Do you goes well with your in laws? What do you like/dislike about your inlaws?

We don't have too much conflict, but what there is mostly is due to them butting too much into my business.

i too don't have in-laws yet. but when i do eventually marry and have in-laws of my own...i really hope they turn out to be good in laws

I don't have inlaws too. MOstly the problems occuring between inlaws is about their relationship with their child. Of course parents wants the best of their child, if their partner/wife/husband is not right for them, they will try to their child to make up their mind. they will be on guard on the attitude or personality of their child's partner. First impression is really important on them. As a wife or husband meeting their inlaws they have to be very kind and they have to have respect on their inlaws. Some inlaws challenge the wife/husband/ partner of hteir child, if they are really good for their child. that nature of inlaws is always on the side or welfare of their child. If you hurt their child they'll hate you. But not all inlaws are like that, some do respect the family of their child. They are just there to support their child. Some also involved money, when they know that their child will be having his/her family of their own, they will feel a problem because they already have someone sharing incomes of their child.

hi cloud 31 I had the perfect setup my in laws lived in walla Walla Washington and we lived in California so we only visited once.I really liked my mother in law as she was almost like my hubby.same sense of humor, same devoutness to her religion, and just a sweet charming person.My father in law was an affable drunk, he spent most of his time drinking but was never mean with it ,but I had wished he would not drink so much as she was a really dear person. He was a bit of a jerk at times, but he really cottoned onto me as a daughter in law. he was also a bit of a letch, just mildly so though.

At first I found it quite hard to get on with my in-laws because they were suspicious of me. I had been married before, had 4 children and was 5 years older than the man who is now my husband, while he was just 22 and had had very little experience. But then they realised I was okay and genuine, so we got on much better. I do still think my mother-in-law is critical of my lack of skills in housework though!

My inlaws and I have harmonious relationship. I think, you will not have any problems with them as long as you have shown them that you love their son and respect them as their parent. Pretension is unnecessary, it is better to show them who you really are so that they will like you as you are. Putting your feet forward is not a good idea because, the more will be expected from you. Respect is really the best way to have a good relationship with them. I have nothing against them, actually I feel that I am being treated as a real daughter. :)

I get along real good with my hubby's ma ,dad an brothers an of course his brothers wives but some of his uncles have money an look down on people that don't so i dont' get along with them cause they like to preach about thier god an then after doing so they talk bad about people which I don't agree with

Usually our disagreements are brief, either my husband and I acquiesce or the subject is dropped. I can't think of any topic right off hand that we've disagreed about. I think sometimes it's just we get in each other's way or on each other's nerves, and that happens anyway. Sometimes I wonder if maybe the in laws wish we would get on with our plans and move out. I've not got a job though, and know I need one though I am very lazy about trying to get one. I was laid off of my last job and since then have used the internet to earn money to help pay the bills. Truth be told I'd rather do that, but woops let's not get off topic... but to wrap it up, I think it's just getting in each other's way that causes some conflicts.

the oldies are better friends to me. although we are left with one, dad-in-law, he is a very good friend and we have never been into any conflict since me and my wife lived together, that's over 15 years now. but brothers-in-law, the husbands of my wife's sisters are those that we can say, not so easy to handle attitudes. most of the time, we just go along with them. but when conflicts arise, i myself will cool down to let them know that i am not the same as them. one of them, the husband of my wife's older sister is has a very unpredictable attitude and thinking.

hi cloud, i am happy to say that i have a very nice inlaws, my mom in law as well as my brothers & sisters in law are all good to me. maybe its because we are not living together and we just saw each other once in a while. hehe the only thing that becomes a bit problem before is the language barrier. they are speaking different dialect from me and so its difficult for us to talk to each other. but i am glad that this is no longer a problem now since i can already understand and talk their language. we don't have much differences and its nice that they let me & my husband to run our own life. they are just there for support... and i think its a great help that we are all in the same faith. and maybe its also because i am a good daughter/sister in law? haha just kidding. well when my mom in law & i saw each other she usually gives advises to me since my life now is also somewhat like her life before due to our husband's line of work. i treat my husband's family as my own and i respect them all and in return they are also like that to me...

I think that the main thing that causes conflict between myself and my in-laws is the fact that I have a different kind of background than their beliefs hold. My husband and I have two children and I came from a family where the household was very child centered. It was expected that the kids would come first, if that meant that some sort of cleaning in the house had to fall by the wayside, then so be it. However, my inlaws seem to think that the house needs to be spotless before you consider doing activities with the children.

My relationship with my in-laws runs smoothly well and fine. Even though we're far from each other but we're always communicating. We'll take a vacation to them so as them to us. The most common conflict between in-laws as I observe and correct me If i'm wrong are they're meddling the life of the couple and forced them to do what they want.

Hello cloud i have two daughter in laws, but there there is never quarrel between them or with us , because they treat each other as sisters, and give equal love to each others kid, we treat them as our daughters, not as DIL, just remove this 'in law', problem will be solved... Welcome always. Cheers. Prof

Hello cloudie! What a question, LOL! well, the time when i married my husband, i never had both of my parents with me because they both passed away already. Im just thankful that i will have new set of mom and dad again because im just like that, whoever and whatever my husband love then i would try my best to love them too, except those that are bad of course. Ive got no problem with my in laws, i like them for being supportive in our relationship but i certainly didn't like the way they treated us like children that they checked us always whether we're fighting with each other, what i cooked for dinner etc. and stuffs like that. So happy that its not the case right now. They didn't checked us as frequent as before. Im glad however that right after our wedding, we have our own house at once so its really time for us to show that we could stand up in our own feet. Glad we did it and glad that we're still okay, i mean my relationship with my in laws. I think the bottom line was just to obey what God commanded us to respect your parents, period. They're my parents already because of my husband and for as long as i respect them, then i think i couldn't go wrong. HAve a wonderful day ahead!

I am happy to say that I have always had a good relationship with my inlaws. My husband passed away from cancer four years ago. i am still close to his family. We spend a lot of holidays together. If i dislike anything about my inlaws, it would have to be thst we don't always agree. They can be a bit harsh when you don't share the same opinions that they do. It can make the relationship trying at times. Over all, my inlaws are a big part of my family.

i never had a problem with my in law. They never bothered me or butt in my business or anything. We drink together, eat together, party together just like if we were good friends

I love my partner's family. They are very nice and lovable people. However I do not like how they always hound my man for money. His own mother requires money monthly. His 4 other brothers also always ask for money. He's the only one working so they all expect him to support them. It makes me sad. He's working his butt off and can't even enjoy it because he has a hard time saying no to family. I'd love his family more if they stopped pressuring him so much.

I absolutely LOVE my in-laws! They all (mom, dad, siblings) consider me part of the family, but more so I truly feel part of the family, its really great. I really lucked out with them.

the things that I like about my in laws are they are like a parents to me they treat me as their own child as well as their grandson they really love and care to them. specially to my mother in law she help me all the chores and she's always giving me an advice.

have a great inlaws.. i can say im one of there fav.. cos im always cooking with a great meal with them,, always at their home to visit them.. to chek them if they are okk