divorce

yeah its is really hard on the child because first..the child doesn't know what to do to fix the trouble he don't understand yet!. child is always scared with loud voice the child would surely have nervous breakdown.seeing trouble around him..if you are talking about a child between 1-6 years old old. above that maybe he can run outside or go to grandma or hide somewhere inside the house! But to make my opinion short..It is extremely hard on the child..!this can affect their mind, behavior, emotions and their perceptions in life!

Yes it is very hard on a child. It is also very hard on a child if the parents remain together "for the sake of the child". You just weigh your thoughts and beliefs in which evil will result in a better atmosphere for the child. I chose to divorce though I knew it would hurt my children because I felt that remaining together would be more painful and make the pain last longer. I felt that the children would know the parents were not together out of love. I wanted my children to grow up believing in love and thus wanted them to have a chance to grow up in homes where the parents could concentrate on that fact, though the parents weren't together.

I guess it depends, me and my ex were at each others throats constantly, shouting fighting etc it was awful for us let alone our children. so we seperated best thing we could ever have done for our children, they are more settled and are not subjected to seeing fighting every day. OK its hard them not having their daddy here every day but tbh i really think its only as easy for them as you make it, me and my ex get on much better now and are on the same page regarding the children and he sees them reguarly and they stay over as much as possible, they are happy because they see us both and have two HAPPY parents! My friend split with her ex and well a year on the kids are still suffering she refused to let him see their children for the first 3months, she says awful things about him to their children that no small child should hear and they are suffering. If you put the children first it can be much beneficial to them I was told "it is better for children to come from a broken home, than to live in one" and she was right :)

Growing up I had alot of friends who came from a divorced family. It was very hard on them being at their moms house during the week and their dads house on weekends. I can see it first hand with my stepson now. My husband and his mother were never married just together for a few months. When he was 2 he was given to my husband by the courts. His mother only took him when it felt appropiate which was maybe 2 days a month! He is now 7 and we live 4 hours away from his biological mom and it's getting easier on him, in my opinion. She doesnt even make an effort to call him or anything. I would have to say that yes, it is extreamly hard on a child of any age. Some children just learn to cope with it as they get older. Unfortanally my stepson doesnt get the love and support from his mom like he does from my husband and myself.

Divorce can be a difficult and traumatizing time in a child's life. Their world is suddenly turned upside down. They are forced to choose sides. They maay have to move from their homes and live with just one of their parents. Choices are tsken away. Bitterness and resentment can take the place of healthier emotions. Divorce is not easy for anyone to cope with.Divorce in a child's eyes can be a shattered world. There are so many changes to consider. Some children even feel guilty for the divorce. They want to know what they did wrong.

Absolutely right divorce is hard on child if the parents do not get along because he/she will have a trauma when they see parents arguing and not understanding each other. and maybe that will be the cause when he/she in the right age hell do that because the children suffer so much when they see face to face parents are not understanding to each other.

It is very hard on the child. They are a part of both of them. So naturally they will feel torn. Most of the degree will depend on when they separated. If the child really didn't know the parents together, then it wont be as bad. However if the child was used to doing things as a family and living under the same roof, then yes it will be a very tough thing for the child to get used to.

For a child it is a bliss to be in togetherness.Its a shattered world they see in divorce.But it is dependent on cultural practices too.

Its hard ofcourse, but its recoverable too. I got to understand ur feelings from the responses you have been posting. I am concerned. See getting separated mutually with out any court scenes is better. the child has to be explained about the situation by both the parents. He won't be able to understand why his parents are separating but u should not lose temper. its a big stress for the kid. Generally all kids would want their mamma to be with them. They generally don't miss their father as much. If u don't want to disclose your separation. You can tell papa is going on a long tour or u have got a promotion and transfer etc... slowly the child will get used to living with u . he can stay with his father for sometime. u can take the excuse of no leave and lots of work in office etc. This is the case if u r working. If u aren't then u can tell that u r shifting for his school. Its really very difficult to handle kids during divorce. Parents need lot of patience. As they grow older u can explain about the situation. they will understand.