feel this guy played her. It has nothing to do with possessiveness. Someone must report this to her parents.
@common_man (1799)
• India
23 May 10
Hi friend. Thanks for response and advice. The SIM has some information. I also think that the guy has played her and now she is in her total control. Probably she ill not listen and believe anybody else at this stage.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 May 10
That's absurd. She hasn't met this dude and she's follow him already like some slave? She's being ridiculous about this. You should tell her to stop this nonsense and start meeting people in real life not over the net.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 May 10
That's absurd. She hasn't met this dude and she's follow him already like some slave? She's being ridiculous about this. You should tell her to stop this nonsense and start meeting people in real life not over the net.
@common_man (1799)
• India
23 May 10
Hi friend,
you are right. I also feel she should start meeting people in real life.
Thanks for response, and happy mylotting.
