Would you date a married man?

Philippines
May 23, 2010 4:09pm CST
I hate to burst other women's bubble but what they're feeling is not true love. There's a lot of downsides to it-most of which put you on the losing end. Some are flirting because they believe it boosts their self-esteem, but there are some many ways to make someone feel good about themselves. A better way is to rework their lives. Like one should get into a hobby for example or if it's their social life, they one should make new friends or connect with those they've lost touch with. One should asked first - what did I get from flirting? Admiration support? Well then surround yourself with people who can legitimately give you that. Change departments, jobs, weekend gimmicks. Transform your life.
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14 responses
@Angelwriter (1954)
• United States
24 May 10
Never. I find it unethical. If I were married, I wouldn't want to feel that kind of hurt if I found my husband was cheating on me, so I wouldn't want to be a party to it with someone else's husband.
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• Philippines
24 May 10
Well said! Kudos for you! Thanks for responding.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
24 May 10
I could not see myself dating a married man. the relationship would already have one strike against it. There would not be much future for you with a married man. He already has a commitment with someone else. If he would break that trust to be with you. Sooner or later, he would do the same thing to you. Dating a married man is a recipe for unhappiness.
• Philippines
24 May 10
Well said; sure does. If a married man cheats for me he is immature and selfish because even if he has already committed himself to another, he acts as though the only feelings, needs, and desires that matter are his. Girls should get smart like you.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
24 May 10
no mercedlegurpa I would never date a married man as I would not want to break up a marriage and besides to me thats imoral and I like to be able to face myself when I look in the mirror. Not that I am going to date anyone at my age. Your discussion is a great one. one time we helped this woman and her drunken husband as we felt sorry for her and the kids. but she kept on coming onto my husband and he was too dammed innocent to realize it.But when she ran up to him, threw her arms around hin, and bussed him on the mouth with her damned legs wrapped around his hips, I had had enough. I yanked her off, told her that if she ever did that again I would break her scrawny neck. she did get the picture.
• Philippines
24 May 10
Hi Hatley, if I were in your shoes, I would do the same. But your husband sure does loves you and I'm happy for you. You unleash the woman in you. Thanks for responding.
• United States
24 May 10
I personally wouldn't date a married man because I want to live my life as much as possible the right way. For other women reasons to avoid dating a married man would be 1) it probably wouldn't go anywhere (marriage) 2) be hurting another person even indirectly and 3) just plain wrong. I guess if your not worried about where your soul is going after you die then you might date a married man.
• Philippines
24 May 10
You are absolutely right! Thank you for responding.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
24 May 10
I would not date or be a mistress to a married man. It would be wasting my time and its just not the right thing to do. I would put myself in the wife's shoes and know I wouldn't want it done to me. What goes around comes around. I believe in having and maintaining good karma. Its just a wrong thing to do and I just don't understand why there are so many women who would waste their lives on someone elses man.
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• Philippines
24 May 10
Now these days there are few women who prefer to be of high morale like you. Keep it up! Thank you for responding.
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
24 May 10
Never in my life I would date a married man. I dont have any plans of becoming a mistress. I would rather stay home and be lonely and alone than date married man. My life is already miserable so I would not enter into such thing that makes my life more miserable. I dont care if he is hot as tom cruise or brad pitt. I still dont want to go for a date with a married man. Certainly a big NO NO NO NO
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• Philippines
24 May 10
Kudos for you girl! Some women thinks that flirting boost their self-esteem. They're even proud if a married man would get involved with them. These women too are hungry of attention and being tagged as a home wrecker? Well they just don't care. I think they have no conscience.
@tuyakiki (3016)
• India
23 May 10
Certainly,I will.. If he is someone so hot like Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt!!
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• Philippines
24 May 10
Thanks for responding.
@ifa225 (14461)
• Indonesia
26 May 10
no i would not. i am thinking if it was my husband who is flirting by other woman. it must be hurts
@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
24 May 10
NOOOO!!!Honesty and commitment is above everything. If he can cheat on his wife, he also does the same to us. I won`t even date a man who is unmarried, but has problems with his girlfriend. I remember an IT staff with a bright future (he is sent by the company here in Jakarta to Switzerland, like on the job training whatsoever). He admits that he has girlfriend (in Surabaya.They work at the same company but different branch. He used to work in Surabaya before moving to Jakarta), he said that he loves me and he asks me to sleep at hotel!!!That`s CRAZY, isn`t that?
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@TheAdvocate (2392)
• Philippines
24 May 10
Nope, not gonna happen. That spells heartache with a capital H. If he can do it to someone whom he has made a commitment, what will stop him from doing it to me in the future?
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• Philippines
24 May 10
Hi TheAdvocate, we should raise the flag to do right and not being immoral. You belong to the moral group. Thanks for responding.
@acey76 (1276)
• Philippines
26 May 10
No, I wont....im thinking of his family....dont want to hurt them
• Philippines
26 May 10
Of course if we show empathy to other people, we tend to value more of their feelings and because of this our moral values stand out. Thank you for responding.
• Ghana
24 May 10
Ok now I find this question very interesting. Now I really don't recommend a woman dating a married man as it is not something that is very nice and something you can rely on. You could end up getting a heartbreak as the man has his family and to him they are his number one priority and definitely not you. And you should also know that you will be destroying a happy family.
• Philippines
25 May 10
It's definitely true, dating a married man would cause us women a very complicated life. And hes finished and fed up, we're also suffer and downright devastated. Thanks for responding.
@djemme (77)
• United States
24 May 10
Absolutely not, I would never date a married man. If he's willing to cheat on his wife to date me, he'd be willing to cheat on me as well. It would tell a lot about the type of person he is ... it would also tell a lot about the type of person I am, if I were a party to such immoral behavior.
• Philippines
25 May 10
Our moral values keep us on the right track; I admire how you dealt with the morals of life. Thanks for responding.
• Philippines
24 May 10
It's definitely a big NO for me. It's inappropriate. Think of it this way, if you were the wife, would you want to have your husband date another woman? Besides, I don't need men to boost my self-esteem. Furthermore, there's a lot of hot guys out there who aren't committed to anyone.
• Philippines
24 May 10
You're right girl. Singles are much better and less complicated. Kudos for you!