is divorce the answer?

It is normal for married couple to have an argument. I am married for ten years and although their are ups and downs of my married life but I can still say that we are going strong. If time comes when our marriage will not work anymore then I should I hesitate to have a divorce. I mean what's the point of living together when love is lost and nothing is working anymore. Why should we forced the couple of living together when they are living in hell. Divorce is the answer. Let them seperate.

no, just because there is no divorce law in the philippines. what we have here is legal separation or annulment of marriage which is a very long course procedure and is very expensive, as the lawyers have said. but for me, if all those characteristics you've mentioned is present in a relationship, there is no way you can continue. you could stay together in a house without separation or divorce, for the benefit of the children, but not together in a bed.

Divorce is allowed in my country, but certainly it is not so accepted in the conservative societies.I hate divorce, I have seen most of the known around me giving up their marriage. But I think,it is the last option and many have a good reason for that. Everyone wants a happy marriage, but why should they keep their marriage, if their hubbies are not responsible, unfaithful and there is a violence in family.Divorce occurs because sometimes when a couple gets married, they always expect that the marriage will be happy without problems, which is impossible.In most of the families there are adjustment problems. Problems are always with us, the solution is good communication, honesty, willingness to listen and understand each other..

Hi cherwin, it is true that there are many couples are unhappy with their married life. I never agree divorce is the solution. We have to understand eachother, we should have a patience, intimacy, amicability. If you treat your spouse as a friend then i feel little problems can be solved. We are happy of 20 years of our married life. There are lot many things in between us which varies each other still i will get along. We will fight but after some time i will go and say sorry if i found a mistake in me or vise versa. This is the life. There is a good word in bible " if you love, it forgives anything". If you have love, you can see only positive things in your spouse. If I don't like anything (character) just I will tell my husband i don't like this, please change your attitude. If any problem is there i will try to discuss and try to solve it.

I don't agree with divorce my dear.. marriage is sacred...so therefore, it should not be broke..

Cher, My divorce.. you would think would have made me happy. but instead it caused so much grief that .. even after 11 months, I'm still very fragile. My x husband popped up on Myspace 5 days ago. Started chewing me out for a blog I posted where I was venting. He hasn't left since. In fact, he has tracked me down on My yearbook. I didn't want the divorce, in fact, i was trying to find the ways to fix everything, but in the process i finally snapped. I couldn't handle the neglect and the constant tortue of having a husband that didn't even know i was alive. Yet i'm the one to point the finger at... Even after 11 months. He comes and finds me when he has a girlfriend.. He says " i'm bored" because he is over sea's. Why not contact her and leave me alone? why make me suffer, like i ain't suffered enough. Sincerly, Tortured in NY Pd i've already been told to block him, i have been told to do a lot of things. But i am still very in love with this man, even after the hell he put me through. i do walk with God, right now i feel very lost, even in his grace. And i hurt from the heart. i'm to good hearted for this junk, and all it's doing is eating me up.

Many unhappy Couples rush into Marriage, as if there was a reason. Would you buy a car without a test drive? Of course you wouldn't even tho you don't expect to keep the car for more than 6 years. Marriage on the other hand is for life! How much more important then, is a test of your proposed married relationship, than a test drive of your new car? You ask how I know? I've been married to the same woman for over 55 years and I've taken a great many automobiles for a Test drive!

I think that it depends on what has happened. I think that every married couple has had their ups and downs. If things can be resolved, then that's that. However, if things cannot be resolved, then maybe divorce might be one of the best solution for this sort of situation.

First let me say that both Hubby and I came from divorces families. My marriage vows were just that vows, I gave my word and to me this is very important. After 50 years of marriage I can tell you that all of the bad things you mention above were present at times. We over came these, maybe because we are both very stubborn people whe refused to give up. Are we happy now after all this time? I can only speak for myself and I would say I am content. Happy is a fleeting emotion so I will stick with what I have.

Divorce is a quick solution, but not always the right one. People spend more time building a relationship than keeping it. Giving up is so easy. Just walk away, but the problems are still there. Consider divorce as the last recourse. There are other ways to mend what is broken. Don't take the fast path to divorce. it may be a decision to regret.

Coming from a rather conservative Roman Catholic country, I'd say that annulment is the answer, but that is more of a technicality in Canon Law than a proper answer to your discussion. Yes, I believe that if the couple has exhausted all means to repair the damage in the relationship, that both ends have tried to negotiate and end up still being in a loveless marriage, then I guess it's time to separate, perhaps annul/divorce the marriage. Of course, the challenge in marriage is to go beyond the self, to seek to empathize with the other, to become self-sacrificial - but it is a very difficult task. However, it is possible.

