If you had cancer would you like to know?

How old is the woman? And dont ya think she would know what tests she had? I would think the woman would be asking for the results of those test if she doent have alshimers. The daughter is silly not to tell her specially if operations and meds could help the woman. But then if Doc told them there is no hope or way to get rid of the cancer this might be a good thing not to tell her. BUt I think the woman knows!

well i guess it depends on the relationship she has but i would want to know and i would let my close family know too. i would want them to know just to make my last days with them special.

Really good point nixxi and my heart goes out to you. This is a very touchy situation. Normally, I think that I would want to know, yes, If my parents or siblings were stricken with cancer, I would also want to know as I feel that they would as well. With a family member whose health seems to be fading in and out, I often wonder what is going on and if there is something that we all are not being told, so to avoid us worrying etc. I think you are doing the right thing however, by keeping the information under your hat. By revealing to the resident of her health condition, you would be going against the families wishes, even though it is the daughter with whom the resident doesn't actually get on with well. I would not say anything. You could still give the resident a hug mind you. Talk with her, joke with her so to likely get a laugh out of her.. I realize this is a trying situation but just avoid talking about her health condition and you should be fine.

if I'm dying because of a certain disease, I surely want to know so that i can be ready and prepare my self. and its my parents, i think they have the right to know if they are still strong so that they could decide for themselves.

Afcourse i would like to know. Yes its not good news but you would be ready for all the troubles

Hi nixxi!If one of my family was diagnosed with cancer,I will definitely tell them about it to avoid them fell miserable. Yeah they will fell sad for the news but if you keep it secret sooner or later they will find out about it by their own.Can you imagine that?I'm pretty sure this will make them feel more sad.They deserve to know it so tell them and ease their burden by supporting them always.:)

If I had it, I wouldn't want people to keep it from me. At the end of the day, if it is your body, surely you have to know the truth about it. If something inside my body is meaning that my life might be limited, then of course I need to know about it. I would tell my parents if they had it, or anyone else. I don't know why the doctors would have chosen to tell her daughter rather than the actual patient themselves.

Hi nixxi: This is a hard question and I think this would break my heart but I'd prefer to tell the truth to them. I think they deserve to know the real diagnosis and, in my opinion this won't make things worst. For me it's just fair that my mother or father would be prepared for the end and I'll give him/ her my love and support in these hard times. Thanks for sharing with us this sad story but I think it was ok that you respect your friend's decition about her mother. Thanks for asking us this question. Have a nice day. ALVARO.

Well. It's not a simple question could be answered merely by no or yes,quite complicated one I think. There is no necessary to argue with what we are ought to act sensibly and calmly,or should we act as a coward or a hero in the last min if life,coz everything then is unavailable and unmeaningful,no guiltily to express ourselves from the bottom og our heart and control by human natures,no limits ,no compliments,no hesitations...... For me,I'd like to escape from the reality,I dont wanna face it,just cover the fact for me,

Each one of us has this part that do not want to know about our serious illness. But eventually, we still have to know. If I am sick, I would be in denial at the beginning. But later on, I'd still wish that people around have been open about the situation. I can accept that more than just being surprised in the end.

i would like to know if i had cancer, what type it is and how long i have left to live. i've already decided that if i have cancer i would not do anything about it; just let it take its own course, no interventions. i just want to know so i can prepare myself. would i tell my parents if they had cancer? at this stage i don't think i would anymore. my parents are already elderly and would probably not be able to endure the treatments. i think not knowing would save them needless anxiety.

this situation is complicated to handle with.. i can't even imagine my mom or dad in that state. but if it happens i won tell them and i'll keep them happy as far as possible.one more thing i need to say is that mom is really lucky to have that daughter.

