What is the difference between before marriage life and after marriage life?

Vaishali! I agree that before marriage we are carefree happy beings. We have no responsibilities whatsoever, just go to school or college enjoy ourselves without any worries and are happy.This is a period thAT is special . But life has to go on. We get married and enter into a family. We have to listen to the husband and if this is done wihtout much resentment then life becomes harmonious.Even when I was young my mother advised me that I should have no expectations from life and this would always keep me happy and contented. Once we get married, we become more responsible and irrespective of elders , once we produce children, we become mothers and have a great responsibility towards our child.Even in pur parents' houses we did not have complete freedom[could we go out , stay the night elsewhere and return as we please? We couldn't isn't it?--my mother never allowed me to go to my friends' house or go to a movie with friends] ] Once we get married we lose our freedom in a different sort of way. Marriage is one of great adjustment but your child is the greatest gift you can ever get.

as someone married, I don't find this is the case. we certainly don't have to obey our husbands, and he doesn't have to obey us. instead we must reach a comprimise. and neither of us needs to obey the family of the other. we respect them, but they have no authority over us. each person needs to have some time to themselves when they need it, and the other respect that time. we don't have to do all of the work in the home. there are two of you to share the work. I haven't lost any freedom in marriage. it sounds like you view marriage as becoming the property and servant to a man and his family. in which case, maybe don't get married. it doesn't sound like you'd enjoy marriage, if that's what you expect to get from it. the way I see it, you marry when you find someone you love and who loves you in return, and is the best friend you could ever want, and the two of you are a team, each equal to the other. not to become someone elses live in housekeeper and servant to the family.

hi svaishali, first question is have you got married or not,if not do not,because of your fear that about husband ,depression,obey elders,obey husband,this life,every thing you have to face and experience,with out a marriage you cannot become perfect women,if you married you have social security etc etc,that is correct you have loose some privacy and independent ness after getting marriage,have a nice day

maybe it's a cultural thing? in your case you seem to have the added responsibilities towards your husband's family. in other societies this might not be the case. from my personal experience the before and after marriage domestic situation was not much different. i felt the big difference when the children came along. even if husbands are more involved with caring for the children, i think mothers still bear most of the responsibility.

Hi, svaishali1985.As a woman who has been married for 12years, I enjoy my marriage very much. My husband and I are still very much in love , and we have a lovely child aged 8. I think the secret for my marriage is that In China, man always share housework with woman , if no one want to do the housework , we hire a hourly worker. and I am very lucky not need to live together with my mother in law. So I am the ony mistress in the house .and I work hard to maintain a good relationship with my husband. Marriage will not take your freedom away , but a child will, and the children is so lovely that make you willing to do that .

Wife has to obey husband orders?.Haha.Obey what orders.My wife just ignore me only if the order is stupid.I stay in a asian country and my wife don just obey my order.Instead we talk about what to do and usually i have to ask politely.If not it will be throw back at me like i am busy why u don go to it myself.Sometime wife just ignore me only.I guess i marry her because she is independent and use her brains more than me.I guess marriage life is about sharing and joining. So after marriage no more selfish life , instead everything we do have to think about the family first.Responsibility more after marriage no more care free life instead Careful life.haha.

Marriage brings about a union between two persons to share everything for the mutual interest and happiness. It ia a relationship of understanding,sharing,love and working togethar. If the partners of marriage live with broad understanding for solving all the problems of life togethar,they can live with peace and happiness. The major factors responsible for failure of marriage life is individual ego leading to non-cooperation.

I'm not yet married so i don't know what is life if you are married. Sometimes I talk to my sister in law on being a married. They just say to me that i should enjoy my life while im being a single, because when you enter marriage life your life is limited. Well that is what I do now I enjoy my life.

Marriage is like a sweet. Who has eaten this repents. Who has not eaten also repents.

mm..i am not married yet so i dont know the differences but i think after marriage its boring..no flirt.. you just have to stay with one girl...when i have experiences i will certainly post.