communicate with your ex?

for me it is not healthy if you still communicate with your ex lover because even if you know that you have moved on but when you remember all the memories with him together, you will feel the pain again.you can still make friends with him but don't you think it's kinda uncomfortable when you know that you have kissed, hugged and hold hands a lot of times before and now that you're friends, you cannot do that just like the old times. my question is have you moved on? are you sure that the main reason of communicating with him is for the sake of friendship or you still hope that you can still have a shot together? try to be with your self first so you will know what is really in it then when you are ready, then face all the challenges that comes with your own decision. it doesn't matter what the other people would say as long as you stay true to your self. be responsible and love your self first so that when you are totally complete then you can say you can maybe forget him or find another one true love that is of course not taken by others and you can say yours. have a nice day and Healthy Loving !!! ;)

Are you with someone else? Are they with someone else? If either answer is yes, then I would not communicate with them. You and they, should be dedicated to the one you are married too. Opening a conversation with someone who used to be a lover, will yield a temptation that could destroy your relationship with who your with now, or their relationship with who their with now. If you were young girl who found a great man to be your husband, and then found out he was talking with his EX girl friend, wouldn't that bother you? It would bother me. Bad plan.

having communication with ex is not an bad idea provided each others current life situation is not disturbed and adversely affected. why not to have communication with ex after all so many years of good relations were spent.

how long had you been in relationship with him?why did you break up?is he in the same city with you?are you both with someone else?if not, why don`t you try to be together with him?

It really depends on how you broke up with him and whether or not he still wants to communicate with you. If you just grew apart or something, you should definitely contact him because maybe he misses you too just as much as you miss him. If you broke up because of a conflict that you're not over yet, you shouldn't, because some people can never forget the past. Maybe you caused the conflict- then now is the time to communicate for forgiveness. If it was him, and you're over it, go for it and communicate with him again. It's never too late to get together with old friends, so just do what ever you think is right.

yeah... i would want to communicate with him after a long time.. its one of the things that will let you know that you have totally moved on... :)

It is not bad to have back communication back with the Ex , as we/ or the ex would ahve got hurt on breakup. yes we both would have remembered but ego clashes stops it from calling them back or discussing back

I don't have any ex boyfriends that I would want to communicate with, and I definitely don't want to communicate with my ex husband. He was a liar and a cheater and when he got remarried for the third time he decided to sign rights away to the kids we had together so he didn't have to pay for them any more. My kids have the choice to invite them to their major events, but they usually don't. There is nothing about my ex I really miss, so I definitely don't want to have communications with him.

hi there. if there are still unresolved issues, i guess it is alright to still communicate with your ex. if you know that your ex is happy with his/her new life, will your reappearance in his/her life help? it is ok to be friends with your ex, however, how will both your partners feel if you communicate with each other? if it's going to be a cause of a lot of discussions, i think it would be better not to communicate with your ex anymore. just let the urge to communicate with him/her die. after all what's more important is the relationship you have with your current than your past.

I have never think of communicating with my ex-boyfriend. I think I am still hurt with what causes our break up. Although I try to tell myself I already forgave him but it is very difficult to forget things that easily. I know that deep inside me I am still not forgiving him fully because I am harbouring this bad feelings. I can say that I still do not have the enough courage to see him or talk with him. I prefer to avoid him. I was the one who got a boyfriend first and he do have a girlfriend at the present. However, I still feel hurt. Maybe because I still have a love for him but we are not really meant to be. As of now, I do my best to forgive and forget at the same time. I know that time will come that I can look to him directly and speak with him with no resentments at all. However, I do not think that this is the proper time to talk with him. Maybe after a few more years I can communicate again with him. I believe that time can heal the wounds and I am looking forward to that.

For me Not I want to be his friend because we are friend already but the times when I intend to do to communicate i feel useless.

i am not sure how to answer this. part of me wants to say that it is alright to communicate with your ex, but part of me thinks there is no need. in my case, my exes are my 'friends" in facebook but i hardly communicate with them. once in a while they ask me a question and vice versa but it's not up to that point when i can consider them as friends. in short, they're not part of my life anymore. maybe keeping in touch is ok... but wanting them to be part of my life again? maybe not anymore. i have friends who keep me company anyway so i guess though one will say you can never have too many friends, maybe this is not applicable in this case. cheers and happy myLotting!

I didn"t have that luck, to finde my ex on social network. So, communicate with him, whay not?

Oh yesss! We are good friends now. There's nothing wrong with that, I mean he has been a part of my life and he will always be a part of it. He talks about his current girlfriend and all of that. But I don't feel bad about it. It actually made me moved on easily, I know it's weird, but knowing that there's no chance for the both of you in going back to each other's arms again made me accept that fact that he's not anymore mine. :)

How long had you been with him and why did you break up?you still keep in touch with him?are you both with someone else right now?if not, maybe you can try to be back together again with him

I am friends with a few of my ex's and we chat from time to time. Sure right after the break ups there's this period of time where it's best not to talk to each other because it makes the break up easier if you just stop talking. But when time has passed and you've both moved on, why not still be able to chat? My exes know I'm seeing someone and that I'm very happy. They've also moved on so I think it's safe to talk to them. However if one of them told me that he has feelings for me again, I might back off and not talk to them as much. It's a messy situation I don't want part of.

This is a difficult one I think, because their may be more people involved than just you and your ex, you could both have new partners who may not be thrilled with your friendship. I feel that it's up to you and him though. If you're really keen to talk to him again then go for it, add him, but don't be too disappointed if you get no reply. He could maybe have a girlfriend who doesn't want him to be friends with his ex. Best of Luck

I do want that, but my husband will kill me if I did it. He's a jealous and a possesive type of person.