Age difference

@cip116 (1011)
Romania
May 23, 2010 5:00am CST
Many couples are large differences by age.I exclude couples in which interest is money. My grandmother was 10 years older than my grandfather. When they were married..no one gave that a future marriage. But I have never seen so happy marriage like theirs. You know these example?
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24 responses
• Philippines
23 May 10
I know some couples who have large age gaps. It goes to show that love doesn't choose any age. I admire these people cuz they're brave enough to risk it to someone they might not get along with cuz of the age difference.
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@cip116 (1011)
• Romania
23 May 10
I think that during relationship, the two approaches and age is no longer seen:)
@xeroeight (1060)
• Philippines
23 May 10
I don't know any of my relative or people around me that has a gap of 10 years in their age and got married. well for me the age gap between a to couple is not an issue when getting married as long as they love each other its OK, But sadly there is really incident that money is the reason why some people married to a person with a big gap in their age.
@cip116 (1011)
• Romania
23 May 10
It is a sad truth:(
@umabharti (3972)
• India
23 May 10
hi,good points all around.Love,trust these are very good and marriage with such things would go very best.If strength is there in the relationship then any hurdle can be crossed.
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@cip116 (1011)
• Romania
23 May 10
you are right :)
@camomile07 (1420)
• Germany
25 May 10
Well, my father is fifteen years older than my mother and they married almost fourty years ago. They still live together, so I think that these kind of marriage and relations are possible and based on love.
@karen1969 (1779)
23 May 10
My husband remarried a woman who is much younger than he is, he is 64 and she is 39. They have been together around 13 years now and have a daughter together, who is nearly 10 years old. They get on brilliantly and make a wonderful couple. My Dad is young for his age and my Stepmum is mature for her age, so the age difference does not seem too big in reality. I think relationships with a big age gap can definitely work, but it depends on the chemistry between the couple.
@cip116 (1011)
• Romania
23 May 10
I am glad that in your family there are happy cases:)
• Philippines
24 May 10
age must never measure up to the quality of love you have for your partner! i know a lot of young people who are more mature than those old people i know...so age will never deter the strength of a relationship..its the commitment that counts!
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@TexLadyPj (1328)
• United States
25 May 10
I read all of the responses and did not find this comment. My husband is 15 years older than me. Money is not an issue, we planned well for our retirement. My comment is regarding age of retirement. His health is declining, I am relatively healthy and want to travel. He doesn't. Just a thought.
@jlamela (4897)
• Philippines
24 May 10
I've known some couples in my surroundings who have a huge age difference, some having more than 10 years age gap. Well, some of them are happy and some not. I think it is not the age which dictates in the relationship, it's on one's point of view and maturity. So having a huge age gap does not matters in the end.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
24 May 10
When you have a comitted relationship, age should not be a barrier. It should make no difference about who is younger or older. The relationship will survive if the the feelings are real. Don't let age get in the way of your happiness.
@kaylachan (71941)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
24 May 10
I am in a relationship with a man that is almost exactly twenty-three years older then me. And, I can tell you money really isn't the issue. Because we both don't have any. We're both almost always broke living from paycheck-to-paycheck. So of course yeah. If you care about someone enough age shouldn't be an issue.
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@oldchem1 (8132)
24 May 10
My husband is 9 years older than me and it has made no difference to our marriage. We have been married now for almost 40 years
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@elvieb02 (695)
• Philippines
24 May 10
my paternal grandmother and grandfather had 15 years difference. when my grandma was born, my grandpa took care of her and asked her parents' permission to marry her when she grew. then my maternal grandparents had 10 years difference. I both know that they had wonderful marriage.
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@shinxna (36)
• Philippines
24 May 10
In the matter of the heart, there are no age barriers. It will always be a mystery how two people fall in love regardless of all the odds & differences.
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@ronz30 (275)
• Philippines
24 May 10
I think it's better if the guy is older than the girl but if the girl is older than the guy it seems like the guy has a motive which is negative and especially if the girl there is rich.. but who knows Love is really blind that no matter how old or young you are you can still have the one you love without hesitations... :))
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@shibham (16977)
• India
23 May 10
my mom and dad has 7 years difference but i never want to maintain in case of me. i think 3 years minimum difference will be sufficient to survive a happy married life. i need some understandings between us and in this regard, age differences may be obstacles to some extend. have a nice day.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
23 May 10
A friend of mine has been with her partner who is alot older than her and she has been with him for about 5 years now and they are very happy.Yet another friend of mine was with a younger man who was alot younger and he used to chat up all the women of all ages aswell as bragging to people that he was with an older woman.I think what he was looking for was a mother figure asw hes now with someone else who looks older aswell as dresses older than his own mother,yes hes still chatting up other women aswell nothing changes there.
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@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
23 May 10
Sometimes these big gap in ages can work out fine. But if i had a choice i would not look a girl more than 3 years younger than me and two years older than me . it had to be between that age group. I don't want a girl thinking I'm superior over her or the other way round. I want everything to be equal.
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• Mexico
23 May 10
Hi cip: In my case my mom is older than my father and this hasn't been an obstacle. In these cases I think that age is just a number as people usually says. I would care for the age only if it's a big problem, and that means extreme cases like 20-30 years of difference. Lol. XD. But in general if both persons are adults there's nothing wrong in having a relationship with someone older/younger than you. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day. ALVARO.
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@caliya (1169)
• Philippines
23 May 10
My grandfather is 10 years older than my grandmother. I don't think was an issue when they got married. I am sure they lived a happy marriage as they had lots of kids together
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@mokkka (881)
• Bulgaria
23 May 10
I am also quite confused about it.I have always been on the opinion that it is better if there is a big age difference something like 10 years and even more because as the man is already grown enough he may be a steady one.Person who may provide you and learn you to many things he had been through.On the other hand sometimes I see such couples breaking because of difference in interests because it is quite normal that an older man thinks about totally different things than for example a teenage girl.