One of my family member suffer a multiple stroke and lung infection causing pneumonia to occur.Being staying in ICU hospital on and off for almost few weeks. Even his heart is not beating at the correct rhythm . And the doc said he is living time bom because there is several clots in the vessels in the brain that may cause another stroke.We did not tell him about that. He is weak and need support to go to toilet and use the wheel chair, he can't sit for long and easy get tired. Cannot even sit up by himself , and there are some localized muscle paralysis and his mind is not sharp and slight slurring . We did not tell him his true condition, and he is living day by day peacefully,just have to swallow dozen pills and special diet.About cancer i not sure,if the patients has to undergo chemotherapy or radiation or taking medicine he/she bound to ask questions.i guess if the chance of surviving is few years then better tell, if patient going to die in few months maybe not tell.

I think it's cruel and my heart breaks not only for you, to have to witness such cruelty to the woman who brought this GIRL in to the world and nurtured her to life, etc-- but also to the mother who is the victim here... This is awful. I just ADORE my mom and my dad and I would be mortified to learn that either of my two sisters would choose to do that to them... If you are dying, you deserve to know. Period. What, is she wanting to make it an extra cruel surprise!? Imagine the things you would say to someone if you knew your time was short? Granted we aren't supposed to wait until we're dying to say things that need to be said, and you're always supposed to live each day as your last, but most people don't do this even when they know they should. It's easy to forget... This makes me truly sad. She's robbing her mother of a chance, HER LAST CHANCE, to make whatever amends need to be made before she goes... And if her mother DOES know that she's dying, her daughter is robbing her of the chance to at least know what it is that is killing her! I feel extremely indignant on behalf of this woman and I feel indignant for you since you have to stand by and watch this with an ethical struggle going on inside of you because of this girl's thoughtless decision.... I am truly outraged and hurt and once again spurred to let my parents know how much they mean to me. I would be devastated to lose them but I would show them the consideration of letting them know that they will not be living much longer... As a closing thought I can't help but wonder, is she in effect killing her mother? By not letting her mother KNOW what is wrong, is she also preventing her mother from potentially getting cured? Or is the cancer too far spread so that there's no chance of her living even if she knows?

of course, i need to know why i am not feeling well, i need to know the reason why i am dying and if there is anything i can still do to make sure i don't die younger than i would have thought. i think i need to know that if there is no chance, i will still have the time to enjoy what's left of my life, right? I think cancer is really one of the worse diseases ever to inflict humans, but if this happens to us, acceptance and learning to live the remaining days would be the best way to fight with it. we can't let this sickness consume us, take out our happiness, and of course, we can't let this affect our family relationships as well.

My grandmother has cancer in her liver and her gall bladder, and my mother was angry that the doctor had told her the truth. She thought that it would have been better if the doctor had only told my father and my uncle the truth, because when my grandmother found out she had cancer, she became very sad and she lost her will to fight. My mother thinks that it would have better if she had been able to enjoy her last time without worrying about cancer and dying. I think it is a difficult question. She would probably have been happier if she didn't know, but on the other hand I don't think it is right to hide the truth from her. If it was me, if would prefer to know the truth.

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I think that would depend on the personality of the person involved. If I knew that by telling them they had cancer that it would make them give up on life and die before their time, then no I wouldn't tell them. If they were the kind of person who would focus their energy into getting the most out of the time that they had left, then sure I would say something. There are people who hear the word cancer and think there is just no hope. Then there are those who would fight for every last day they could. It just depends on the person and their personality. The daughter just might know something that you don't know about her mother. If it really bothers you, ask her why she doesn't want her mother told, I'm sure she will tell you her reasons.

it's a difficult situation, only you will know when it will happen to you. for me, i will tell, so that they will be prepared emotionally. they might be things they want to do before leaving.

Yes, I would definitely tell them. even though i don't know how to start but all i know is that i should let them know. because that the only time they stop thinking about things and that the only time they give themselves the chance to be happy and do want they really want to do and not just because they need to do it. for example, fear is the only thing that can make people stop doing what they're doing. if i was diagnosed with cancer, i would rather know. because i would give myself a chance to do what i really like, or experience something i've never done before.