falling for your bestfriend

Hmmm.. you have a very interesting point there. But I don't really agree with the fact that one will actually fall for one's best friend. I'm not sure how others experience it but for me it sure was something new. I mean indeed at first it was just plain friend and spend time together to get through things with someone to support you. Then things just move up a notch and you won't even notice but the two of you just get so close that others will misunderstand it. But when you come to think of it some how there's a barrier between you guys to stop you guys from becoming a couple. Then you guys will just end up to be the best of friends but never more than that. Well at least that's what I went through and it sure was a new lesson for me.

As a female it is easier to talk to a guy friend. Girls all too often cause drama that is not needed especially when you need someone to confide in. It's always nice to have someone that understands the world of guys that girls just don't get to communicate with. A lot of timesyou do become attracted but always remember how important that friendship is.

when its friendship between a girl and a guy it is very easy and both parties are happy. if the same people fall for each other and are in a relationship. . .that's when the problem arises cause expectations from friendship is totally different from expectations from your partner. so it might be easy to fall for your best friend. what i am trying to say is that even that friend who might turn into your partner might give you problems. . . instead of finding a best friend(who's a girl) to confide in, you can talk things out with your girlfriend don't you think!?? communication is the key! :) you both can have a deal too too that one can share if he/she thinks someone is hot. so that way your relationship will be more like friends too ;)

i have two friends i consider my 'bestest' friend.. one is a guy and the other is a girl.. we have been friends with this girl since grade school and with this guy since high school... it seems that i confide more with my best boy bud when it comes to sensitive issues... he is usually the first to know on with some sensitive issues in my life.. i dont know, but with him im confident coz he doesnt react like my girl friend does.. he's calm, he listens and he lets me cry and gives me advices and vice versa... but it never came to the point of becoming more than that.. i cant imagine it.. lol

Opposites attract, at least that's what happened to me once. I fell with my close friend, and it's frustrating. We would see each other almost all the time, that was good, but at the same time I heard him talking about the girl that he liked. It was killing me. The worse part to fall for you bestfriend, is that you get confused, whether you want to tell him or not. Coz you don't want to jeopardize your relationship. In my case, I stayed being his bestfriend, without him knowing my feelings, I guess...

Oh I have a lot to say about this. Me and my boyfriend used to be best friends (we still are, but now we're also in love). We started out having crushes with each other, it didn't work, and we became really really good friends. We can confide to each other about everything under the sun, whether it's about money or friends or mature things.. Anything. I had another boyfriend while we were still best friends but after I broke up with that jerk, my best friend confessed that he loves me. We're still best friends, and I think being best friends too makes our relationship stronger. Initially, it's a bit difficult to confide to each other because of gender differences but a whole heap of trust and understanding is what a pair needs to be able to understand each other, whether they are in love or are just pure friends.

Well from my view its not so easy unless you have like her from a while back. That's the way I see things. You have to have real feelings for her. Because in my case i fall for my friend that i tell a lot of things, JUST that i have loved her from a long time and she did also just that we never told each other and we were both taken so i brave up and go to her and tell her my true feelings for her when because of problems we broke up with our lover and found out that she did also. I have went to another friend who did not like from long time but she still loves my behavior and looks and she did not want to be my lover because she said she was too much of my friend. So i think it really depends.

You're right. But that's why girl bestfriends doesn't last long, cuz they turn to girlfriends. Lol. When it comes to guys, it's not really a taboo to talk about love life, it's just awkward. Lol.

well i often see this kind of situations in movies well i guess it's not bad cause it's has it's advantages.you know the person well then you had your bonding moments you share many memories that's nice so it's not bad having a relationship with your best friend

I would have to agree with you, I tend to discuss those things with my girl friends and not my guy friends whom I have known from my childhood. Girls tend to give more response that you would expect for these things, things that you might want to hear. And yes, I have been in your dilemma before and well, mix in those conversation with her and some light flirting and bam, the attraction is there. What I would do is disappear for a while, it might be a bit cruel but its what I would have to do to keep that friendship alive and not ruin it with a relationship. What I mean by disappear is not giving her the cold shoulder but just try and limit the time I am spending with her. After all that tension has gone, then I would reconnect. Its not the best solution but it works. For me at least.

That is a pickle of a situation, basically when good friends take the friendship to a higher level, the friendship now gets tainted. If the relationship does not function then what do you think happens to the friendship. You can never get it back, no matter what anyone says the friendship never returns to the original state. Yes I have noticed that opposites make better friends, because it is then that we can be objective to one another. Women can have great girlfriends but there is always that competing line, whereas we are not always objective to one another because of spite. In the case where either one is avaialable, value the friendship and hold back on the intense feelings and talk to one another as you did when you were great friends. Explain to one another that the friendship would get ruined and is that what each party involved wants. However, if the feelings are stronger than the emotionals can avoid; then I'd have to say that a great relationship stems from a great friendship. I had a really great guy friend, and I use to kid to others saying he was made for a great girlfriend, he wanted to take things to a higher level and I did not see him that way. Ultimately, we are still friends but not the way I loved it was. His actions distanced our friendship now and I miss him dearly as since he proclaimed his intentions well it put a damper on how I see him now. I explained that to him during the friendhip, and thought he understood, but he forgot that part and proclaimed his feelings later. Good luck my friend, and please talk the girl and explain your feelings, perhaps they are mutual but the key is to remember that when you do it is ok that friendship is all it will remain at.

IMHO, friends or lover is decided at the early stages of relationship. i mean, if you want that certain someone to be your lover or friend, then do it. crossing over the lover-friend relationship later on will cause awkwardness and most likely ends the relationship (some are successful though)