Is it worth it to give second chances?

I think he is using you. nad don't let that happen. Its like an abusive relationship. he would sweet talk you when he is alone and the time till he is alone, the moment he finds someone of his interest he would flee. Get your dignity back and I am sure you will have someone who is worth of your love and affection! Smiles, Bodhi

a second chance would be reasonable. Some people really do change. But a 3rd time? that would be too much.

Its not regarding the chances, IMO , whatever number of chances u give, the person should change and accept the mistakes and correct them. Giving a second chance is good, If the person repeats then you no more chances.

IM sorry to hear that. I think you need to move on without him, you know you deserve better. What happens if the other girl loves him too? He wont get back to you right? To him, you are just a choice. Be tough and move on, you dont need a guy like that.

In my oppinion giving a second chance should be on a person-to-person, situation-to-situation basis alone. Just because one person isn't worth it doesn't mean everyone and everything falls under the same catagory. You need to trust in yourself, and decide what's best for you. Take each situation as it comes at you and consider everything before taking that leap. Because until something happens you don't know when you'll be faced with that decision.

I think you should move on to somebody who loves you like you love them. It depends on how much you love him. you are not married, so you do not HAVE to try if you don't want to. but if it gets to that point, then you are obligated to try to work it out no matter what. think of it as a warning sign.

Oh, in sor to hear about your heart break. I guess you have given him a chance not because you see that if has changed,but you have given him the chance for yourself. Not all people change, and it takes a lot more than sorry or meaningless words before i give another chance. But that is me. I think if just blew it, and next time if comes back, be careful not to trust him again.

It seems to me that he already got his second chance and blew it! In my opinion you are worth too much to be treated this way. Personally I would not have taken him back in the first place because the pain of being left for another would have been too much for me and I would have worried that he was going to do it again. You deserve someone who will love you with every fibre of his being and this jerk does not deserve you. I would show him the door and tell him not to let it hit him on the way out! Hang in there, you will find someone much better, you’ll see...

Well when both of your thoughts are different and feel if you both need no love for eachother, then your choice is right. A marriage is bond of love and need of each other and respecting each other choices. If not, then a small gap and freedom can help grow without hurting each others feelings.

I believe that giving second chances are okay because nobody is perfect, one thing or another one person commits a sin. But it depends on the sin committed, if its cheating then I dont give second chances because trust has already been broken, I wouldn't know if he will do it again. And I know most likely he will do it again.

If you give second chances, then there would be a 3rd, 4th and so on.. It should be their only chance..

ohh joy how did he dare to do that? im so sorry for what happened :( he was so stupid. you accepted him even he loved other girl how could he even write in his facebook he misses someone? you know sweety you should had say ok you wanted her right? so go to her. forget about me bcs i dont want you anymore. sweety that guy is stupid so please be away from him. he should had been happy that you accepted him even he wanted other girl. dont think that all guys are same and that you must not give second chances anymore. we must always give a second chance bcs maybe the other guy will be worth it but dont let him do what this guy did. im sorry for what happened :( but dont lose trust on guys bcs of one that was stupid. you will find a sweet one bcs you deserve it^^

Second chances are good in different situations. I think before you give a second chance you have to think about it first. Assess the situation you are in. Ponder on the pros and cons. In your case, ask yourself would it be good if you give a second chance? would he change even? If it's a habit then second chances are not your option. It's hard to move on especially if you love the person but sometimes you just have to let go and think about yourself too.

I can give a second chance to some extent not always.It all depend on how i was hurt and by whom! Mean while the trust is somehow lost not the same and this can influence in a way my feelings and my relation with the person involved. On another side, one thing is beyond repair for me and do no diverse my time, my second chance or even forgiveness, the liars, i cant in any way tolerate the lies and the cheating. This is beyond my capacity to accept, i never forget a lie as small and "white" as it can be and wow can never forget cheating. My trust will completely vanish, my relation if i keep it will be based on nothing but futile things the concerned person will be always a center of doubts will never be able to give her/him any sort of trust.

Hello. I feel bad for what you've been into. I know this is very betraying and depressing having the love of your life turned his back on you. Honestly, I never found myself giving second chances. Probably because I've never experienced what you you just did. But if I were in your place, I think, even if I still love the guy, I wouldn't give him second chances anymore. We gain one's trust over the years but funny, we can ruin it in a moment. This is a reality that most people should always ponder on if they are entertaining the thoughts of seeing someone else if they're still in a relationship. There are times that you have to give yourself some respect and love. After all, the only people who can hurt you the most are the people you love the most. Set boundaries, set rules. Give yourself some self-respect.

A relationship is 50/50....only give him a second chance if he is willing to give you that other 50% if not im pretty sure there is some guy out their willing to. Because one guys trash is another guys treasure. My advice to you would be to keep your wall up!!

Hi I can feel the pain, but to err is human and to forgive is divine, you should give a second chance to him, if you are not diverted to another guy.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor

Anyone deserve a second chance so don't hesitate to give it. But third chance? Never. Second is enough. If he do something stupid again then dumped him. Don't waste your kindness to people who doesn't deserve it.