Divorce laws in your country fair or biased towards women ? are you satisfied?
By Sreesumant
@Sreesumant (122)
India
May 26, 2010 2:47pm CST
Divorce has become a very common issue these days all over the world including India. I had a divorce a few years ago and realised the pitfalls of the system, it was not easy .Later we decided to amicably settle matters out of court and both of us were satisfied with the outcome.
Later I have seen a close fiend get thoroughly disillusioned with the legal system which seems to be very fair to women in print, but is quite the opposite when one actually faces it in the court rooms. A competent lawyer can literally throw the case out and make you loose even what little you had in your possesion.That is the story here in India.Again it all depends on ypur lawyer.
What about the system in other parts of the world and is it a fair system? are there any loopholes and is it fair to women? I personally tend to think that in many Western countries women get a fair deal.
Please share your views here :))
4 responses
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
27 May 10
Hi sumant, I too have heard that it is not easy for a woman to go through a divorce in India.As you say there are too many loop holes and a good lawyer can make all the difference either way.if one does not have the capacity to hire a good lawyer, which is generally the woman who is financially not so secure in most of the cases, the case suffers and you stand at a disadvantage.It is really nice of you to have gone in for an out of court settlement in your case, and, I am sure your ex wife got a fair deal...all the best and have a nice day Sumant
@Sreesumant (122)
• India
27 May 10
Hi kiran, What you say is true, the situation is exactly so ! There are too many loopholes which go on to complicate matters and it always has an adverse effect on the woman in question.In my case, it was after a lot of hardship and heartache that things concluded on a more amicable note and botn of us had no regrets at the end of it .Take care and enjoy your evening !
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
27 May 10
I guess divorce is a very painful process because it is so final and conclusive to a relationship that had once been close and intimate. I can imagine what one has to go through . If it is amicable it is definitely better for both ....all the best
@Sreesumant (122)
• India
30 May 10
It is a very painful process no doubt, but staying on or trying to make impossible situations work is even more painful.If one can realise this and move away it is better for both the partners.As you say an amicable seperation has its advantages ! Enjoy your Sunday :))
@danoluma (817)
• Kenya
1 Jun 10
In my country I tend to believe those divorce laws are not fair at all and women are taking advantage of them to get away with wealth they never worked for. Like a woman marries you and after 1 year she divorces you and you'll have to share 50/50 of your wealth. To me its not fair.
@Sreesumant (122)
• India
2 Jun 10
Hello danoluma, That is not fair at all. BTW Is it so very easy to fool the men folk? I am sure they do get carried away when the woman is bent on making fools of them and get away with all their wealth . I agree it is not at all fair .
@p_vadla (1685)
• India
1 Jun 10
If we keep the lawyer aside for a while,the social laws or customs were biased towards men in the first place.What is right for a man is not so for a woman.Now that the women are asserting themselves, we find many men are at the receiving end of law.In the process some injustice or excess is also done to men.
@Sreesumant (122)
• India
2 Jun 10
I heartily agree that the society in general is biased towards men and inspite of all the modern thinking, most men feel that they are justified in thinking that way.ASince women have been at the receiving end may be it is only fair that they too get to assert themselves :))
@davity (52)
• United States
26 May 10
i'm not aware of the divorce system here in the philippines, all i know is that men and women are still far apart when it comes to relationships. it's like when a boyfriend or a husband cheated, have some other girls..he is very "manly". which is sometimes, something they boast about. while when a girlfriend or a wife made a mistake, it's as if she is the worst and filthy living creature in the eyes of all people. that's too unfair, :-(
@Sreesumant (122)
• India
27 May 10
Hello davity. I would think that in most Asian countries men do get away with a lot including marriage and divorce laws.Just look at the middle east and one is appaled at the way the ladies are treated there.But surprisingly when it is brought to the attention of the world, it is the ladies themselves who go up in arms against the press and talk about preserving culture and identity !
