i am adopted

I was adopted, and I actually have no desire to meet my biological parents. I figure they did what was best for me by giving me up. Plus, I figure that if they wanted to find me they would. I still leave in the same city where they put me up for addoption. I can understand needing to know "who" you are. I feel that I am who I am because of my adoptive parents, but would like to know my medical history, however, that would cost me $250 money that I don't have. If you really want to know your birth parents, start with your adoption agency they are a great resource most of the time.

I'm sorry to hear your situation at home. I guess I'd feel the same and do the same if I were adopted and living in a dysfunctional family. I wish you good luck with finding your biological family.

It could be that you went through a private adoption. That meant that your records were sealed. I am an adopted mother, who also gave up a baby for adoption before I was married and it was not my husband - since I got married around a decade later. If you were adopted in the 50s or 60, more then likely the records were sealed. You have to go to the state or province in which you were adopted and find out if the laws have changed since then. I might also warn you that when you were adopted, your birth mother probably felt shame in having a child out of wedlock and she may feel a little guilty about the decision she made. And it is usually best for the one adopted to start the search. My daughter still have not looked for me. I did see someone I thought was her, with the same left handedness and drawing ability but we did not talk because she might have not been my daughter but related to me. Oh I guess the social worker in your adopted families case did not do a thorough home examination. In Canada and especially in the province I was in, they really raked us over the coals to see if we were fit parents.

well knowing our past will make us go to the future. I think if you really have a need to know your biological parents then go for it.

're not the only one facing that dilema, i feel sorry for you, but u have to think in all the possibilities like, do you really wanna know where did u came from, after all, if u were adopted, that means that ur real family could not keep you, or, they didint want you.. humam being is curious as hell, but that is our decadence, dont kill your brain thinking bout that... whats meant to be is stonger than you think...

I'm sorry to hear about your family background :( I'm adopted myself but unlike you, I was brought up in a quiet family. My biological mom's living with us (she and my foster mom are siblings) though I haven't met my biological dad since birth. There are times when they (biological and foster mom) fight over simplest things and I ALWAYS end up being in the middle of everything. It's tough consoling and reasoning out with the both of them. As for your question, well, as I mentioned before, I was brought up in a family without any heavy conflict. I got at east with everything that finding my real dad is something I never really take into consideration. All I keep thinking is that I'm lucky that they are the ones who adopted me. Good luck on your search. Have you tried contacting people who knows of your biological parents or any relatives of your biological parents?