Hard To Be Single

Well it is not a good thing to do to jump into from one relationship to another in a short time. I think that will not be good for her at all. She is not allowing her to heal from the past. I think getting out from an emotionally abusive relationship needs to have a break in it to find herself back. I think that past has been haunting her that she fills in the vacuum inside her with love from the outside which becomes a vulnerability for her to get being abused in some other means as well. Try loving herself first before finally saying she is ready to go around and say she is ready for another relationship. It is said that before you can love others you should start loving yourself before you could share it with others. Fill yourself first before sharing it with others.

I do not think it is so hard to stay single because we have many advantages too such as no one will ask you everytimes where are you going, what are you doing, no many phone calls, no many missed calls and no tension what to wear or things like this. So in everybody's life there is a period where we are single and we should live it to the fullest to be able to do not regret afterwards.

Good that your cousin stopped having relationship with that guy. Actually, your cousin`s position is same like mine. I started being single again in 2007, it was so terrible break up. Then after that, I got stressed, kept blaming myself for not fighting for our relationship (after that, he said sorry then he still had feeling for me, which doesn`t mean anything to me), I started joining online dating, but didn`t know why like it seems I just want to have a boyfriend because I don`t want people to judge me picky or something as I am 33 now. Last year, I met my ex neighbor from FB, and I thought he`d be the one, but he is dishonest about his previous failed marriage, so I stopped the relationship. I am trying to have positive self-concept now, I want to get married, but i don`t want to get married just because of social status or pressure.

well maybe your cousin feels that it is unusual if she dont have a boyfriend, thats why she was doing it. to get a new boyfriend then if she feels she is tired on it then she will dump them. being single is not a hard thing, actually it will makes you do all the things that you had not do before. i never know anyone who does not want to be alone.

I was the same as her when I was younger. I hated not being in a relationship and I believe this led to my making some bad decisions, as I ended up in unhappy relationships. With my current relationship, we were together 13 months before we started living together, so we had more spoace and freedom and I think this worked very well, as we have been together 13 years so far.

For me it's no .. Therefore we have diff. thoughts about it so I respect yours.. I just don't think it's really hard to be single because as long as we have our families then there's nothing to worry about because we are loved by them that much..

i will found it hard. cause we always need somebody when we live. and i have not seen any that could live all alone.

For me single is hard to deal if your parents don't support you emotionally,and materially even if you have a money it has different happiness of being a single and to a married even if have many problems in marriage life.

What a conincidence! One of my friends has been doing the same. I feel someone who gets out of a relationship finds the air of being lonely too hard. So they simply go with anyone who comes in their way. This as far as I know is wrong. After a breakup one must spend some time alone to move on and at the same time figure out what kind of relationship is really suitable for her. I did that and then finally I got the ultimate man in my life. It is always good to take break from dating anyone. I have been trying to explain this to the friend I mentioned above. But she is just going with all wrong guys. By the way, she is not only dating a guy, but also flirting with a bunch of others. It is very immature of her to do it. And the guy she is dating told her always that he isn't ready for a relationship, but she keeps chasing him. I talk to her ex who knows what she is up to. According to him, she is just being kiddish. He keeps laughing at whatever she is doing.

Your cousin has been hurt deeply,so she has been jumping from boyfriend to boyfriend,she just need feeling of safety. When a person feels alone or lonely,he/she just feel unsafe.It is hard to be single if one doesn't has friends,not only boyfriend /girlfriend.The people around him/her should pay more attention to your cousin,take more time together with her and tell her that you love her and care her. That's my opinion,good luck~

I think if you have been in a relationship for a long time, or had relationships over a long period of time, then you could become accustomed to having someone in your life, and so to be without someone I guess could be hard, but I think a lot depend on the individuals circumstances... like if they broke up with someone that they loved and really got hurt, maybe they would not want to get with someone else because they could be frightened of the same thing happening again... or perhaps some people react like on a rebound type thing in which they just have to be with someone to keep thier minds off someone else possibly... I think everyone is different, for me personally if I break up with my boyfriend I do not think that i could get with someone else, but then I have children so it would be different anyway... maybe for some it is just hard to be single, for me it would not be hard to be single, the hardest part for me would be dealing with a relationship break up.

I can leave alone, I think it isn't as hard as you think. Particularly at such young age, ya it's hard at 50-60 but not as of now. I think she must get married if she can't live alone, because she might get frustrated with many break ups in the relationships, I think marriage is the best remedy for refraining loneliness. Isn't it? What do you think?

maybe she should go slow and be friends. Often when relationship become close , they will start to judge each other and enforce they will on each other to change.For me being single has its benefits also. Can spent time more for oneself ,and sometime go out for drinks with friends and also so some sports activity with friends. If got girlfriends sometime have to do her things. Nowsday it hard to find a compatiable spouse. However, they are days that are lonely and we wish to have a girlfriend around.Haha.I guess guys are like rubber band ,can be stretched but after reach it limit it will bounch back.