Do you have anything to regret looking back at your past life?
By vijayanths
@vijayanths (7877)
India
13 responses
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
27 May 10
I don't think we would be human if we didn't have something to regret in our past. None of us are perfect. There are moments of my past that i would gladly erase. If the moments could be relived again and changed, how different life could be. Regrets in the past are lessons in life. Life goes on. Some moments will be ones to cherish. Others will leave us filled with regret. it's what we do with that feeling that will make the difference in our lives.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
27 May 10
Hi, sender you are absolutely right. You are so open and frank. I do agree that every one must have something to regret about past life. They are good lessons to us as you rightly pointed out.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
27 May 10
hello dear bhai,
I can't see you what happened?
Why did you delete your photo my dear brother.
Well,at your topic.
My life is not a perfect one,from childhood,teenage,adulthood and married life.
But,i can say,i don't regret anything from the past.
my married is not a successful one,but,i can tell myself i fight for it.
I did married the man i love,not my parents choice or anybody's choice.
It just happened that,love is not enough to bind us together and my best wasn't good enough to make him stay.
At least i can tell anyone/everyone that,love really comes my way
Loving and losing is nothing to regret for,rather than losing someone we love without trying or fighting for it.
I won't regret anything from my past,and i won't changed anything from the past either.
Uhmnn,why you seems so unhappy these days my dear?
I hope to hear more from you.
Take care always and cheer up
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 May 10
I can't find much time to go online these days. I missed you dear sister. I know you are a strong lady and you are a real fighter. You know very well how to lead this beautiful life given by God.
I will take care dear sister and thanks for the concern.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 May 10
Thanks again,and glad to see you dear bhai.
It's life that takes us as far from here.
And life doesn't end with one bad event,but life has to move on.
There is always life after each storm,more brighter and joyful one.
Keep smiling dear
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
27 May 10
I am regret that I don't make a good friendship with everyone in high school.
I am too shy. I hope I can change my character too now if not I will regret for the rest of my life.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
27 May 10
Hi, wong that is really something to regret. I love making friends. I have lots of friends, only thing is I don't find time to spend with them these days.
@zhar_888 (69)
• Philippines
27 May 10
hi wong! i'm sorry to hear about you don't have that many friends. i understand that your shy, try to shake it off! if your having a hard time to make friends because your shy, i advise you to start making friends now. remember, no man is an island. just put some smile in your face everyday. smile to the people you pass by. saying 'hi' or 'hello' would a great start. wish you luck! :-) remember to smile!
@midnightbliss (541)
• Philippines
27 May 10
I did several decisions that did not end up the way i wanted to but i did not regret whatever decisions i have made because at that time its what i think the best decision to make. its also one way of learning and caution for us to think thoroughly before making any decisions.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 May 10
Yes, midnightbliss, it is quite common that we commit mistakes in life. We need not repent on them but we cal learn from those mistakes and correct them in future.
@cheatedaphrodite (810)
• Philippines
27 May 10
I regret choosing the man I have now. A liar, cheater, selfish and a lazy one. I don't want to waste the rest of my time thinking of something that will do him good while he only thinks of himself. It's very stressful having him and I'm already fed up.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 May 10
I think you must take a firm decision now. Life is short and you can't afford to waste it. Think well and take the right decision that will make you happy. Learning from our past mistakes and correct them in future will bring success and happiness.Good luck.
@cheatedaphrodite (810)
• Philippines
30 May 10
I'm thinking of it now and I guess it will be very soon. I am thinking of someone better I guess. Thanks!
@zhar_888 (69)
• Philippines
27 May 10
hi vijayyanths! this is a nice topic. :-)
i had made several wrong decisions in my past life or even up to now.silly me. but the one that i really regret the most was the time i spent all the money that my dad gave me after he retired from work. it was big money, and i spent it for nothing. i mean, i spent it without thinking what would happen if all the money will gone? i was totally freak at that time. and now, i'm here in mylot trying to post as many comments as i can just to earn cents. whereas, if i use wisely the money that was given to me,like putting and running a business or finishing my studies. i might be happy today somehow.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
27 May 10
hi, zhar, Glad yoi liked this discussion. We all have something to regret in life. We must learn from those experiences, that is what I feel about this.
