3 years in a relationship Falls for Nothing

There are some points U made in this letter that I DON'T understand. ONE: Was the amount of investment U PUT IN TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP...I DIDN'T HEAR/SEE U say/write anything about him/her contributing EQUALLY?! TWO: U notice something going on with HIS LIFE PLAN and U decide to ignore it?! THREE: WHY WHY did U need "HIS PERMISSION" to accept a job some distance away?! "Ms. LADY" from what I've read in this post, U were LOOKING for a way out of this relationship LONG BEFORE U took the job w/ distance... am I right?! Face it, he did U a favor in a COLD PUNK WAY by getting married behind your back. U DON'T REALLY WANT TO CONFIRM IT so just let it keep going as it has for those PAST 3 MONTHS & if U happen to run into him/her in the future with HIS/HER WIFE/HUSBAND & KIDS on the street just say "hello" and Thank GOD Almighty that U got out when U did!!lol GOD will deliver your KING/QUEEN to U in good time just be patient. peace

I want to ask about the way of communication, because lets accept the fact that communication in this generation is really advance not unlike before, you have telephone, mobiles, internet and so on. Being busy does not give you enough alibi that you cannot communicate with the person you love. Even if it takes only a minute or two a day is really important specially if you two have been distant away geographically speaking. I wonder why in that 3 months time, your communication has been blocked?? pardon me but it was not clear on what you say here because 3 months of no communication because of the reason for being busy is really puzzling for me. I can't give that as an excuse ever. So by the time you came back to earth after 3 months to contact your beloved, he/she is not around anymore...ohh dear, i know the feeling why, but that person should be brave enough to tell the reason if he/she is already married or whatsoever.

You were in a hurry. The things which are suposed to do after marriage are done before that. You cannot undo abount what is already happened. These are usual if we are not cared of. From your experience, learn something what you needed. If you dont't feel sorry, concentrat on your job and forget everything, (may not possible as you loved so much), and find new areas in life. Remember, for us life is only once. So make it more meaningful for you, and you only can work for this. So, be alert and forget everything and prepare to face the life ahead. Warm regards, Meera

hi krischine!!! dont worry the pain mill subside eventually.. until you dont feel them anymore... ive been there... i had 6 yrs. relationship and it ended pretty badly.. our family both thought that we'll ended together but it didn't happen... i know you want to communicate with him again... pass by to his house... go to the places that he might go there... text his friends and a lot more stupidity actions you want to take.... but eventually you get over it... how did i do it??? 1. LOVE YOURSELF!!!! - dont think it will be the end of the world if he doesnt exist.. you live many years before him and you will live more years after him... 2. have FUN!!! - do things that you enjoy... go to the gym, surf more, read, watch movies with your girlfriends... patch up with them.. 3. focus to the persons who love you more UNCONDITIONALLY - parents, siblings, best friends.. 4. MEET more friends.. or have a pet!!! 5. FOCUS ON YOURSELF... BE GREEDY!!! BE CONCEITED!!! you deserve more than him.. eventually, you'll forget about him, the pain will be gone... and you live your life... i am a living proof... i am happily married and hopefully to have a baby soon... good day to all!!! :)

As a female i like s*ex relationship very much.

thats very sad.. knowing that there is a very big possibility that the news is true, i would still ask my partner whether it is true or not. but i know its easier said than done. so maybe ill just think of ways to cope as well so that it wont be that difficult anymore.

If it is true love it always come back, if you want know your answer very well then see hindi movie ( JANEMAAN), bollywood. it is good movie perfect for your answer ,once you search you find that movie, it is indian movie ,but just see it, u will find your answer.

i'm so sad to hear about your news. I could understand how your feeling is kris.. In my opinion, you should check the news yourself, even if it ends in pain. You could prove whether he is a gentleman or not. Just prepare your heart for the worst possibility

It always that kind of problems to some relationships, and most of the problem is the communication gap, both of them are far from each other and even though there is cell phone or an internet but the both individual is suitable to temptations and maybe the man was tempted to other woman vice versa and that is what had happened to some relationships, so the best thing you do is call him/her for once and for all you will be clarified.

Yes. Call hir and ask if it is true. My dear - the time with an intimate friend is NEVER wasted. Didn't you ENJOY the time with hir ? One of the many wrong expectations is that once you are in a relationship that it will last forever or even for a long time. It does or it doesn't. Go with the flow my dear. It should be easy enough for a pretty girl like you to find another guy or even a few guys so that you can choose. Right ? If that ISN'T correct then contact me and together we'll figure out why it doesn't work.

3 months of not communicating means that the relationship is not doing well. So I guess both parties should expect the worst thing to happen. I could not really say that the person left behind or the person who got married is to be blamed, because it's the responsibility of both persons to find a way to communicate. Being busy may be a reason for not being able to call or send an email or even send text messages, but 3 months is already long. If one could live without talking to his/her special someone for that period of time, it simply means not giving that much importance to the relationship. If this kind of situation happen to me, maybe I'll call him to confirm the news. And whatever it is that he'll say to me, I'll respect and accept it.

cry ,drink ,then get then shower ,go to bed ,and the next day when i wake up ,everything is new .it's a complete new day coming .the smile to it . so what else could i do ,she is now a bride with white gown ,and the men in suit beside her is not me .it's so heartbreaking ,hurting .and eventually time will take grieve away .like dandelion in the sky is taken by wind .

From the sounds of it this relationship was over a long time ago and you simply have been unwilling to accept that fact. If you suspect that your friend might be lying to you it wouldn't hurt to confirm it, though calling under the excuse of congratulating him on his marriage might be a better idea then coming across as making accusations after you hadn't contacted the guy for 3 months. With modern technology unless for some reason you seriously can not afford to have access to the internet or a phone, there is no reason why you couldn't have kept in contact with him.

Well, You chose which path to take. You can hope for the best for your ex. That is all you can do. But, You would prolly wonder if you stayed would it be the same?