What is YOUR parenting style?
By stephbond89
@stephbond89 (359)
May 30, 2010 4:52am CST
I am expecting my first baby, and so worrying about how good or bad I am going to be at been a mother is constantly crossing my mind, currently I am watching Wife Swap USA and there are two huge extremes of mothers: the control freak who controls every aspect of her kids lives (her words were "we only accept 1st place" in relation to her kids sporting events), she does their hair before school (they're 10 and 11) and controls everything they do. The other mother doesn't control anythig of her kids lives, the house isn't clean (and I don't mean she isn't a clean freak the kids write on the walls etc), and their 2 and 8 year old can do what they want, no rules etc.
But where do you stand on your parenting style?
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@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
30 May 10
Anything in extreme is bad. I think I'd combine a little of the two extremes, like a parent should be in control of certain things in the kids' life, their food, study habits, etc. but should also give the kids some freedom to exercise their creativity and talents. There should be rules. This is very important for growing up kids. They have to know that certain things are not allowed. They have to be taught from the very start or they will end up beating you or stealing other people's property. I think of the two extremes, the first one is a lot better. I have known many parents who control their kids' activities. The kids grew up as very good people, very productive citizens of the community.
@stephbond89 (359)
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30 May 10
I wuld just worry with the first extreme that the kids wont know how to look after themselves in the future, if they are controlled by their parents in every way, told what to do but not why to do it that way, they might end up not knowing how to look after themselves in the real world without someone to show them what to do.
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
30 May 10
I've successfully raised 4 Good Boys. The important thing to remember; that Kids are people too, (just a bit smaller) but with every right of their parents. Would you like to be slapped, yelled at, or told not to repeat the words you just heard your Father say? When you think of your children as small adults it changes your whole perception of raising kids. When problems arise, sit down with them, give them the facts, and ask for their input. Usually as a family, you will arrive a solution that everyone can live with. This concept of family planning will last a lifetime, and bring joy and happiness to you and yours.