We spend lavishly at one point of time and regret for it later, this is also common in every body's life.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
27 May 10
Hi vijayanths, I have been thinking about this and I feel that there is nothing that I regret in my life. Certainly there were times when I didn't feel happy about things, but looking back at the big picture I can see that it was for the best. Like everyone I made mistakes but I believe that I learned from them, and isn't that what life is all about? At age seventy I am healthy and content, there is no need for regrets. Blessings.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 May 10
Pose, I am so happy to hear that from you. May you are one among a few who are blessed with a content life. Wish you to continue this trend for ever..
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
27 May 10
vijayanths I am sure we all have a few regrets. I regret I did not
really opt for the education I really wanted verus what I took, I wanted library science but could not get it at the U I was accepted at so took a Bachelor of Arts degree English d amn, I wanted to be a certified research librarian and instead just worked as a page in the library but
I had a great crew to work with and had a long and happy time working
as a page but always regretted not having that degree in Library science instead.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
27 May 10
Yes, hatley many have such regrets in life. I wanted to do master's degree in management but due to financial constraints I could not go for M.B.A., after my graduation in engineering.
I wanted to start an industry but that was also not possible till now.All for the best, let me compromise that way...lol.
@KarissaAngel (362)
• United States
27 May 10
Honestly we probably all have regrets when we think back and wonder why we make that decision or that. But as I do that, I look at where I am now and take the past as a learning tool. I have made some wrong decisions but in the end I turned out just fine. So my answer really is 'no'.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 May 10
very true KarissaAngel, I think you are absolutely right. I have made a few wrong decisions in my life that I do regret. I have learned from those mistakes and hence I consider them as my stepping stones in life.
@svaishali1985 (135)
• India
27 May 10
Actually i loss both things and also got same things but in new manner. I have completed my diploma and I want to complete my degree. but my parents are living in village so I can't completed my degree but at the time of marriage my father-in-low says that they give me permission to complete B.E. So i agree for marriage but after marriage also they have not giving me permission for completing my education. but then also i am happy in my life.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 May 10
Hi, Vaishali,That is the way you should live your life. Even when you don't get what you want you remain content with what you get, that is truly fantastic. Keep it up.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
27 May 10
I regret stopping on my schooling. I stopped for 6 months to work on a full time job. If i didn't stop then i should've been finished now.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
27 May 10
Yes it is a big regret but that is not the end of life. You can achieve with out that too. Just keep on trying hard.
@adeena2000 (845)
• Philippines
27 May 10
Regrets is a natural feeling especially if you are reminiscing the negative past of your life. There are things in the past that beyond our control and there are things that was our control in terms of decision making.
If I have to regret my past maybe I just make a sigh of and tell myself " If only ... I could have done this and I could have done that."
What matters now, the past is buried in forgetfulness and start a new beginning and learn from the past and make a better future.
It's not yet too late.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
27 May 10
hi adeena you are absolutely right. There is no use in brooding over past but w ecan learn from our mistakes.Yes, it is not too late and we always can make up things if we sincerely put our efforts.
@Cherish2004 (183)
• United States
27 May 10
Only thing regrets looking back in my life is not working as hard in school because I would be in a better position in life and college. Even those I would like life and at same time I should work harder in the past. But family is very abusive so it was kind of hard to do so. They still are now when started college again and step mother is embrassent of me everyday of my life. And blames for me because of it. I still can't believe that she live through her child life and get one of her own. Hope that enjoy the ride in her life when it ends because it be horrorable when she has to get of when it ends.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
27 May 10
hi, cherish it is unfortunate that you missed your marks in your school life but that is not the end of life. Academic career has little impact on your development. Just forget the past failures and look at the future with confidence, you are born to win..