Do gifts bind a relationship?
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
India
May 24, 2010 8:50pm CST
Everyone likes gifts from someone special. Not to mention, gifts are an expression of love, but isn’t it rather materialistic a way to tell your partner you care. Or is it a convenient/easy way to express feelings.
I think Gifts can help to bind a relationship only if they are meaningful and a symbol of the depth of the relationship. However, gifts aren't going to do the job alone: it takes much more than a well timed/well executed gift to bind the relationship between two people
How important are gifts in creating a bond of love, or even sustaining it?
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16 responses
@vanease (23)
• United States
25 May 10
I dont feel that gift bind a relationship at all.While it is always nice to give or receive gifts I dont think they really make the relationship stronger. I think it means more to give a gift that you made yourself. When someone gives me a gift they made thereselves it means alot more to me because of the time,love and thought that went into it just for me.
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@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 May 10
Gifts with personal touch are great and they express feelings.
Thanks for the response.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
25 May 10
Hi Ajay,
I think it all depends on the person really. I am so not a materialistic person. When I got married, our wedding rings were made by an indian that we both knew and cost less than 50.00. They meant the world to me. I have a friend that is extremely wealthy. It took him forever to understand that huge displays of gifts did little more than make me awkward and uncomfortable around him. He got it. The first really memorable gift I got from him was a handwritten 3 page letter that he wrote expressing his feelings about our friendship. I will save that letter forever. Now if he buys me a gift they are small but meaningful.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 May 10
Thats very good gift, I am sure that love letter will always remind you the expression of his feelings.
All the best and thanks for the response.
@GemmaR (8517)
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25 May 10
I like to get gifts for my partner and I love getting gifts back from him.. but I don't think it is the most important thing in the relationship.
I think the type of gift shows the depth of the relationship as well.. flowers and chocolates are for the early stages.. perfume a bit longer.. underwear when you're ''exclusive''..
Things for the house like bed sheets are for long term relationships.. so I do think you see where in a relationship a couple are based upon the type of gifts that they send to each other.
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@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 May 10
Agree that gifts are important in relationship but love is a must thing.
Thanks for the response.
@StefaniClayton (84)
• United States
25 May 10
For me, I would prefer my husband not buy me gifts. I put a higher value on the little things he does that show me he cares. It makes my day when I get a text from him, even if it's just a smiley face. It shows me he was thinking about me, and things like that have a much higher value to me then anything he could buy from a store.
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@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 May 10
Very clear and cute thoughts.
I hope you get all the smile on the face you wish to see.
Thanks for the response.
@aimroma (69)
• Philippines
25 May 10
of course, binding a relationship transcends gifts you receive from or give to a mate.
gifts are OK, as long as it is not a substitute for his/her presence and time for you. personally, receiving and giving gifts especially on special occasions are undoubtedly very sweet.
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@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 May 10
Well said , gifts are not substitues but they are in addition to love. They can boost the relationship for sure.
Thanks for the response.
@penrockerchic (1903)
• Philippines
25 May 10
Hi there!
Gifts may contribute in making a relationship stronger and more exciting. These gifts need not be too expensive. They could be sweet-nothings, a little piece of something that reminds you of how lucky and happy you are to be with someone special. It's a way of showing the person you love that when you saw that particular thing or gift, you instantly remember him or her. It's a reminder also that the gift is a reminder of how special and important your partner is to you. It definitely adds an lement of surprise, a little spice in a monotonous relationship.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 May 10
very Well said, gifts are not replacements but a way to boost the relationship. I love to get surprise gift but yet get one :(
Thanks for response.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
25 May 10
The most precious gift is the connection you Already have with that person. love , respect , friendship, whatever it is. A gift is a token of our feelings for that person. But if the feelings aren't mutual, the gift will just be a gift, an empty gesture.I love surprizing my gut with the things I know he will love. his reaction is precious.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 May 10
Mutual feeling is amust and a gift can not replace that. Its great to see someone happy for any reason and gift does it many times.
Thanks for the response.
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@pulangpluma (334)
• Philippines
25 May 10
It only helps but not really a binding force in a relationship. I still think that the best "gifts" you can give is an actual expression of love through caring supportive actions, loyalty, mutual respect and faithfulness. These are things that really binds love.
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@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
25 May 10
Very true, there is no substitue of expressing true love. Love in any form is true gift whether its loyelty or mutual respect.
Thanks for the response.
@med889 (5941)
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25 May 10
Gifts are given to express love and affection and I would say that gifts should never be as such to bind someone. When someone is gifting someone then the intention behind should be noticed instead of the quality and the price then only a gift will be significant to the other one.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 May 10
Yes, the intention behind gift does matter a lot and price is worth when it makes someone happy.
Thanks for the response.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
25 May 10
Gifts can be bind of a any relationship,but,it's not a basis.
Gifts in form of material things are temporal.
A relationship bind with love and trust is one consider to last.
But,even a relationship which is tested through time still can be broken when love fades.
So,gifts is not an assurance to make a relationship last forever.
But a gifts can be a remembrance for a relationship,when the two person depart from each other.
Have a good day always
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 May 10
Its great feeling to get gifts and when you can connect yourself with that gifts its too good.
Thanks for the response.
@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
25 May 10
hi,Gifts are the symbols to express our love,affection and bond among two persons...it reflects the intensity of affection also...one should get satisfaction with the recognisation by other by giving gifts...
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 May 10
So gift is recognisation of love and satisfaction. well said.
Thanks for the response.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
25 May 10
i don't think think giftsx are necessary to start or keep a relationship. They are a good way to show someone how you care about them. that's what gifts should be used for. They shouldn't be relationship incentive.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 May 10
Gifts are nopt necessary but important to boost your love life. I think they are love booster.
thanks for the response.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
25 May 10
I think gifts play an important role if you wanna create a relationship with someone. Some even fool others into friendship cuz of gifts. If you wanna strengthen a relationship, giving gifts can do the job.
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@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 May 10
Gifts does play important role but it is true love and caring that matters in long run.
Thanks for the response.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 May 10
True, its love that binds the relationship.
thanks for the response.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
25 May 10
I think gifts play an important role if you wanna create a relationship with someone. Some even fool others into friendship cuz of gifts. If you wanna strengthen a relationship, giving gifts can do the job.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
25 May 10
I think gifts play an important role if you wanna create a relationship with someone. Some even fool others into friendship cuz of gifts. If you wanna strengthen a relationship, giving gifts can do the job.