arrange marriage Vs Love marriage
By arkafle
@arkafle (93)
United States
May 29, 2010 4:40am CST
what do u guys think of getting arrange marriage?? do u think itz a gud idea?? would u ever get arranged marriage?? y do people still get arrange marriage??
i have noticed that arrange marriage lasts longer then love marriage... y is that??
wen u arrange marriage, u marring a guy/girl without knowing them but when u get loved marriage u marrying a guy/girl after knowing everything about them?? so what is better?? arrange marriage or love marriage?? and why?????
2 responses
@shibham (16977)
• India
17 Nov 10
Hi...
Both of them have their own advantages and disadvantages. Let me say... in case of love marriage you are well known about your partner from past and it definitely help you to prolongate the relationship. But problem is that there are chances to argue as they better know each other.
Have a nice day.
@deriellevc73 (982)
• Philippines
29 May 10
i think arranged marriages happened under a culture which has been practicing such, for financial, power or political reasons. although you have noticed that arranged marriages last longer than love marriages, maybe you have not really literally researched the facts. anyway, i am not one to contest such since i don't know the real facts myself.
however, i would like to point out that arranged marriages may have last longer than love marriages because for one, they were ARRANGED. They went into a marriage not expecting anything except that they dutifully do as what is expected of them. They were not expected to love or understand each other, but to live with each other in harmony and do the duties as expected from them. No, pressure to love and understand each other..which is often the reason for arguments and fights between couples. it must also be noted that most of the men in arranged marriages have other women in their lives, but they are discreet so as not to destroy the agreement for which their families have bound them in marriage for a reason. Since the parents or family make these arrangement, when one separate from an arranged marriage, one will not only be up against one's partners' family, but one's own family as will. so, it is so much a burden for anyone.
on the other hand, love marriages often ends in separation because after living with the man or woman they fell in love with, they found out that over time, such person has changed or is not really what they perceived to be..some also grew apart and since they bound themselves for marriage because of love, when love is lost, they end in divorce, annulment or separation. when the couple separates, they will only be up against each other, and the children of course.