would u be happy being with him?

if he tells me that he has a kid from the start, then i would accept it. as long as he doesn't have any feelings to his ex girlfriend. i would still be with him and enjoy every moment we are together.

i dont really get it, you mean he got kids with his ex gf and not from his wife since his not married yet or his married nor divorce and got kids with another girl. anyway, i should know first whats going on, like if his trying to be responsible enough for his kids or he just abandoned the girl, it happened to me, like im pregnant and the guy left me. but then, if i know that his responsible enough to provide what his kids needs and his financially capable to have his own family and if i know his kind enough and really love me then why not, theres no problem with it. his past is his past and what matter is the future and what the future we have.

Yes, depending on the circumstances, I would be quite happy to be with a partner who already has children. You have to realise that, in these circumstances, you are taking on a relationship with more than one person and it depends very much on whether you can cope with (or even want) that kind of relationship. If the person you think you love has 'baggage', you either have to be prepared to accept that or you don't. There is no halfway. You may, even, have to form a relationship with his ex and this could be the kind of relationship that he could never have with her. If you (or your BF or his ex) come to an agreement that the CHILD is actually more important than whatever relationship any of you have with each other, you will be on the right track.

My husband has children from 2 previous marriages. I love him and I love his kids too. He has one adult child who absolutely refuses to know me or the son he and I share. She is still angry that he divorced her mother and absolutely refuses to acknowledge his life today. I would help this child if she needed it but I find it hard to have any specific fondness for her. I feel that you accept a person wholly and completely if you truly love them. That is to include all their children they may have already. If you can not accept his child then you definitely should not persue the relationship. That would be entirely unfair to an innocent child. So if you have to ask this question of others please ask it of yourself. Do you accept that he has a child, and are you willing to accept this child as a permanent part of your life. If he gets visitation then you better give this child everything you would give to your own, love, affection, time, energy...unconditionally. It doesn't matter that your parents aren't ready to be grandparents. They just aren't ready for you to give birth yet is all, every person has the capacity to love a child if they will allow themselves to.

Hi, the question is, Do you really love him? if he has nothing such as Kid, you will marry him, right? If the answer Yes. Why dont you add another love to a little one. I guess his kid is not living with him. well, ppl have issue. sometime his past didn't work out but he works out with you... so what the deal. Kid doesn't know anything about your relationship. I have sister also in love with a guy has kid... but when I told her to go for it if she is really love him. your future is in your hand and his hand, not the kid. Put kid on a side and focus on your both relationship. when you married him and have kid, you will feel another love to them... I am married and I love being with children. and if I found out my husband used to have kid, then I still love him as always and also love the kid... but another thing that I want you to know... Father and Son/Daughter never separate and if u think just one issue break you a part then it is bad. well, it is your choice... true love is hard to find and when you get someone to focus on you, then you let him goes? wow, I dont know what to say. Make up your mind and put the Main point of being with him. Good luck

if you love him.. do he loves you too deeply? are they really not married? do you really know him...?? can you accept his child?and be a mother for that child? if you can answer this...you may know what the right thing to do...

Yes I would... my boyfriend has 4 kids by his ex-wife... and he has 1 child with me... if you love someone enough then their past should not matter to you