When a slight breeze sends you over the cliff...

I wish I could share with you her "apology". Before her whole blowup at me, I had sent her a thank you card. I could tell she got it today. She e-mailed me and was like, even though you did this and this and you annoyed me with this and that, I probably should not bitten your head off. Isn't that a great apology? lol I didn't reply. I don't want to say something I'd regret. For her birthday this past year, I had brought her presents to her early in case me and my parents couldn't be there for her birthday (she lives 3 hours away with her husband). So two days before her birthday we made plans to go see her. She told me she had already opened the presents I got her. I was disappointed because I wanted to see her open them while I was there. She seemed stunned that I was coming down to see her with my parents. She kindly asked to talk to my mom. You know what she wanted? She wanted my mom to keep me from coming down to see her on her birthday. She didn't want me coming to see her with my parents. My sister doesn't know that I know she did that. None of us know why she did that. But my dad pointed out one thing I thought about as well. He said he wondered if she would have let her come to see her if I hadn't already given her the presents.

I'm going to take your advice. All my life I have wanted to be friends with her. And it seemed like in the past year she had finally come around and was treating me well. She was even being nicer to my parents. But lately, I just don't get it.

I don't know a lot of the history with your sister, but I find her actions strange, and if she were my sister, upsetting. If I were in your position, I know what I'd like to do -- walk away -- but because she's my sister, I wouldn't. But I'd still cool it for awhile and let her come to you... Maybe if she thinks "you're gone", she'll think twice about "what if you're really gone"... It might take awhile -- months, even years -- but I think I'd let her take the steps to mend the relationship... (My thoughts, but who knows what I'd really do if I were in your position. Wish I had a magic wand...)

Money problems just suck the life out of us, don't they. Not knowing how one can pay the bills is terrifying.

Oh yes. I think out of everything, I worry about money the most.

That IS funny. I love it when I can laugh about the silliest of thing.

I think you've got a heck of lot of stuff on your plate. I don't know that I could handle everything you are dealing with. It takes a strong woman to "keep on truckin'" (as my dad would say).

Wow, can't tell that by talking to my husband...I already got over it and moving on and don't mind if you need someone to lean on..

You, I think, are one of the few who remember all the other things I've talked about that she has done and said.

From reading your response I can tell, you do rock.

You are so kind. Just remember, you rock too. -smiles-

My sister lives three hours away from us, and doesn't know the extent of the problem. She actually told us to keep our problems to ourselves. She's got a really good life (although I know everyone has issues). But she has been self-centered since she was a teenager. Nothing has changed. Her husband is a sweetheart. He has really mellowed her out. I have to constantly defend my sister because she does says some really cruel things sometimes.

Just curious- why do you bother to defend her if she wants to be so rude to everyone? Just let people think what they want of her.. because obviously that's what she wants them to think, otherwise she'd be kinder to everyone around her.