my parent
By dyansfrase
@dyansfrase (104)
Indonesia
May 26, 2010 9:01pm CST
I have a boyfriend, I love him very much. but, my parent, spesially my mother, she hate hi. my boyfriend is from Yogyakarta , a town in my country, Indonesia. and my mom hate this town, she have a bad experience in this town. what shoulld I do?
4 responses
@xeroeight (1060)
• Philippines
27 May 10
well try to tell her that your boyfriend is not yogyakarta town, not every one in that place is the same, and also talk to your boyfriend that if he really love you then he should fight for it and try to impress your mother and get its permission.
@dyansfrase (104)
• Indonesia
27 May 10
okey, maybe you are right, i'll try to tell my mom that he's not from yogykarta. but sometimes, i feel afraid to be a lier. she'll be more more and more angry if knwing the reality. huft, however, i'll try this.
thanks xeoeight, God bless you
@romeoratillajr (103)
• Philippines
27 May 10
xeroeight did not mean you to tell your mum that your bf is not from yogyakarta town. you will be lying to your mum. he meant that your bf is NOT yogyakarta town. he wants you to explain to your mum that she should not associate whatever bad things she experienced from that town to your bf.
I can't agree more with xeroeight, this is the most ideal yet not the easiest solution to a problem such as yours.
you must be truthful and honest all the time. lying to your mum will just make things worse. I would not suggest that you even try.
good luck to you and your bf.
@Rysonia (310)
• United States
27 May 10
Explain to her calmly that you love him and you want her to give him a fair chance. If she starts in about the town remind her that he is not the town, he is a human being who just happens to have come from a geographic location that she dislikes. Respect her feelings, but let her know yours as well. Be honest with her and be firm in the fact that you expect her to give your boyfriend a chance.
@zhangxia (87)
• China
27 May 10
it's difficult .if it couldn't go through by you mom .boyfriend and mom ,you should chose one .i think these is only a mom who raise you up .
and you will meet ont only a boy who you love .you can found another .
good luck .
wish your mom could reconcile with your BF.
@vallestar (13)
• Indonesia
27 May 10
opinion are the best parents,parents know what is best for their child but,if you truly love him then try to explain slowly at your parents, if people can not be assessed from where he lives