Can you make a dad out of Any man?/Are good mothers made?

Everybody can be a good parent, If a person has love he/she could be a good parent, his love to his/her child will drive her/him to be a good parent. A good parent must also be a good husband or wife. Everything must be founded with love, first love to God.

Some people see the baby, and even if they weren't inclined to parenthood before that, they fall in love and learn how to be good parents. Others knew all along that they would be good parents. And then some have no inclination to be good parents, don't make an effort, don't care to make an effort, shouldn't be parents. The smart ones know this and don't have children. duh. :D

Hi Sarah... I would say when one becomes a parent or when one has a baby; one feels the desire to be a good parent.. It comes from inside... I have seen people saying 'no kids', but when they got one, they were so fondly attached to the kid... A new born has that subtle power to generate love and passion in human mind... We can't make a dad or mom out of someone... It is done only by the innocent, delicate and lovely new-born... That is how I feel and I have seen!!!! Have a Happy Week End!

Every man, when you are not yet ready to father a baby, they for sure will tell you that they have no desire to be a father, especially if you don't have enough patience in you. But time will come when you got a wife and begin to build your family, you will then await for the coming of your little one, no matter if he or a she came out. And for all you know, you will be very excited as the days come nearer.

I think that if the individual has any sense of humanity a new depending life will put that individual in a position that forces to embrace life and put it into different perspectives, specially cause the law also requires to afford responsibilities. Will the individual be a good father automatically? NO I doubt it, specially if responsibility is a questionable matter. A good father is a good father if such man faces up responsibility and with love from even before conception.

I think being a good parent is borne out of one's upbringing. If you turned out OK, and well adjusted, then I think you've been reared well. Now, the big question is how to translate it to your own kids. Of course when my first son was born, I decided right there and then that I wanted to be the best father there was. As time passed, I've lowered my expectations, and just want to be a good father. So, to answer your discussion, I don't think so. To become a good dad, or just even a regular dad, takes a process. And if one is not willing to go through all the sacrifices or parenthood, one just ends up 'a donor'.

Hi sarah! I think there is no such thing as making a dad out of a man. Being father of kids, comes only through experience. Brining up kids is the most difficult job in this world and one learns it step by step, as his kids grow up. Mothers also learn slowly, how to handle and bring up a child.

Parenting is a skill, that can be LEARNED by anyone with the DESIRE to learn. Anyone can be a good parent, if they take the time to learn about it. Now, if you don't like the way you were raised that would be a good idea of how NOT to raise a child, even if it is the only thing you know. When you are a parent you have to think "How does what I do affect my child?" a lot. Like with everything you do. I like what the Lefkoe's teach at http://www.effectiveparenting.com. It is not for everyone of course, and it is a good guideline in my opinion. Parenting is not something we inherently know, it is something we learn, sadly, mostly from how we are raised, I say sadly because of the way so many people are raised in violent, and uncaring homes. As for being a good parent, I would be surprised that the guy cares if he is on a show like that. Just doing it to be on TV. When the child is planned, that is the best because then you know before you even start that both parties want to be a good parent, if the pregnancy is not planned, then you have a hard time getting most guys to stick around and support let alone want to be a good parent. Cheers.

Parenting is a skill, that can be LEARNED by anyone with the DESIRE to learn. Anyone can be a good parent, if they take the time to learn about it. Now, if you don't like the way you were raised that would be a good idea of how NOT to raise a child, even if it is the only thing you know. When you are a parent you have to think "How does what I do affect my child?" a lot. Like with everything you do. I like what the Lefkoe's teach at http://www.improveyourparenting.com. It is not for everyone of course, and it is a good guideline in my opinion. Parenting is not something we inherently know, it is something we learn, sadly, mostly from how we are raised, I say sadly because of the way so many people are raised in violent, and uncaring homes. As for being a good parent, I would be surprised that the guy cares if he is on a show like that. Just doing it to be on TV. When the child is planned, that is the best because then you know before you even start that both parties want to be a good parent, if the pregnancy is not planned, then you have a hard time getting most guys to stick around and support let alone want to be a good parent. Cheers.

I have said this many times on mylot. My son in law was very reluctant to become a father when my daughter got pregnant. To the point he even tried forcing her to have an abortion. Went as far as to make the appt, take her there without her consent and then asked the nurses if she had it done. They couldn't tell him. And she admitted to it that she did because she was frightened, when in reality she had not. And a few months later that was very noticeable. Again he got mad at her. Their relationship has been through a lot and they are not very close. In fact, as we speak, they are going through another rough patch. But the moment that baby came into the world my son in law was a changed man when it came to his son. He would protect and love that baby no matter what. I dont't know what's going to happen between him and my daughter but I know he will love his son for life.

A man has to want to be a father, because any man can donate sperm to make a baby. A true father is a man that love, nurtures, disciplines, and care about the well being of a child. Real men that produce babies, do it for the right reason. They want to be a father not just 'that guy'.

Just like how babies start as tiny creatures who depend on their parents to teach them everything, parents "grow", too. They start from not knowing anything, and as their children grow up, they learn lessons.