marrige life could be very hard sometimes..

Problems in marriages are always there, I was a troubled marriage. my wedding has a lot of problems starting from the ego and the third person, I am always trying to improve, although sometimes I want to give up. Until now my marriage is still awake, I must survive, our relationship is now beginning to improve, I really hope will continue well, and no serious problems. Anything as difficult as communication is essential.

One of the reasons why I don't want to get married is because I am afraid of commitments and I am afraid of not being able to do my role as a wife and as a mother, if ever I'll have kids. I am afraid that one day it'll be too late for me to realize that I made a wrong decision and keep regretting the decision I made for the rest of my life. I am not getting any younger, my friends are all married, and have kids, and I don't know what to say to my parents every time they ask me when I will get married. I'm very frustrated with the thoughts of juggling my time with my career and my family. I think I will have my family later on, but not today. No, not for now.

Hi there! So far, I can say that my marriage life is good. We are also like other ordinary couples, we encounter some problems but thank God that we are able to resolve them. Right now, its not that hard for me yet since we don't have kids yet, my only problem is being away from my parents that sometimes makes me really sad. In our case, to keep our relationship in good shape and keeps on growing, we see to it that we start and end our day with a prayer and we already learn to adjust with each other and accept & love each other with our strength & weaknesses. I wish that we stay this way and keep our relationship till the end of course with God's grace.

I'm not yet married but I'm living with my fiancee right now. We'll be married next year on our 7th year anniversary. We started living together last 2009 and I must say things are not that smooth sailing but for the most part we tend to maintain our relationship in a good way. Communication is the key. If you love a person and you know that this person loves you as well telling him/her what you feel inside should be a piece of cake. You should calmly discuss the things that you think are making your situation hard or difficult. I was a hard head before and still am but my partner always tells me that being in an angry or bad mood while were talking will only make matters worst instead of solving it. He's my ying and I'm the yang. The other things are respect, loyalty, trust and honesty. Without these things I don't think my own relationship will be better and it could even be worst. We also put God in the middle of our relationship. This doesn't apply to everyone but for us it does. If you can't talk to each other in a calm way might as well wait for the right time. Me and my partner have a lot to learn when we get married but I'm sure that we'll go through it. Hope you do too.

When love is boundless, any relationship will go longer. So just love without any expectations, then a husband and wife relation is most beautiful on earth.

Hi everyone!, I like what Jerusalemfolk said. That's right. Communication is very important in any relationship. Being transparent on what you feel and being able to speak up really helps. But ofcourse it all depends how you two will talk. Me and my husband were newly wed..last november.. but before that when we were still boyfriend and girlfriend we practiced communication so well. I must admit that he was really the one who initiate and always at his low tone. He was so calm in everything. We always talk when we got issues..big or small.. we didnt sleep unless its resolve, that's why i like "mad" song. Never go to bed mad at each other . Thats so true. I think, we should say what we feel to our husband, or bf..so they will understand us better. They know what to do or act. Don't be afraid to say.."i feel sometimes.." thats ok as long as you say it nicely. After you resolve things you will both feel good. Kiss and make up. and don't forget to smile. :)

When a mother brought up a son even when he grows the relationship may not be as good as it was during his childhood than it will not be in case of husband and wife, its simple 2 people with 2 different mindset its really difficult to get into one idea and implement things, people may say to communicate well or any things regarding relationship, but 2 people getting things around is really a pleasant thing to feel

Your words remind me of something funny. When the couples want to start a conversation in peace, but at the end it will become to be a serious argument and quarrel. I have to say that it is very true. We all have arguments sometimes. But the point is we need to calm down after that, to think about whether our spouse is reasonable or not. And try to give in sometimes. This is important. Even if it's not your fault, but if you can give in in such kind of situation. Your spouse will appreciate to you a lot. We don't have to be mad to each other for a long time because of stupid little things. I love China

I am not yet married and I find it boring to pursue it when both couple is not financially stable or in the other partner could not give his partner a comfortable life since most of the divorce could be traced because of financial problems,That is the things i dreaded to happen to me. Though, I dream of being married but if it would not come as long as I could feed myself and my family is with me that would be so good. In terms of communication that is very important a relationship is weak if the other partner refuse to cooperate and their is a need to share the feeling or the things that need to be talk and if those are absence I better of alone than finding a boring partner. It gonna be a waste of years and being married need to be frank so the other partner know your need and identify what is lacking to make the marriage life more happy.

Good day to you Humairaku, It is true that marriage life is a tough one. In this kind of life, you will need to give-up almost everything. You need to be submissive in every aspect and as they say, the woman is the one who balance the marriage relationship. For me, I keep the relationship going by having a harmonious communication. And on top of it is prayer. Since, a married life is not as easy as saying A-B-C, the prayer is the most powerful weapon to have in handling any relationship not to exclude a marriage relationship. Have a nice day and hope you will be successful in your married life.

The key to maintain our relationship is to tell him whatever you think or puzzled,and then resolve the question toghther.We used to quarrel a lot before our daughter'birth.The baby is a change to our relaionships,she brings langhter,surprise and the key of harmony.If it's hard to communicate with your husband,try to let your daughter to tell him(if her daddy loves her very much).If no way is feasible,then please love yourself and try to make an happy life for you and your daughter.Anyway,we are not birthed for others,but for ourselves.

Life can really be tough at times. I think the best way to remove the tension is for the two of you to set the mood first. Try to start the conversation in a very light mood, no pressure and no raising of voice. Marriage life is a journey. It is never just a happy period of life but a series of challenges as well. Include marriage on your prayers. I hope your daughter will not be affected on your trials now.

even in a relationship, it is never really that easy. how much more if you're married. but the key to that is patience i guess. and if it really doesnt work, might as well not push yourselves to your limits.

I think in any relationship it is important to take care of yourself first. If you cannot take care of yourself, you cannot take care of others. Also, try to let the other person win some fights. You are not perfect and your husband is not perfect either. You cannot always have it your way. Try to focus on the good things and let go of the imperfections. Think about the alternative...would you rather be single?

Hello, humairaku.:-) I can very well relate to this. Life is not a walk in the park as well as marriage is not a bed of roses. If you've read my posts you will have an idea how seemingly miserable my life is. But I guess as a mother I have to endure all these things and try to accept it. There's nothing we can do if our husbands seem stubborn pigs. But, love yourself a little more not forgetting you are still a mother and a wife. Your husband will come to his senses if he truly cares for you and his family. What I do? I focus my energy to my kids and the things that I want. Also, I started making plans that will be beneficial for myself and the family like getting a job on or off line. Get a life of your own. Goodluck.:-)