Rush Divorce is not the answer like you say. I think marriage is suppose to be something special. In in my case, I think I'll work it out 1st.

arguments are a part of any relationship, however i think that if it gets to the point where those arguments begin to affect the relationship in a negative way then both partners need to stop and figure out a way to find an end to that issue. Most times married couples resort to divorce and one of the main reasons for this is because they can no longer live together or share that same space... thats when you know that you need to move on.

in some cases divorce is the only way out because if you have kids is better if they are not around with you and that negative enerrgy around,,kids are smart they will know whats going on but if you dont have kids well give your self another chance if it doesent them say good bye to the person and try to finish the relationship as peaceful as you can.

I would definitely go for the divorce if the whole situation can't get solved anymore! I know it is totally difficult but what is the use to be with unloved one under one roof! Well, I would try so hard to solve the matters in between.. but, if nothing could be solved; then I would go to the court to release me off no matter how hard it could be...

There are many challenges in marriage. My mother used to tell me that marriage is one of the hardest things you will ever do. This year we are coming up to our 33rd anniversary. Is it perfect? NO! Is it challenging? YES! Is it unfair? YOU BET IT IS! Would I do it again? IN A HEART BEAT! These are the things I would have done differently. 1. Not assume that after the wedding ceremony we would live happily ever after. 2. Leave God out of the picture - it is good to pray (in a loving way) for the your spouse always. 3. See any old marriage counselor without asking God to guide you to the person or place. Assuming that because someone or some group is Christian it is okay to counsel with them is a huge mistake. Also, praying for the session prior to counseling is something I should have done years and years ago. Again including God. 4. Not trying to change everything about me to please my spouse. 5. Not trying to become my own person no matter how it hurt our marriage. 6. Not dwelling on the negative aspects of the relationship instead of the positive. 7. Don't try to get even or stay in unforgiveness (Forgiveness is not the same as forgetfulness. Some things should be remembered and not tolerated but unforgiveness hurts the recipient more than it does the person who did something awful. 8. Never, ever, ever, be concerned about whether your mate is submitting or loving you as Christ loved the church (depending on whether you are male or female). It's not your job to "fix" them. It is your job to do what is required of you. Also, don't think that submission is just doing whatever a mate thinks up. It must line up with God's word. If women were meant to just think and act as the man wants her to, he may as well just marry himself. The list could go on. These are the things I try to do, all be it, imperfectly: 1. Ask God for help daily even in what to reply word by word. 2. Be aware of what constitutes abuse both physical and especially emotional. 3. Dwell on the positive aspects of my mate. 4. Seek out good information on marriage and relationships. This is one of the best that I have found: http://www.marriagetoday.org/site/PageServer?pagename=mtrl_hurting_marriage 5. Never go to bed angry even if my spouse chooses to. 6. Be at peace. 7. Look for ways to bless your mate. 8. Meditate on God's Word day and night. All of these things are impossible without the help of God. There have been many times when I saw something a certain way until I asked God for guidance. Suddenly, I began to see my mate's point of view and not just my own. I cannot stress enough that the website that I just posted should be seriously read and considered. It is some of the best teaching I have seen over the years and I have read and heard a lot of teachings.

I believe that human beings are entitled to make errors sometimes and to solve those errors. If a couple realizes that they are not really made for each other divorcing is the lesser evil comparing to live a life of lies and sorrow. So basically i think that divorcing can be a solution but must not be considered as an easy way out at the first problem. Problems naturally arise in every couple and people have to struggle to solve those problems for the sake of their relationship, but if they fail divorcing is better than living in emotional pain for the rest of their lives.

I'm not married but for me divorce is not the answer it will only lead to unwanted attitude for their child. I know a lot of people that created by broken family and they really need attention, divorce is not the answer, just be humble and don't let your self eat by your PRIDE. A good communication can resolve a big problem A simple forgive and forget can resolve a huge problem A simple word like "sorry" and "I forgive you" can be the answer A simple admitting the you made a mistake can be the answer why people don't get it I know people would say "its that simple you don't know anything " I know I don't know anything about the situation, but you? do you know what can be the result of your action. don't let pride eats you, it will destroy you and people around you, don't let your anger control you it will worsting a simple problem. By the way I'm not talking about you cherwin, this is only my opinion and I'm referring to the people who will read this who see that divorce is only the answer.

Truly divorce is not the right answer. But sometimes it does not help. To sustain a married life both need to be matured and should have immense trust within each other. Also they should be ready to lay their lives for each other and think only of each others happiness. But this never happens in many divorce cases. The root is EXPECTATIONS from the opposite person. Someone expects something from the other one and if that is not fulfilled the process of divorce starts. The very first event triggers a negative impact and then the expecting person sees everything negative and the end result is divorce.

Absolutely NO! I don't believe divorce is the answer. Divorces happened if the couple are not ready for marriage. That's why, we have been reminded that we need to be sure before settling down for marriage. Within the situation, if the problem arises in a married couple, they should not consider the divorce. What they need to do is to look first their own selves... might be that there is a problem with their attitude. They should humbly ask God to solve their problems.... because with God, there is nothing impossible. God loves to help us and provide all the solutions of our problems