What's the point of starting it when you can't deliver?

Philippines
May 27, 2010 3:49am CST
i've slapped someone in the face again for blurting out stupid comments. the first time i did this it was the same reason. i just don't like it when people jokes about me like they know me and i take the same for you fellow mylotters. i can take jokes but from people i know. you just don't blurt out stupid comments if you know it's offending and you don't know who you're joking with. i wanna make that statement clear to some people and slapping them senseless is a hard line for it to stay in their brains. i don't regret it and i was never sorry for doing it. what happened was, i was strolling with a friend at a mall when suddenly this a-hole started talking trash and he was directing it at me. i went to his face and asked him what his problem was. i did this decently. he just laughed softly but he was trembling. i knew it was the right thing to just leave it be but my anger got a hold of me, as always. i just slapped him with the back of my right hand and i asked him if he wants to settle it outside. eventhough he was with girls i just couldn't find the courage to stop myself. my friend was just standing behind me. knowing him, i'd say he enjoyed the event. anyway, this dude just stood frozen and i just kept slapping his face senseless til a tear came down his eye and the girls started saying that its enough. that's when i stopped and left him there almost crying.
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14 responses
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
27 May 10
Sweetie, since when do we behave like that in public? Kidding. I would have done the same, but would have stopped after the first three slaps. I am sure your friend enjoyed it. Must have been freaking funny for him. Next time, ignore it and walk away. It is better that way. You might get into trouble. TATA.
• Philippines
27 May 10
I know it's better that way but i guess i'm the type that does something about it if i can. Thanks though. I need it once in a while. Maybe i'll let you slap me next time i do this. Lol.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
27 May 10
Sweetie, i normally use a fist. Can't i just kick your butt, next time??
• Philippines
27 May 10
Sure. Whatever works. But i'm warning you, my butt is bouncy. :)
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
28 May 10
Hi Frontvisions, Are you serious? You really did this? That's horrible! No one deserves to be physically slapped around like that even if he was being obnoxios. I really don't know what to say. I don't and won't ever agree that physical violence is an answer to anything at all. It's horrible really. So tell me, do you feel bad about this?
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
28 May 10
So true Letran.
• Philippines
28 May 10
I don't feel bad about this in any way. If anything, i feel great. :)
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
28 May 10
Hi Frontvisions, I am not trying to judge you. I'm trying to understand. Maybe if I knew more of what was said etc. then I'd have a better understanding. I'll read thru this discussion further so you won't have to repeat yourself if you've already explained it. ok?
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
28 May 10
i agree with you, and it's also fine with me for a person i personally known and know me to joke at me. but when they are not, say a close friend, jokes at us, especially below the belt, i cannot also accept that.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
28 May 10
Hi again Frontvisions, I think when people are telling you to walk away from it and all that, they are not meaning that it is "nothing" or that you don't have good cause to be angry. I think they are probably more concerned about the physical violence. I mean you could end up in legal trouble over this idiot if you hurt him bad enough or if the wrong people saw you and reported. From what I've read so far, what he said was something that you care not to repeat so that tells me it was really, really bad. I've been treated really bad at times and had horrible, horrible and hurtful things said about me and my children. I more than understand the anger you felt. Words are weapons too and they do hurt and sometimes more than physical pain. One thing I have learned is that the ugly words a person chooses to utter more often than not speak more about the kind of person they themselves are than the person they are trying to degrade. If he was trying to impress the girls and if they were worth impressing then he already unimpressed them before you took the first swing.
• Philippines
28 May 10
I know. I'm surprised some people are saying It's nothing and i should just forget about it. Maybe they've never been in the same situation.
• Philippines
28 May 10
hello frontvision, People who hadn't experience the hardness of life doesn't understand what it means to respect other people and causing to senselessly insult and make fun of. and what you did, was indeed VERY COOL there's no doubt he was trying to impress those girls, and then he got it from the moment you slap him in the face. I am sure and hope he learned his lesson from insulting some body. you fought for your right to be respected, am sure he could have done it again if you didn't do that.
• Philippines
28 May 10
Yeah i think he was just trying to impress those chics. I'm not just gonna let that slip away though. What he said was insulting. Too insulting i can't even post it here.
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@cloud31 (5809)
27 May 10
I always try to observe people how they express themselves before throwing a joke especially when they don't start with jokes.In some of their topics and even the way they comments and respond,its easy to understand people how they want to be treated. I respect what they want to emphasize with their personality and behavior and Its not really my way to offend people because everyone born with different personality and the up bringing. I don't mind get some jokes from others as long as they know their limitations and with friends I know whom I can throw jokes and who does not.
• Philippines
27 May 10
Are you talking about mylot? Cuz i'm not. I actually slapped someone in real life. I don't mind the jokes that jokers throw around here. I can also make jokes here. What i was saying is a very offending sentiment from a person i don't know.
