how to survive a break-up

The last break up I experienced, I had someone else to rely on. But what actually made me move on was to think about what I want and how the relationship would go if I really do reconcile with my ex. I thought about what made us break up in the first place and if we do get back together, would the relationship still be the same or different? For the better or for the worse? Was the relationship good? Would I like it back? Most importantly, if I do want the relationship back, I ask is it because I think that I somewhat cannot live without the person? If that's the case, then my motives for getting back into the relationship is wrong. It wasn't based on "I still love this person, I want to give it another try", it was more like "I cannot deal with this pain, I need him back for comfort". I think the methods you used were good in some ways, but shutting yourself confined in the house for long periods of time, especially a week, was too much. Because if you're confined in your house with nothing to do, thoughts of your break up have every chance to get at you. Going out with reliable friends can be another good method. Doing things you love, taking care of yourself. This is just my personal opinion. Works for some I guess.

Sweetie, maybe it was meant to be that you had to go through that hurt full time. I just hope things will work out for you now. It is good to reconcile and try again. TATA.

My boyfriend of four years broke up with me suddenly one day, and for about half a year, I couldn't bring myself out of the house except to work. I worked like a maniac, spending like 12-14 hours everyday at work, during the weekends, I would mop around the house. I even shunned away from the people I love. Might sound stupid, but I really lost my faith my relationships. I had actually been planning to get married with him soon as well, and I guess my perception of marriage has changed since. I moved on eventually, and he wanted me back... but why would I want to go back to the man who hurt me so badly? I could not face that again. Till today, I am glad I never went back, and turned back to him.

Life's difficult.I don't recommend u to escape.Confront it,overcome it,Only by this way will u get a stronger heart.Best wishes to u.

the things u did will not help u to forget him...breaking up with my bf made me a strong person and u know what i did to move on? i kept saying its not my lose its yours.. and i never listen to sad love songs and i go out with my friends. now im happy for a new bf and still ready to survive if ever a break up comes in between.

If he's worth of your love , why not? Follow your happiness....

i guess time and acceptance is the key...but we all do know that every place, song or memory reminds us of them still its time to move on

Hi clang good day to you also. This happened to me also...I was so sad kept crying in my room for days. Then one of my friend told me not to look behind instead I must look forward. She told me to talk to other friends that is boyfriend even if I do not have any feeling for them. Then I accepted to befriend a guy who proposed me long ago and we talk often on the phone and have lunch together on weekends. Slowly I started to forget the heart breaker and now I live normally though I do not love the actual guy. We are just good friends. You must turn to someone even if he is your ex to get comfort.

Like most people say : Only when you experience losing something or someone, then you know how valuable or precious that thing or someone is. Otherwise you take him/her/it for granted. I guess it was a trial break up for you since you got back together with your ex. You should learn a lot of things during that time you're away from your ex. I hope now that you're back together again, learn from your past mistakes and don't repeat them. That way you'll stay together forever. It's not about finding the right partner, it's about being the right partner. You can't change others. The only person you can change is yourself. Make yourself the best partner you can be and hopefully you'll be appreciated.

Whoever gave you that advice doesn't know how to move on. Why do you have to listen to love songs to move on? That doesn't make any sense. Think of the time when you were still single. What were your daily routine? Get back at those routines until you have forgotten about your ex.

Just unwind and find new friends, in this way you will get interested to other people and things. Leave your usual routine where you could remember your ex boyfriend. Don't go to places where you shared moments.