How to know is it attraction or real love??

It takes time and getting to know the person. The first 6 months you are in a relationship, the person is on their best "courtship" behavior. After that, their real self starts showing through a lot more. If you take time and find out about their beliefs and personality traits and so on, you will also have time to find out if it's love or just an attraction, and also if you are compatible.

i believe that love starts from attraction. love grows. that's why i do not believe that we may "fall" in love. fall implies an accident. and love is never an accident; it should be built on a solid rock to be able to pass the earthquakes and hurricanes that life brings. someone may be attracted to you because you have a good work but not everyone can love you because of your being inefficient. love transcends physical appearance, emotional immaturity, culture differences. love is not finding an ideal person, it is not having expectations to the person and ending up disappointed if your expectation was not met by the person. as the saying goes, "love has reasons that reasons don't know." one thing for sure, it cannot be found in just one night or day; it grows.

What you are talking about is called "Infatuation". Infatuation is not love, but rather self-centered desire for another person. How to know if it is infatuation? 1. Speed. Love grows over time, as you learn more and more about the other person, which creates love of who that person is. Infatuation is fast, almost instant. Where you are suddenly deeply wanting that other person, even if you don't know them well. Fast = Infatuation = bad. 2. Consuming Thinking. You can't keep her out of your mind. They are talking about you all the time, from work, from home, from the shops, everywhere. Love doesn't need be consuming. Husbands can go to work, and focus on the job. They are not totally consumed by the one they love. Consuming thinking = Infatuation. 3. Idealization. Idealization means that you are thinking the other person is perfect, is wonderful, is beyond great. A loving person, knows the other is not perfect, but loves them in spite of their flaws and quirks. An infatuated person, thinks the other is perfect, and has no flaws, and is above all others in their perfections. THere are a few others things too, but that's a basic over-view. If that other person is consumed by you, calling you all the time, if they fell in love in seconds even before they really knew you, and if they seem to think you are a perfect 'god-like' being... they are likely infatuated, and should be avoided.

If the love is real , it is an emotion and bond you can not escape. You will feel it in your heart and soul. It will be the air that you breathe. An attraction will lose its appeal and fade away. Attractions are quick and shallow. You will know that love is real and not a passing fancy.

I think we have to listen to our heart because it is never wrong whenever you caught by some problem heart can send message what is right & wrong.So love or attraction is chosen by heart itself.I know It will take some time but I am sure that it can give the right decision for life.

In this day true fall head over heals in love just from attraction is hard yo find. Anyone that says you have to trust your heart does not realize that its 2010. You have to let your feelings and emotions take you in a direction, but your mind and intelligence has to guide you on the path. Just because you are infatuated with someone does not mean you will love them three weeks from now. All I'm saying is be careful in choices when intense feeling play a part. If you can not read the signals properly, the other person may be playing or they may not understand what you want. Without being to crude or insensitive just ask and be up-front. It can never hurt to be honest before engaging in a relationship of any kind.

For me if you staring our boyfriend for one hour then you not feel boring and tiring then it is love if not then it's only attraction you feel with him.

When a girl say she loves someone it's likely to be a broken promise but if she says she let goes I think it is always a fulfilled one. Lot of proof is the divorce that happen and the many break ups whereby the girl almost always are the one who first bring upon to the guy that it is all over. Therefore it can be said that when it comes to breaking up girls do not lie. If she said she will not return she keeps that promise. Nothing so far I known that went back to a finished relationship. Evidence is the deafening recurrence of the word "EX". In the end no one really knows.

attraction can be love .love without attraction ,it will be relatives .husband and wife .they stick together as a habit,or for responsible .