• Philippines
27 May 10
Oh. Sorry. I thought i didn't make the discussion clear. Lol. Yeah, you're right. You can actually tell someone's feelings based on their responses. But sometimes it's just too null that i can't tell whether they're joking or not.:)
@cloud31 (5809)
27 May 10
Yes I'm referring about mylot situations. I understand what you mean and that thought of mine was just my own reactions about myLot situations as I encountered lots of them too.
@nangisha (3495)
• Indonesia
28 May 10
I consider you are really brave and straight forward kind people. I tend to let people who make joke about me, but when its makes me angry usually my hand move first than my brain. I usually stunning how fast I slapped someone, your feeling really can control your brain . I think you need to control it before you really hurt someone and make it law problem.
• Philippines
28 May 10
I'm sure it won't be a law problem. And i don't care if he ever files one against me. I'll just slap him again over and over. Lol!
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
27 May 10
Let's stop and THINK!!! What did you accomplish??? Did you gain respect??? Hardly,People who can not control themselves and anger tend to use physical force to get what they want. Does anyone really like or admire a bully??? Not much intelligence showing with bullies. Did you make any friends??? Hardly, maybe some enemies. Will your actions get them to stop?? Now that they know what gets to you, they know how to set you off. We all have an emotional half and a reason half. If you lead with the emotional half, you can get lost in a sea of emotions. It's never fun being lost. Our reason half is meant to lead. Results always come out better when we are thinking. So, how could you have handled the situation better, shown your wisdom and yes, even taught a lesson. Think, next time you will really be prepared.
• Philippines
28 May 10
You may be right but i do believe i made him stop. He cried for pete's sake. Lol.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
28 May 10
Each of us has different moods and behavior. I am not a cool person,i am also an aggressive one,but i know how to hold my temper. Hurting someone in public will be the last thing that i'm gonna do. Considering that,the joke is unacceptable. Physical hurt can be erase by time,but words will be kept on mind. But,it also depends on situation. So,if someone say's a joke,or foul words against me,i will take his word and give him a hard punch.(just kidding) The best thing i can think of is,sue him with libel so he can prove what he is saying. And,when he is jail,i will visit him and give him my sweetest smile of insult
@kaylachan (71762)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
28 May 10
You need to work on anger managment skills. People talk trash about me all of the time, but I don't let it get to me especially someone who doesn't know me, someone I may never see again. Take a deep breath, slapping people sensless doesn't resolve conflict. If anything, it causes conflict.
• Philippines
28 May 10
Slapping people senseless only causes conflict but slapping these kind of people makes them learn their lesson the hard way because it really seems they won't learn it the easy way.
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@verptc (246)
• Philippines
27 May 10
You can address your anger by saying cool words and find out what is the problem behind. Maybe it is just a hard joke which for him cannot hurt others feeling.You must take second option before putting your hand in action.Give him psycho analysis of what is in his mind because he was trembling it sounds there is something trouble going on in his mind. Then tears came down which means he needs friendly advise.Anger needs to be controlled always and revert this to another reasonable way as possible.
• Philippines
27 May 10
Nice psycho analysis there. I don't think he needs a friendly advice though. I think he needs a hug from his mother. Hahaha!
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@lilxkaos (131)
• United States
28 May 10
yup i feel the same way. i can take a joke from people i know. But if somebody i dont know start talking jokes about me, i will be mad also
• Philippines
28 May 10
I know, right. People shouldn't throw insults to people they don't know. I don't consider myself on the bad side when i hurt them cuz i only do that when i know for sure that i'm in the right side.
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
27 May 10
You have anger management issues dude. You need to get help.It's normal to feel angry and feel like slapping or even punching someone. Heck I've done that a couple of times. Slapping a person once is enough, but doing it repeatedly, that's not something small. you better get help before your rage turns into something grave.
• Philippines
27 May 10
I've always been like this since i was a child. Actually, i've toned it down quite a lot when i was growing up cuz i don't like to be called a bully. But i don't think It's an anger management issue cuz anger management will tell you to let out of your anger the moment you're angry. That's what i did.
• United States
27 May 10
You should try and relax and not let it bother you so much. Sticks and stone may break my bones but words will never hurt me.
• Philippines
27 May 10
I know that. I'm a pro at relaxing but when i'm angry i can't do it.
• Philippines
28 May 10
i think your brave enough to slap him. personally, i don't really like violence and as much as possible i want to have a peace conversation with my offender. if for instance that happened to me, i'll let him be, unscathed, despite all the terrible things he says. after sometime, i would approach him and ask him why he said such things, and if still he continue to say nonsense, i would reply with something that would slap him really in the face without me taking actions. i'll tell him, "you know what, it's ok, i understand, i believe that when a can is empty it's noisy and if it's full, it's quiet. and your that empty can." i think that will do it, it's enough to give him shame, besides it's more offensive when you fight him calmly with wise words rather than slap him in the face. because if you do such, you have just fallen in his belief that you're such as he said. :)
• Philippines
28 May 10
I don't think so. When i slapped him i believe i've sent my message and he learned the lesson. For these kinds of people i believe that's the only way for them to learn it. They won't listen to words, i figured they'd listen to my hand. Lol.