Go with the flow means you do whatever
By syankee525
@syankee525 (6261)
United States
May 22, 2010 7:22am CST
i saw a discussion about going with the flow.
some know some of the things ive been dealing with from family and my daughter being sexaull assulted by a friend, and family members still are friends.
we got two grandsons, and my son and his wife are having a third. im not like oh boy yes another grandkids. not happy at all. just another grandkids we wont see.
but my wife and her family keeps telling me and my daughter we need to go with the flow, so to me it means ok we just need to do things we dont like, being dis respected by my daughter in law, and pretty much kissing her butt. not happening.
my wife and her family think me and my daughter should go to my son's house, who lives with his mother in law, who's just as fake as her daughter. and when we did go there i would hear my daughter in law reply to her family by their right title to the kids, aunt, uncle, grandma, ect.. and we are just them. my wife said at least our son calls us grandma, grandpapa and aunt
then the issue would be the boy who tried to rape my daughter might be there, and i dont want to be around him, and i know my son and his wife will tell me to deal with it, and i need to forgive him, but they cant forgive my daughter after 5 yrs for yelling. WOW true chirstians
i wont go with the flow on anything i dont like, then i matter awhile get drunk, smoke pot since lot of freinds does it, and i matter well cheat on my wife since she wants me to go with the flow.
i wont go with the flow if i am not being respected, and i wont be nice or pretend things are ok with someone if its not. i am going to stand up for what i bleive in, and if my wife and her family wants to be a$$ kisser they can right ahead. i never did or i will not kiss no one a$$ to see my grandsons.
so do you go with the flow? or stand up for what you belive
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5 responses
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
22 May 10
Hi, syankee525. No. I don't just go with the flow. I don't believe in kissing no ones behind.
It is true that you must stay mature and humbles for your wife and daughter's sake. But somewhere down the line something needs to be resolved. And it seems like you may be the one that has to do it. Talk to your family about how all of their nasty attitudes is effecting you. You also need to sit down and talk to the guy that possibly assaulted/rape your daughter. Your daughter-in-law really needs to chill out with this mess! She is acting so childish.
Tell your wife how you feel when she takes their sides.... She needs to see that you are very upset at what is going on. Communicate with the people in your family that are causing you and others strain and aggravation. I hope that this will become solved. Take care.
It is true that you must stay mature and humbles for your wife and daughter's sake. But somewhere down the line something needs to be resolved. And it seems like you may be the one that has to do it. Talk to your family about how all of their nasty attitudes is effecting you. You also need to sit down and talk to the guy that possibly assaulted/rape your daughter. Your daughter-in-law really needs to chill out with this mess! She is acting so childish. Tell your wife how you feel when she takes their sides.... She needs to see that you are very upset at what is going on. Communicate with the people in your family that are causing you and others strain and aggravation. I hope that this will become solved. Take care.@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
22 May 10
yeah talked to my son, his wife, and the rest of the family. as far as me sitting and talking with that guys not a good idea unless he wants to die.
he is a peice of crap, he is laughing at all of us. saying so he's not allow here anymore but still hanging with her brother and cousins. so me sitting with him not a good idea. i worry if i see him, not scared of him but for him, i am old school thug.
but yeah no one else is even or want to try to make this a family again.
and my wife and her family i call them the brandy bunch. all they know how to do is kiss butt. and pretend. when in fact the whole thing with my son's wife and my daughter could have been stopped 5 years ago, i told my son he needed and should have told them both to knock it off. and they will respect each other no matter what before they got married.
let put this way to my daughter in law we arent family, just her side. we dont rate as grandparnets because we dont have money like her family.
but they are christians ok suppose to be.. fakers
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
22 May 10
They are not Christians. Christians don't act and carry on in a nasty manner. They try to embrace one another and treat each other very kindly. I do hope that your in-laws will stop acting like they are so better than you all. So this daughter-in-law is your son's wife??? Is this the woman that you wife said that you could stay with, her and your son? If so, I know that this is out of the question. Your daughter-in-law is very mean and nasty.
@shynepapin101 (1879)
• United Arab Emirates
23 May 10
Going with the flow would mean accepting everything as it goes and do things as people do it. I understand your pain about your wife's family just try and handle things right, she is your wife and you both share somethings is common. Concerning your daughter is not good to go with the flow as long as she is being sexually abuse. Your know what you are doing, you just have to be more watchful and more restricted when it comes to your grandkids, treat them how you will and wwant to regardless of how they want.
@p_vadla (1685)
• India
22 May 10
Going with the flow is a formula that makes us pliable, easy going and lets daily chores not bother us.Where as standing up for oneself gives one uniqueness and a colour and is a symbol of courage and brings glory to life.I want to be 'Go with the flow' type with a reasonable degree of decency.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
23 May 10
I don't always go with the flow. I like to when I can but there are some times that it just seems crazy to go along with others. I am not much of a follower so it can be hard to go with the flow all the time..lol..so no..I stand up for what I believe in.
@much2say (55901)
• Los Angeles, California
22 May 10
Go with the flow . . . well, that's always a good idea, but only to a point. If we're talking issues here and there, it's possible I can tip toe through them and go with the flow. But if there's massive garbage around me, I'm not going to be the one who tries to swim through it. Chances are you will eventually drown yourself in it! I'll at least try to find the path so I could walk around it!! Let's think about this . . . if a family friend tried to rape my daughter, that guy better not be anywhere near my family - ever - and I would never forgive him (nor would I ever have to). It's not something you just "get over". As far as the rest of the family, I can deal with being courteous, but there's no way I'd be an a$$kisser . . . that's just too fake and too stressful - why do it. My mom bit her tongue for decades with her inlaws . . . she saw it as suffering when I say she could have stood up for herself. And so, I learned from that and tell it like it is (at least I try) to my in laws and everyone else. I refuse to be "nice nice" when my heart tells me it's not being honest to myself.
