Would you forgive a cheater?

I have never been cheated before but i have been thinking about it what if, i would say that i do believe that it would be hell of a pain and i don't think that i can trust anybody again, and i don't think i will ever forgive that person whom you've trusted to take good care of your heart.

Humans are made for love not for revenge. So, no feeling of revenge. As for forgiveness, I will forgive her only if she realizes what she did was wrong.

Almost every people who love a cheater, forgive a cheater. I see it happening in every household. Even I am, I will forgive a cheater once because if they do repeat the same mistake again they are fooling not me but themselves. And you will not have to trust them no more. It is easily said that done, I don’t really know. Because it so hurting when someone cheats on you and what is easy to detached is the failure to trust a cheater again. I hope cheaters at one time will feel ashamed of what they are doing.

I used to know a cheater. I loved him and forgave him many times. He cheated many times. I once heard once a cheater always a cheater. I think it surely applied to him. I finally told him it was the end. I could not take it anymore.

If you asked me this about 20 years ago I would probably say Yes for only one mistake but after being in a abusive marriage to man that cheated on my all the time for 14 years I would say NO.... I am remarried now and that was two conditions I gave my new husband before marriage.... No cheating or hitting would be tolerated at any point in the marriage.... I have come to realize that I am better than that and I would not have much respect for myself if I would tolerate any of these two conditions.... I love my husband with all my heart but when one steps over that line that has been written in the sand it creates alot of heartful feelings.

I really don't know yet because my husband is faithful to me. Were married for 24 years now. Well if ever he'll do it, I think I'll forgive him and maybe I will ask myself why he do it. Maybe there are some factors that I had to consider first before reaching a certain decision. Maybe I'll prioritize first the consequences that will happened especially it involves the feelings of my children. But I hope it will not happen.

Hey there Gemma, Speaking from experience with being cheated on- I can honestly say that I have not forgiven him totally still and we have been apart almost three years now. I think cheating is a blatent disrespect to the relationship as a whole. When did both parties lose such respect for one another that they are not willing to just let them go first to pursue someone else. In my case the people I was being cheated on with were put in my face constantly and acted as friends- so I felt like more of a fool than anything! Although the girls he cheated with should have felt bad themselves for trying to be my friend and doing the behind my back!...I can't expect others to have the same morals I do. I know I would never do that to a woman! I don't want it done to me!

I don't forgie a cheater easily. Cheating and lying are some things which I hate the most. I can't easily forgive the people. I don't believe a person once he has lyed to me. I will keep an eye on him and recheck the thigns he has told me or simply don’t believe him. It also matters the relationship of me to that person. Lying or cheating will make the relationship bad for sure.

I never seek revenge. Yes if I cant forgive the person, I will not think about him. That is the best punishment one can give a person. Ignore the person totally.

I've been into this situation where in I caught my beau sleeping with my friend and the girl honestly told me that they've been together while we are also in the relationship. She told me that it was the initiative of my beau not to let me know. I was devastated for how many months. I even quit my job just to be away from him and move to another city. It was a good thing that we did not talk for 9 months and we just move on a separate ways. When he came back and asked for forgiveness. Its easy to forgive what he have done to me, but forgetting everything that would not happened. In short he try to win me back and he won. He got me but it took him a lot of time and courage before I accept him again. No revenge in our relationship. Now we are going strong for 3 years and counting many more years to come. Like what I've said I did not make any revenge but instead love him more. I also did not ignore what he did to me. But I always give him reminder and that pissed him off everytime I keep on talking about the past. I could forgive but not really forget every thing what he have done to me.

it's hard when the trust is gone you can choose to continue but things'll definitely change i wanted a break up she didn't

no , i can not forget. but i don t take revenge also. just i will cut his relation ship.

never. why simple, who do that once, do it twice cheating is a habit some people develop. is not a matter of weakness as they might want to express

im going through the same thing.. he cheated on me.. so i had to let go.. i cant take a man who really doesnt love me at all.. the worst part is im pregnant.. ive forgiven him though... i just have to move on, and im still in the process of moving on...

I really cant say for sure what i would do because it has not happened. But thinking about it i would try to keep the relationship going and try to forgive because i do love him very much. but i think that the lack of trust that i would have would eventually tear us apart. because trust plays a big part in a relationship. I do not know if i could get past that.

Well, if my partner cheated on me I will check where my relation went wrong first and try to improve. If again it won't work then I will talk to him as I love my partner so much and he does too that there is no question of cheating. I trust him and have full faith on our relationship. It won't happen in my life for sure. We love each other so much that there is no barriers between us and I know, cheating is far far from our relationship, so no worry at all by now..at this points.

it depends how long i have been in the relationship with the person. If i knew here for a long time and i still have feeling, then i'll probably take her back. other than that, i'll say CYA!!

It depends for me. But if it is really more than i can take in off, i dont think will take him back.. Yeah sure i can forgive him for cheating on me after some time though but i wont take him back for sure. The trust is already gone. In a relationship one important matter is trust. Without trust the relationship will surely end.

I may try to forgive my husaband if he cheated on me but i dont think i would be able to.I think I would harbor alot of anger and resentment and end up destroying what was left of the relationship.I feel if you cant trust your spouse then you have no solid foundation to stand on. Trust is everything. I value honesty above all else. I feel it is very important in a relationship.

i do think you need to weigh things first! if by forgiving him or her youd be happier then go for it! but if you think letting him or her go is for the best then go ahead, be single and happy! but one things for sure though, scars will always be there...some may heal a few days later, a few months later, a few years later but some dont...so lets be careful in choosing who our partners will be and choose those that will be true till forever! but what can we say, we leave it all to our hearts to decide! happy lotting everyone! ;)