Here we go again, an adult child wants to move back home and,,,,,,,,,,
@Gemini68nOhio (134)
United States
May 25, 2010 4:49pm CST
One of my sons want to move back home, again due to financial reason and everytime he comes back, he turns the whole entire house upside down. In the beginning, things are always going well, but then on his days off of work, he'll drink and become really mean. We're the one's who have to walk on eggshells and do as he says. The only things that we ask from him are to clean up after himself, feed himself and take care of his own personal necessities. Oh, and to respect our home and us. This stuff will only last about maybe a week. Then he'll turn into a very, mean disrectful drunk, come and go as he pleases and have his friends over for days at a time. He'll treat us like we owe him something. I don't want him back and neither does my husband, but my maternal instincts always kicks in, about having him homeless. Any and all respectable suggestions are greatly appreciated, please!
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
26 May 10
oh honey you got to let him stay some place else. it's one thing to let your adult children come back home, but one who is a drunk is a whole different story. trust me i have a 20 year old son, and he is in college so every summer he is layed out on my couch. but you know something... he doesn't get drunk and he respects my home. You have to let him find a different place to go some where else. i know as a parent we always want to save them, but sometimes the only way to save them is to let them go
@Gemini68nOhio (134)
• United States
27 May 10
Ya, i've put my foot down and turned off my maternal side and told him to find a roommate or rooming house, because not too many grown folks can live under the same roof and rule the house. He's not a child, but he's our child and a grown one at that, who won't listen and does as he pleases, so the apron strings had to be cut.
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@anuraa32 (2446)
• India
26 May 10
It is your house finally. Either you dont take him in or like my parents and many others in India, we are like sat down and spoken to about certain rules regarding adult children living with parents. We dont drink and smoke is just the basic of the rules. Try that. Sit him down and talk to him. Talk to him about all the problems and set some rules for him. It is only when he follows these rules is he allowed to live with you.
@Gemini68nOhio (134)
• United States
26 May 10
I've probably ran out of fingers to count on for how many times he's been in and out of our home. Things were always fine for the first week, but then OMG would happen, leaving us totally dumbfounded as to "who in the world is this person"? So, he's been told to find a rooming house, because life is just too short, for putting up with unnecessary stuff, IN MY OWN HOUSE!
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
26 May 10
Hi, Gemini68nOhio. Well, if he has the money he may need to stay at a motel. If he keeps coming back home acting up eventually then he will be put out. You have to tell him that he can't stay if he is going to treat you all like crap. This is your child and I know that you don't want to see him on the street. It is best that you tell him that he has to be respectable to you all, and if not then he has to go. This is your house.
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
26 May 10
I am sorry to hear that, but if I to have a son like that. I would really impose to be with himself and have his family on their own house. He could not be a good man and a better father to his kids if he is keep on dependent with you or with his family.
Imposing rules with him is not possible I guess because he is grown up man. You can still support them by providing financial support but not really allow them to live in your own house and do anything that he pleases without considering that thing.
@Gemini68nOhio (134)
• United States
26 May 10
Yep, most drunks do only care for themselves. No, my mistake, not even themselves, because otherwise there wouldn't be so much chaios going on in their lives.
